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dying at a young age (pg. 2)
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
As you grow older, you often feel the need to follow a specific career (whatever it might be) and settle down, as arsing around may have negative social consequences, and the odds of meeting someone you want to be with for an indeterminate amount of time increases. |
I was actually thinking about just this, reading anotherway's post in OrangestO's 'major move' thread. I was hesitant to respond because it's such a ing bummer wrench in the gears, but the fact of the matter is that the world is stacked against giving the tiniest about you. The rage to exist is maybe the only thing that matters to *anyone*, and even then it is the struggle of conviction, if you are so privileged as to be afforded expression.
It's bleak, and you can glad-hands around the issue all you like, but on some level it is absolutely true. And it completely ties into owning property, career prospects, social clout, etc. Picking up and starting all over again is an alluring prospect; there exists an escapism that will easily yearn to be quelled all our lives, and this is not an empty thing in the least, if tempered by the things that anchor us, that hold us accountable. Sometimes all that we want is to get away from it all, but maturing with this streak is just a matter of managing yourself such that you can be depended upon and resolved to shed absolutely everything that is inessential.
Bleh, that is abstract.
I guess what I am saying is that you need to ing get it -and get it early- because anyone who understands compound interest knows that most people are ed and will die broke. It's not fair at all, but I would fight tooth and nail to not start all over again when I am halfway to retirement. |
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| Jon_Snow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
In a sense I agree with you: Life in your twenties seems much more exciting because it tends to be a lot more open-ended - we have the impression as a group that there are many more doors open in front of us, and there's the extra energy to boot.
As you grow older, you often feel the need to follow a specific career (whatever it might be) and settle down, as arsing around may have negative social consequences, and the odds of meeting someone you want to be with for an indeterminate amount of time increases.
However, is any of this objectively true? Of course not, you can be the party Eric you've always wanted to be. However, more and more this is going to be your choice, and as other people make theirs, you'll have to go down that road pretty much by yourself (or with new people). So you don't really have to wither away, if that's how you see it. |
sounds like you're trapped and getting slowly getting squeezed to death by a boa constrictor :p |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| And I don't like snakes one bit! |
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| echosystm |
| I sacrificed a lot of my youth to get to where I am right now financially and I'm only just starting to lower the priority of my career, so I'd be ing spewing if someone told me I was going to die soon lol. |
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| Spacey Orange |
| dying is overrated. that is all. |
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| PivotTechno |
At 45, I'm a geezer compared to most of you, and while I feel that there is still a long and quite interesting road ahead of me, I also feel that I've made sufficient peace with myself that I wouldn't be gutted if my time for transition was sooner than later. I can only attribute this to a firm grasp of the inevitability of aging and dying (it certainly becomes a more solid reality, the older you get) and an ongoing practice of present-mindedness - there aren't any loose ends in this moment.
Let's see what this fellow has to say on the subject:
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| Silky Johnson |
Eh, I'd be OK with it. I feel like I've always been ready for death. I guess that sounds morbid, but it isn't anything to do with lack of enjoyment of life. I just accept that it's part of the journey I guess. Prob has to do with experiencing death and loss at a young age.
Now would I fight if I had cancer or some ? Of course. But I'd be ready to throw in the towel if it was obvious my time was up. |
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| Serial Killer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
And as my friends get older and settle down, i slowly watch the innocence and fun drain from their faces, rushing home after hockey because their wives will be upset if they're not home when they said they would be |
i have those friends as well. and their faces really do look drained.
the ones that do rush home to their wives so they won't be upset, i silently laugh at them.
I mean is it the ???? or is it fear??? of what ?????
that's the kind of thing making marriage and parenthood look very unattractive.
But there are exception.. very rare..i'm hoping to find that exception and not settle for less. i think that's the thing that will keep you looking towards the next day. |
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| PivotTechno |
| quote: | Originally posted by Serial Killer
But there are exception.. very rare..i'm hoping to find that exception and not settle for less. i think that's the thing that will keep you looking towards the next day. |
Then you'll probably find yourself looking for a rather long time.
At least, each day you'll have another day of looking to look forward to. |
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| Serial Killer |
| quote: | Originally posted by PivotTechno
Then you'll probably find yourself looking for a rather long time. |
how so..? you don't think that's realistic?
| quote: | | Originally posted by PivotTechno At least, each day you'll have another day of looking to look forward to. |
lol.. there you go... being optimistic.. |
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| Vivid Boy |
The last time I saw my best friend truly happy was a guys weekend fishing and he was plastered.
I havent seen him give a true genuine smile like that in years. We were all commenting on it and laughing at it. |
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| Lagrangian |
| I've died many a times |
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