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Hey Men, a question for you bros.
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| Silky Johnson |
A chick on my FB posed a question asking where she could learn how to do basic handy work, like operating a drill, etc. Someone replied "Time to get a husband!" and I replied "Look it up on YouTube!"
I personally like to know how things work and enjoy fixing things and/or putting them together. I figure I'm pretty intelligent and enjoy learning new skills and the satisfaction of being self reliant.
It made me wonder, how independent do men really like their women? I do expect everyone to have different preferences, but the response in that FB thread about getting a husband illustrated to me that a lot of men will moan and groan about having to do "man stuff" for seemingly inept women.... But then they also seem to resent it when a woman can figure it out herself/doesn't need the man to do it.
Be honest, do you find it an affront to your manhood when a woman doesn't "need" you to do "man stuff"? Do you find women who can't figure stuff out for themselves a pain in the ass? Or is it more specific...do you want to be needed in some ways and not in others? |
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| AlphaStarred |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Be honest, do you find it an affront to your manhood when a woman doesn't "need" you to do "man stuff"? |
Not an affront, no, but if a woman has a man and she doesn't want/need his help to put together a futon or a glass table, it just seems a bit awkward and unconventional, if you will.
| quote: | | ...do you want to be needed in some ways and not in others? |
I think everyone wants to be needed in some ways and not in others. It's a 2-way street. But to answer your question, I do like an independent, rather assertive woman, but certainly not a controlling one. That don't fly with me. It's also kinda fun when they're a bit of a control freak but love to be controlled and dominated in bed. :gsmile: But then again, who doesn't? |
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| kadomony |
order of preference:
-doing it myself
-teaching someone how to do it
-having someone else do it
i work on my car every so often. i'd probably be cool with teaching my gf how to fix car things if she didn't know. no way is she doing to my car tho lol
but i mean that goes for anyone else, not just my gf. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by OrangestO
Just please, PLEASE, stop hovering over my shoulder and providing step-by-step commentary. Your two cents aren't needed. |
Hahaha, I'm aware that women do that, and I figured that's what the conversation would turn to.
I am 100% guilty of being a control freak (not of people though). I just like to do everything, lol. :o |
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| AlphaStarred |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
I am 100% guilty of being a control freak (not of people though). I just like to do everything, lol. :o |
Yeah, pretty much how my ex was. I often liked it, especially when she'd tell me she won't allow me to control her anywhere but in bed. Guess you need that balance, eh? |
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| Silky Johnson |
Lol! Well I definitely strive for balance as much as I can. Again it comes down to the self reliance thing. It's really satisfying. I am not stupid enough to truly expect to control anyone or anything, only myself and how I interpret and react to the world. Plus, especially concerning men, I can't respect a guy who lets a woman treat him like a dog. Not cool.
DEEP THOUGHTS YO. |
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| Moral Hazard |
Mrs. Hazard is incredibly self sufficient and quite capable of doing "man stuff." I'm a real do-it-yourself kind of guy and certainly prefer doing repairs, renovations, even building some furniture myself where ever possible. The fact that Mrs. Hazard is so handy is an incredible blessing to me. She is able to provide real, meaningful assistance to me on projects without getting in the way or needing to be taught how to do everything. She understands what is and is not feasible. She is able to give advice on how something could be done and if I'm stumped she sometimes has the solution or at least insights that will lead to a solution. I absolutely love that she is so self sufficient in what people would normally consider 'men's work."
Oddly, I'm very self sufficient and quite capable of doing "woman stuff." I can sew/mend, cook, clean (although I am not nearly as careful as my wife), tend to our children, etc. Owing to my self-sufficiency I can be a great assistance to Mrs. Hazard in these traditionally female roles.
The real benefit to both of us being well versed in the tasks that people traditionally associate with the opposing gender is that we don't need to divide up tasks along gender lines. If some appliance isn't working and I'm not around or available to fix it Mrs. Hazard will open it up and is often able to fix it. If Mrs. Hazard has appointments in the evening then I'll whip up dinner for the family so that it's ready when she's done. Sure, each of us have things we do better than the other and generally she prefers the chores that are traditionally "women's work" while I prefer things that are traditionally "men's work" but we are not reliant on each other (despite relying on each other). It's an absolutely wonderful situation to have and I imagine I would hate to be in a marriage where we had to have exclusive domains because of a lack of skills on either of our parts. |
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| Trancelover03591 |
| Sounds like you gave good advice to your friend and if you like learning new skills like home repair stuff you should do it! |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| Anyone who resents a woman for being able to figure something out for herself is a ing idiot. |
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| Silky Johnson |
Yeah well, you'd be surprised how many men actually do. People lie to themselves about how "cool" they are with stuff like this, not just men...which is why I brought it up. So many people say they want one thing, but their actual behaviour often proves otherwise.
I really don't think there's anything wrong with being bothered by it. I think it's natural to feel jealous/competitive/whatever when someone figures something out before you do, lol. And I'm not surprised at all that people are afraid to admit that to themselves. I think that's when it becomes resentment. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Mrs. Hazard is incredibly self sufficient and quite capable of doing "man stuff." I'm a real do-it-yourself kind of guy and certainly prefer doing repairs, renovations, even building some furniture myself where ever possible. The fact that Mrs. Hazard is so handy is an incredible blessing to me. She is able to provide real, meaningful assistance to me on projects without getting in the way or needing to be taught how to do everything. She understands what is and is not feasible. She is able to give advice on how something could be done and if I'm stumped she sometimes has the solution or at least insights that will lead to a solution. I absolutely love that she is so self sufficient in what people would normally consider 'men's work."
Oddly, I'm very self sufficient and quite capable of doing "woman stuff." I can sew/mend, cook, clean (although I am not nearly as careful as my wife), tend to our children, etc. Owing to my self-sufficiency I can be a great assistance to Mrs. Hazard in these traditionally female roles.
The real benefit to both of us being well versed in the tasks that people traditionally associate with the opposing gender is that we don't need to divide up tasks along gender lines. If some appliance isn't working and I'm not around or available to fix it Mrs. Hazard will open it up and is often able to fix it. If Mrs. Hazard has appointments in the evening then I'll whip up dinner for the family so that it's ready when she's done. Sure, each of us have things we do better than the other and generally she prefers the chores that are traditionally "women's work" while I prefer things that are traditionally "men's work" but we are not reliant on each other (despite relying on each other). It's an absolutely wonderful situation to have and I imagine I would hate to be in a marriage where we had to have exclusive domains because of a lack of skills on either of our parts. |
Whoa, dunno how I missed your post. But agree to all of it! We're pretty even at our house too. Really does make a huge difference. Works more like a true partnership. |
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| Lews |
| Speaking for myself, if a girl I was dating could do repair stuff on appliances or whatever, that would be awesome! I can't do . |
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