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This has been weighing on my mind….. (pg. 2)
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| JEO |
| In the basement?? All the this place gave Nou about playing in the basement. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Lol, I have a WhatsApp chat of ladies that would love to hear this. It's informally titled "Why Are Men?" |
Most grown up adult men care about cleaning, but as a rule we just don't care quite as quickly as women do. If it takes us 7 days of dust accumulation to bust out the vacuum, it'll take a woman 4. We learn this young and we're perfectly happy to exploit it.
Imagine a world where all men lose their sanity if the garden lawn gets longer than 20mm but where women just don't care as much. The men are so frustrated because they always end up mowing it and their wives never seem to understand the importance. It's completely unfair, cry the men, that this task is never divided fairly. Meanwhile the women find it slightly comical that their husbands get so wound up about such a trivial matter.
That's basically how men see 90% of household cleaning. |
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| Silky Johnson |
Hahaha, well it's certainly not an issue in our house.
I think it's hilarious that there's any difference in living standard between or because of the sexes. Like, what the hell has one's gender got to do with wanting/not wanting to live like a in' slob (aside from the weaponized incomptence womem themselves enable in men by mothering them and being critical of them)?
And also, its very uncool to nit pick/be critical of one's partner's efforts at chores. That said, I do think it's pretty paramount that a couple agrees upon similar living standards before they even move in together...to avoid the previous point altogether if nothing more.
| quote: | Originally posted by JEO
In the basement?? All the this place gave Nou about playing in the basement. |
Maybe I should start shaving her face now, so she won't grow a neck beard? |
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| planetaryplayer |
| I think I’m gay then. I do cooking + cleaning, gardening, mowing, shovelling, bed sheets. My SO would do it but she’s slow and doing labour does not suit her (clumsy/ would chop her feet off). She cooked for her parents the other day and now she’s covered in blisters |
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| Silky Johnson |
| :stongue::stongue: |
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| ziptnf |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
And also, its very uncool to nit pick/be critical of one's partner's efforts at chores. That said, I do think it's pretty paramount that a couple agrees upon similar living standards before they even move in together...to avoid the previous point altogether if nothing more.
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I'd say that I didn't have as much of a problem with the chore doing before the divorce proceedings. Now the filter is off and I don't give a . She sits on the couch and texts her boyfriend all ing evening while I'm picking up everything.
I should mention one of my son's favorite things in the world is numbers. He has a bucket of numbers that he's always playing with and rearranging to stimulate his little neurodivergent mind. He likes the number blocks and basically anything that comes in pieces. We seem to be given gifts all the time that come with 150 stickers or attachments. What a mess. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I hate your ex wife. |
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| ziptnf |
| Yeah she ignores the kids too while they're bored as so she can text. Damn I might hijack every single thread here if I'm not careful. This is all more or less to say I clean constantly and never make any progress. Maybe when I have my own place it will be different. I'll report back to this thread in April. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| It's very simple, Nick. The next time she's sat there on her phone while you're cleaning up, you walk over, swipe it from her hand and say to her "While ever you continue to live in this house with me, when there's a job to be done you put down this ing phone and you help me look after these kids we brought into the world together, otherwise this phone is going to have an unfortunate accident very quickly." |
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| ziptnf |
| So who plays me in this movie, a young Clint Eastwood, or maybe someone modern like Timothee Chalamet? |
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| SYSTEM-J |
Trust me, if my ex was being a passive-aggressive bitch, I would absolutely take the phone, turn off the device, give her absolutely no peace in any room she went into until she actually looked me in the eye and resolved whatever situation we'd fallen out over.
You can be very forceful to someone without doing anything physically threatening to them. |
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| OrangestO |
| quote: | Originally posted by planetaryplayer
I think I’m gay then. I do cooking + cleaning, gardening, mowing, shovelling, bed sheets. My SO would do it but she’s slow and doing labour does not suit her (clumsy/ would chop her feet off). She cooked for her parents the other day and now she’s covered in blisters |
Same.
I do all the food shopping and cooking, most of the cleaning. Wife gets up first in the morning with the kiddo, does the laundry. Both of us fill in the gaps of responsibility when needed. We have a good balance, no fuss. I'd say it's 60/40 me, but a lot of her effort is with the kiddo and admin stuff. She manages the front of house, while I get done in the back. It works.
That said, I vacuum once a week and sweep the main areas every day in between my sets (of working out). |
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