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| liquidmist2001 |
hey everybody,
i just got screwed up majorly and need to vent so i'm gonna write a little rant about my story. laugh, cry, do whatever pleases ya.
a little background info on me before i start:
i'm 19, from southern california. i'm originally born in india, and moved here in '96. i'm 100% indian, i know you wouldn't be able to tell by looking a pic of me (i'll put one up soon). suffice to say that i'm very innocent. i've never done drugs, drank very little alcohol, had no emotional experience when it came to relationships, and am still a virgin (by choice whether you want to belive it or not). my parents are very strict, they're like most asian parents... you know what i mean, "concentrate on school and academcs, you'll have the rest of your life to have fun", yeah, that's my parents and i'm starting to get sick of their , but can't do anything about it till i'm done with college.
ok enough about my childhood. back to the story cuz i know thats what you guys wanna read about.
about a month ago, i went to see oakenfold perform in hollywood, and my 'n my friend were trying to talk to paul after his set to see if he could maybe get us into the club that night (we didn't have our IDs yet). well paul was too busy trying to talk to these two very fine girls, and pretty much gives us the brush off (i didn't think anything was gonna happen newayz). i start talking to one of the girls and she asks me if i had an ID or not, and that pretty much ended the conversation. i thought she was hot, and didn't think i'd see here again.
a couple of weeks later, i was at a meetup with some friends, and that same chick walks in, and to my surprise, she recognizes me from the oakie set. so we get to talking, about what i missed out on that night, and all the other that she's been too that i would've had fun at also. i have to leave early cuz i had to go pick up my sister. so we exchange some contact info and part ways.
a few days later, as i'm signing on to AIM, i get this IM, and i'm trying to figure who it is, and it turns out its the same girl. Let's just call her "Jane Roe" for right now. here's a little bit about "Jane", she is a few years older than me, very good looking, and totaly into trance/techno. Me & jane get to talking, and we instantly felt comfortable around each other. lots of sexual innuendo & jokes flying every which way. i didn't have class till later that day, so i asked her if she would like to go have lunch (she only lived like 20 mins away from me). so we go to the mall, get some lunch, and make plans to meet for that weekend. (all this is wednesday afternoon).
well she comes over earlier than that (thursday night), and we're really comfy in my bed, and just kinda talking, gazing, and bein' touchy/feely. it's about 3 and she says that she needs to get goin' home. i walk her out to her car and we hug and after she sits in the car, i bend down to give her a little peck on the cheek. lol, i was clumsy and caught her lip. then she left for home.
i told her the next day, that i felt clumsy, and she said everything was fine. this is halloween morning. i was supposed to have some friends over that night, but nobody showed cuz it started raining and everybody got lazy. but she comes over, we go rent a movie, and she decides to spend the night. we stayed up till like 4 talking about all sorts of and then went to sleep. we slept in the same bed, and i didn't touch her (maybe that's what i did wrong). it's not cuz i didn't want to, it's cuz i wasn't ready, and i wanted to take things slow.
she comes over again on sunday night, and we pretty much do the same thing, except this time, she moves on me and starts kissing me. i had no problem with that. infact, since she was the one that was kissing me, i figured she wanted me to take things a little bit faster, and a little bit more seriously. unfortunately, i began to get too attached. i know i had only just met her, but i had spent enough time with her to know that i liked her (i even told her that, she wouldn't say it back). that night, i asked her if we were exclusive (i wanted to keep everything open & honest, so i asked her directly). she asked me what i wanted (i think she already knew), and she said yes. now i'm ecstatic as hell thinking that i finally had a relationship that might be a little meaningful.
oh i forgot to tell you guys, the only reason she could come over so much was that my parents weren't here for an entire 3 weeks.
among the conversations that we had, we talked about whether me being younger would be a problem, whether my deciding to wait would be a problem, whether the ways that we were bought up would be a problem. at that time, none of it mattered to her.
then suddenly, just this last weekend, on the day that my dad came back from his vacation, she decides to tell me that i was getting too attached (guilty as charged) and that she wasn't ready to get into a relationship yet (still don't understand that one fully). i think she might have some issues with commitment after her last relationship, too bad, i know we would've been happy together.
i have no qualms about not being ready, i can understand that now, my only shtick is that she should've told me that when i asked her about us being together. apparently there's also another guy involved (she's going out of country to meet some friends and go see some djs, and apparently one of the friends shes gonna be meeting up with is a guy that she used to go out with).
i guess i'm only really mad now cuz of the fact that i got played. she was never fully honest with me. when i asked her about why she kept sending me those signals, she said that she was confused and didn't know what had happened.
newayz, enough with the rant, i'm tired already, and i'd like to finish this chapter in my book and label it "an experience." as for "jane," i hope you have a good life, have fun, and good luck, maybe i'll see you around some time. |
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| whiskers |
| well, mate, that really sucks, especially because you had 'something' going there... sorry to hear you getting ed over like that. |
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| MisterOpus1 |
| Maybe I read this too fast, but did you or did you not *poke* her? |
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| liquidmist2001 |
| quote: | Originally posted by whiskers
well, mate, that really sucks, especially because you had 'something' going there... sorry to hear you getting ed over like that. |
thanx bro.
the thing is i confronted her about it, and asked her if there was something i was doing wrong (i had already told her to be very honest with me) and she said there was nothing wrong with me...(i dunno if i fully believe that yet). i don't wanna play the blame game. she just wasn't ready, and i'm sure i did something wrong somewhere... happens, and life goes on...
there's this really cute chick in my bio class, i think i'll ask her out this weekend, that'll help me get my mind off things... hehe |
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| liquidmist2001 |
| quote: | Originally posted by MisterOpus1
Maybe I read this too fast, but did you or did you not *poke* her? |
no misteropus, i intentinally did not "poke" her, i wanted to take things really slow, and 2 weeks would've been too early for me... |
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| whiskers |
| quote: | Originally posted by liquidmist2001
thanx bro.
the thing is i confronted her about it, and asked her if there was something i was doing wrong (i had already told her to be very honest with me) and she said there was nothing wrong with me...(i dunno if i fully believe that yet). i don't wanna play the blame game. she just wasn't ready, and i'm sure i did something wrong somewhere... happens, and life goes on...
there's this really cute chick in my bio class, i think i'll ask her out this weekend, that'll help me get my mind off things... hehe |
i dunno, i'm not really an expert when it comes to relationships (although my friends constantly ask me for advice), but this seems too fishy... she wasn't ready... yet she started kissing you and all? and i don't think you're the one who did something wrong, we always tend to think that, but i refuse to believe it's true.
anyway, moving on is good ;) |
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| liquidmist2001 |
| and the worst thing is, i'll be seeing her this weekend cuz we got tickets to go to a ferry corsten show this weekend...and it's gonna be awkward cuz all her friends are gonna be there, and all my friends are gonna be there too... |
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| MisterOpus1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by liquidmist2001
and the worst thing is, i'll be seeing her this weekend cuz we got tickets to go to a ferry corsten show this weekend...and it's gonna be awkward cuz all her friends are gonna be there, and all my friends are gonna be there too... |
2 weeks is not awkward.
2 months really isin't even all that awkward.
2 years, well, now we're talkin'.
Look, she wants something, you want something else. Pretty plain and simple. You want committment, she doesn't - and no matter how many times they say, "It's not you, it's me", it means it's YOU. You want something different.
So your options are the following:
1. Change yourself to wanting something a little less than committment.
2. Find someone else who wants the same level of committment as you.
I don't mean to talk down to you, but at 19 you ought to be thinking a little less about serious committment (hence my sarcasm earlier), and more about the types of gals that fit you better. Not to say that if you find a nice gal you shouldn't commit. Just try not to tie anyone down so quickly. Despite common belief, many girls like to ease into relationships via intermittent dating as much as guys.
And of course, if all else fails, get her good and sloppy drunk, and bang her in da pooper.
The End. |
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| DigiNut |
I'll spell it out for you, liquidmist:
The fastest way to turn a girl off is to come on too heavy.
At first, she wanted you, but you resisted her, you were indifferent. You were a challenge. That got her excited. Now you've given it all away by telling her you feel awkward and you want to be exclusive and all that. 2 weeks isn't too early for sex (by today's standards), but it definitely is too early to be making long-term commitments. It's unfortunate that we've all been brainwashed by hollywood movies and trashy romance novels into thinking that good relationships can actually develop so quickly.
My recommendation would be back off HUGE, something to the effect of "You know, I've been thinking about it and you're absolutely right, we've only been seeing each other two weeks and it's way too early to be making commitments. I think I've just been stressed out and feeling a little weird for the past few weeks, but I'm over it now. Give me a shout if you want to get together again sometime" - and then leave, don't say anything else, don't get into a long discussion or start putting yourself down.
Whatever you do, keep things light from here on. Just back off. You may get a call back after a day, a week, a month, or you may get nothing - either way, pushing harder at this point will accomplish absolutely nothing. Don't be a doormat.
Good luck. |
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| Jamie_ |
Women, Waste of time
Turn Gay, more fun :D |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
I'll spell it out for you, liquidmist:
The fastest way to turn a girl off is to come on too heavy.
At first, she wanted you, but you resisted her, you were indifferent. You were a challenge. That got her excited. Now you've given it all away by telling her you feel awkward and you want to be exclusive and all that. 2 weeks isn't too early for sex (by today's standards), but it definitely is too early to be making long-term commitments. It's unfortunate that we've all been brainwashed by hollywood movies and trashy romance novels into thinking that good relationships can actually develop so quickly.
My recommendation would be back off HUGE, something to the effect of "You know, I've been thinking about it and you're absolutely right, we've only been seeing each other two weeks and it's way too early to be making commitments. I think I've just been stressed out and feeling a little weird for the past few weeks, but I'm over it now. Give me a shout if you want to get together again sometime" - and then leave, don't say anything else, don't get into a long discussion or start putting yourself down.
Whatever you do, keep things light from here on. Just back off. You may get a call back after a day, a week, a month, or you may get nothing - either way, pushing harder at this point will accomplish absolutely nothing. Don't be a doormat.
Good luck. |
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| jinxed84 |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
I'll spell it out for you, liquidmist:
The fastest way to turn a girl off is to come on too heavy.
At first, she wanted you, but you resisted her, you were indifferent. You were a challenge. That got her excited. Now you've given it all away by telling her you feel awkward and you want to be exclusive and all that. 2 weeks isn't too early for sex (by today's standards), but it definitely is too early to be making long-term commitments. It's unfortunate that we've all been brainwashed by hollywood movies and trashy romance novels into thinking that good relationships can actually develop so quickly.
My recommendation would be back off HUGE, something to the effect of "You know, I've been thinking about it and you're absolutely right, we've only been seeing each other two weeks and it's way too early to be making commitments. I think I've just been stressed out and feeling a little weird for the past few weeks, but I'm over it now. Give me a shout if you want to get together again sometime" - and then leave, don't say anything else, don't get into a long discussion or start putting yourself down.
Whatever you do, keep things light from here on. Just back off. You may get a call back after a day, a week, a month, or you may get nothing - either way, pushing harder at this point will accomplish absolutely nothing. Don't be a doormat.
Good luck. |
that sounds about right. being a doormat is a waste of your time. but good job on checking out the chick in your bio class. get back into the groove and you may find someone you like better |
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