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I'm VERY confused right now....
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| stk |
My Ex, who found a new lover, out of nowhere calls me (its been about a year since we last talks) and asks how i am doing and stuff. And now she wants to meet up with me and see me in person and see how things are going...
I dont know if i should, i still love her, i stil miss her and she has a new lover who she has been dating for about 4 months now....I dont know why she just called me out of the blue, it seemed to good to be true....
Quite honestly, i was more shocked than happy when she called me, i was like why the is she playing with my mind again..i hate these games....
what should i do? should i meet up with her or no? and why does she want to meet up with me..after all these years of no communicatin? it seems a little odd |
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| -=M=- |
go have coffee, cant hurt
if she has a hidden agenda then i give you permission to give her a light slapping |
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| UglyDave |
well, i had something similar a few months gack with my ex.. basically:
- she start5ed goin out with another guy
- after a few months, she felt they wern't nowhere near as close as we were. so she said she really cared about him, but she didn't get to see him that often and she missed the friendship we had.
she didn't do it to try mess with me, but still it kinda did.. seein an email from ur ex who ur still quite fond of in ur inbox weighing 4k!!
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| DigiNut |
She's not screwing with you on purpose, but she's definitely doing it for the attention.
It's up to you whether or not you think she's worth it to you as just a friend. Keep in mind that this meeting isn't likely to accomplish much in the name of love - I have a strong feeling she just wants someone to pay attention to her and listen to her bitch about her boyfriend and other problems.
But hey, I guess it can't hurt to find out. Just don't stick around if she starts complaining about her boyfriend, because that's a major red flag. The appropriate words are, "If you're having so many problems with him, then dump him, that's what you did to me."
Some girls are worth keeping as friends, even if you have feelings for them. Some aren't. I've experienced both. The fact that she didn't bother speaking to you in over a year, suggests that she's in the latter category. Be careful... |
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| AnotherWay83 |
| i'm with diginut on this one. if she wanted to stay friends with you, she would've stayed friends all along...she wouldn'tve called you after a whole yr. if you're still not sure give it a try, but don't let your guard down or you might get hurt. |
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| smokeape |
Bottom line is your perception about the previous relationship. It will never be the same, so if you meet up with your ex again, then approach it the same as if it's a new relationship with a different person, but also the same as a different person that you distrust from the start. Don't fall into the trap of thinking you can relive the good old times, because they're gone now and neither of you can change that. So be quick to the chase if you do meet again and figure out if you really want to revisit the hurt and suffering you went through when you broke up. Much depends on the sincerity of your partner. Another relationship followed by another breakup could be emotionally devastating.
:p
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| Orbax |
| that. You dont get out of it and youll probably end up paying for the damn coffee. Quit being a tool. |
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| Wicked Neo |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
that. You dont get out of it and youll probably end up paying for the damn coffee. Quit being a tool. |
i got to agree with orbax, amazing i know, but don't meet up with her again dood, cos she will screw with ur mind
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| -=M=- |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
that. You dont get out of it and youll probably end up paying for the damn coffee. Quit being a tool. |
he could say "you pay for the coffee or you give me sex, bitch" :conf: |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Wicked Neo
i got to agree with orbax, amazing i know, but don't meet up with her again dood, cos she will screw with ur mind
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:( we always get along :D |
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| UglyDave |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
that. You dont get out of it and youll probably end up paying for the damn coffee. Quit being a tool. |
haha! brillaint!
dont take no from the bitch! |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
he could say "you pay for the coffee or you give me sex, bitch" :conf: |
Yeah, I think the Playa's Handbook (by which I mean I'm pulling this info out of my ass) tells you to go to a place where you order your meals/drinks, ask her what she wants, order for both of you, and then ask the waiter for it to be on separate bills. ;) |
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