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ok... it's time for my turn on the relationship threads bandwagon - i can't take this any more
a couple months ago i told this girl that i had some really strong feelings for her... she responded by saying that if only i had have told her 1 month beforehand - she wouldnt have gotten back together with her boyfriend. we had a convo for half an hour decided that we'd be good friends etc etc. within 7.25 seconds of me hanging up the phone you may remember me posting the thread begging everyone on the forums to brick the outta me
here's where the problem is - i have NO IDEA what the hell i'm going to do from here - i have better morals than to try and convince her to break up with her man, and the bigger problem is that i can't listen to any form of vocal trance because it just brings her back into my mind - talking to her makes things so much worse and i'm turning into the most lovesick f00 that ever existed!!!!
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| tribu |
masturbate. Its all the pleasure of sex without any of the painful attachment.
One alternative is to find a new girl to "fall in love" with. This is quite easy for me...I can do it almost daily. Another alternative is to just give it some time. Youll get over her man, when a new girl comes into the picture. Then youll have the last laugh when youre plugging the new girl's vagina when the old one comes back begging...
...it happens all the time. |
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| goodgreefgirl |
well, for her sake i hope that you'll stay friends with her. as a girl, i hate this more than anything...when a good friend of mine tells me he has feelings for me and i dont reciprocate to them (or, in your case, something else), they just drop all contact with me cuz its too "weird"...
i respect the guys SOO much more, when they stick around a little while ... just being friends.. or just being there (sometimes even a simple hey here and there on MSN or email will do).
obviously i wont tell you to go and break their relationship up, but if its meant to be with you two.. it'll happen (obviously its not meant to be with them as they broke up before ;))...
gain her respect by sticking around and being a good friend to her, even after telling her such a deep secret... i know its been a couple months but time is your best friend here :) |
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| Spacey Orange |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
comments - wtf am i going to do??? |
looks like you're moving out of hopeville to worldofpainville.
thats what i see, unless you stop your madness, never talk to her again, and stop your wishful thinking. |
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| goodgreefgirl |
oh yeah, and a good way to let her know without actually TELLING HER ... what she's missing is by finding someone else :p
she'll go crazy knowing she's missing out on the action with you now that you're giving your attention to someone else...
OR... she'll be happy for you, and its a win win situation. |
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| quote: | Originally posted by goodgreefgirl
oh yeah, and a good way to let her know without actually TELLING HER ... what she's missing is by finding someone else :p
she'll go crazy knowing she's missing out on the action with you now that you're giving your attention to someone else...
OR... she'll be happy for you, and its a win win situation. |
oh man for the last 2 months i've tried finding a girl... there have been a few that i've started to get close to... 1 just wanted to stay as good friends and the other... well after spending the whole night with her at gods kitchen and feeling something for her... later on in the car trip in the morning my radio went to Jase From
Outta Space ft. Claire - Do What You Want (Infusion Remix) - BAM - all thoughts of this new girl just went out the window and then instantly a whole load of guilt just swam through my mind and has done so whenever i hear any form of vocal trance coz i know she loves exactly the same style of music as me
god i'm pitiful at the moment |
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| goodgreefgirl |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
oh man for the last 2 months i've tried finding a girl... there have been a few that i've started to get close to... 1 just wanted to stay as good friends and the other... well after spending the whole night with her at gods kitchen and feeling something for her... later on in the car trip in the morning my radio went to Jase From
Outta Space ft. Claire - Do What You Want (Infusion Remix) - BAM - all thoughts of this new girl just went out the window and then instantly a whole load of guilt just swam through my mind and has done so whenever i hear any form of vocal trance coz i know she loves exactly the same style of music as me
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aww, then you just need some time :) haha if uve read my pityful thread a week ago on my relationship.. ull understand youre not the only one
jsut go out and have fun, dont worry too much about it.. every day ull think less and less about her, and actually , i recommend listening to more vocal trance when ure having fun, so that new memories take over. |
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#1: its not as if a relationship even started - we have seen each other out a few times, then when i thought i may have a chance we had lunch once, and coffee once... then pretty much spent an hour on the phone to each other ever spent the night at marco v together after i had told her how i felt and it was fun when we were out just being friends, i could handle it when i was with her
as soon as she leaves or we say goodbye over the phone - every time - its like a fkn dagger through my heart |
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| Spacey Orange |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
#1: its not as if a relationship even started - we have seen each other out a few times, then when i thought i may have a chance we had lunch once, and coffee once... then pretty much spent an hour on the phone to each other ever spent the night at marco v together after i had told her how i felt and it was fun when we were out just being friends, i could handle it when i was with her
as soon as she leaves or we say goodbye over the phone - every time - its like a fkn dagger through my heart |
been there, done that. reread my post ^^^^ and move on. |
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| töbias |
This is serious.
I mean, had Mr M posted this on a Monday or Tuesday he could just be forgiven for a moment of weakness due to the big weekend, but its now Thursday.
Now personally I don't have a great moral issue with dating girls in relationships, but I sure have some serious practical issues. Its a great way to hurt, or be hurt generally.
Realistically the best way to solve the situation is to remain friends and increase the level of contact, so you become good friends. Don't make any moves however, and certainly don't say that you would date her if she didn't have a boyfriend. I'd recommend making some other female friends.
The best thing you can realistically do is make her want you, and you can do that by having other girls want you and being happy, motivated and a pleasure to me around. Girls are intelligent creatures that will often take out insurance in their lives and I've seen more than a few girls have a boyfriend whilst keeping the next best option close at hand in case something goes wrong. But to be honest no-one, especially you, deserves to be no.2 and more than likely if she breaks up with her man and wants you, you might not want her anymore, as unbelievable as that may seem right now.
And make sure not to confuse infatuation with love, although I tend to much prefer infatuation over love... |
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ummmm still have nfi what i'm going to do
seeing/talking to her just makes things a million times worse every time
if i cut her out completely - i'll never find out if she breaks up with her guy
****GROAN**** |
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