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Online Dating / Meeting (pg. 5)
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| töbias |
Virtual social interaction is a strange concept.
Someone that is fantastic at online interaction can be totally socially retarded in the real world. The problem is that you can chat to someone on a forum or by email for months and months, and then know within 10 seconds of meeting them in real life that they are either right or wrong.
I've met so many hot girls that are quite sick of meeting guys in bars, and would like to be with someone. I've met heaps of girls that have tried speed dating and online dating and the problem for me is that these ways often end up with the desired result but you lose out on alot of chemistry, fun, excitement, fear and expectation of the unexpected and all that stuff that comes with taking a chance and asking someone out in a normal context. These things are some of the best parts of meeting someone. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Virtual social interaction is a strange concept.
Someone that is fantastic at online interaction can be totally socially retarded in the real world. The problem is that you can chat to someone on a forum or by email for months and months, and then know within 10 seconds of meeting them in real life that they are either right or wrong.
I've met so many hot girls that are quite sick of meeting guys in bars, and would like to be with someone. I've met heaps of girls that have tried speed dating and online dating and the problem for me is that these ways often end up with the desired result but you lose out on alot of chemistry, fun, excitement, fear and expectation of the unexpected and all that stuff that comes with taking a chance and asking someone out in a normal context. These things are some of the best parts of meeting someone. |
I do agree that nothing beats that face to face chemistry. Chemistry in person is extremely important. You need to know if that person gives you butterflies. That may sound cliche, but for me it is the truth. Why go through life not having that? Of course it may not be something that you feel everytime that you are with them, but to never feel that at all is just not worth it. |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
I do agree that nothing beats that face to face chemistry. Chemistry in person is extremely important. You need to know if that person gives you butterflies. That may sound cliche, but for me it is the truth. Why go through life not having that? Of course it may not be something that you feel everytime that you are with them, but to never feel that at all is just not worth it. |
Chemistry is everything!
There is always this moment when that defines why you like someone. It might be getting jealous seeing them with someone else, your friend telling you not to let this one go, that nervous 3 days wait when you are expecting a message, the time you got drunk and spent the night in a park talking about life, the accidental way in which you met in the first place as if it was fate.
Lets not say that these things cannot happen with online dating, but to me it seems a little forced and this logical form of dating takes some of the excitement away.
I personally don't really like dating people I meet in bars, I tend to prefer introductions through friends or people I meet from doing an activity which ensures we have something in common. And online dating would be the same. I'm sure you could meet peopel to have a good time with but I wouldn't be putting too much pressure on or expecting too much. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Chemistry is everything!
There is always this moment when that defines why you like someone. |
Yes I know that feeling. When you act in a way that you can't explain...even to yourself. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
yah i was totally psycho. i had my bags all packed and instead of going to the airport i went on a coke binge with my co-worker. |
hahahahahah shoulda grabbed another 8 ball for the flight like the pros do it:p |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
I do agree that nothing beats that face to face chemistry. Chemistry in person is extremely important. |
Your so right net lingo just doesn't have the same impact in person.
Me: ASL?
Girl: ???
Me: Pics or STFU
Girl: Are you ok?
Me: LOL BRB
Girl: I'm getting on the plane before he comes back! |
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| DannyO |
| I'll read the replys later, but I don't do it and don't like it, I'll meet and talk to whoever online aslong as they can hold an interesting conversation, but trying to find a date online, thats just in lame to me, I'd rather go out and run the risk of rejection. |
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| kr00t0n |
I met Misty Kitty through TA, we both live in London, so met up at a few parties last year, now we've been together for over a year and live together.
I wouldnt go for online dating services, but I have met many good friends through IRC back in the day and forums more currently, it lets you all know have a common basic interest (IE, trance for this site)
It's a great way to keep in contact constantly if you cant see all the ppl physically all the time (some of my other london mates live miles away)
My brother met his wife through IRC |
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| chojin |
it makes it a lot easier sometimes. speaking to a person for a few months online is sometimes easier you find out a lot more about the person, what you have in common etc. and then when you meet it isn't really uncomfortable, because you feel you know eachother already.
that's what it was like for me anyway :p |
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| Sand Leaper |
| As long as you find a person that's right for you, does it really matter HOW you found that person? I don't see how meeting some half drunk girl at a club is so much better than talking to one online for a while before meeting up with her. The internet just provides another channel to establish new relationships, and I'm all for that. |
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| AlphaStarred |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sand Leaper
As long as you find a person that's right for you, does it really matter HOW you found that person? I don't see how meeting some half drunk girl at a club is so much better than talking to one online for a while before meeting up with her. The internet just provides another channel to establish new relationships, and I'm all for that. |
meeting some half drunk girl at a club isn't too shabby either if you're looking to score in lieu of some kind of a relationship :p |
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by AlphaStarred
meeting some half drunk girl at a club isn't too shabby either if you're looking to score in lieu of some kind of a relationship :p |
That's true. People looking for sex only need not apply :p |
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