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ways to combat stress & depression
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| lücid |
i usually don't ask for advice on message boards, but over the course of time i have noticed quite a few intelligent, helpful replies in all the advice and relationship threads. i am faced with a bit of a dilemma that i'm sure many people have experienced before, so i'm just a bit curious on what methods work for other people out there.
over the course of the last 2 or 3 days, my boyfriend has been VERY stressed out, and i would say he is battling some kind of minor depression as well. nothing has currently happened in his life to bring on a depression (i wouldn't say it is situational or post-traumatic), so it's a bit confusing as to why he is feeling like this. i understand we all go through ups and downs in life, and i am sure he is just feeling stressed out about life in general - he takes on a lot more than most people could typically handle - and it seems to be taking a toll on him.
we have been dating seriously for the last 5 months, with absolutely no problems at all. as a couple we are extremely happy and very much in love. neither of us have done anything to hurt the relationship or each other's feelings.
my main question is this... what can i do to help him? i don't want him to feel this way. i want him to be happy and positive again. his stress has started to rub off on me, making me irritable and not my typical positive happy-go-lucky self. i try to help but there is only so much i can do. i am running out of ideas on how to make him feel better, besides the obvious - comforting him, pampering him, talking with him, etc...
last night he took 2 Valium and a Vicodin to help with the stress, which worked, but today he was back to being stressed again. i don't want him to rely on drugs for happiness.
i would really appreciate some serious replies. |
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| Spacey Orange |
| serious replies here? COR is getting lame. count me out.:mad: |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
serious replies here? COR is getting lame. count me out.:mad: |
fine, you wanna poke some humor into it... go for it. i don't mind the typical COR-humor.
but i do want SOME serious replies. :) |
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| D-res |
| i dont really know what you seriously could do. i guess my only advice is just be there for him, talk to him, ect. be patient and dont let anything rough like this get in between you guys and your feelings for eachother. just let time and your support work things out. :) |
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| Clovis86 |
Drink more pabst.
:wtf: Well...its gonna be tough if you dont know why hes down...just try and help him out and keep the good energy flowing, because it rubs off on other people. If I'm around people that are pretty happy and carefree it sometimes helps me get into a better mood. That and drinking and partying. lol |
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| Spacey Orange |
| If i had that hairstyle, i'd be depressed too. Get him to a stylist and hurry!:D |
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| D-res |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
If i had that hairstyle, i'd be depressed too. Get him to a stylist quickly! |
:haha:
p.s. WISCO TA's RULE!!! |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
If i had that hairstyle, i'd be depressed too. Get him to a stylist quickly! |
if you're referring to the guy in my avatar, that's James Holden. :stongue:
if not... you're still funny. |
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| Clovis86 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
If i had that hairstyle, i'd be depressed too. Get him to a stylist and hurry!:D |
Eh...he didnt look like that in the pics from vegas :conf: |
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| Clovis86 |
| that doesnt look like James Holden either :wtf: |
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| Ian^ |
theres a difference between him being depressed and being down. Seasonal changes can affect mood as can any other changes in lifestyle, even ones that seem minor. However too many people are thrown anti-depressants now when they just need reassurance and time, and doctors hand tablets out like sweets...
Bear with him and just do your best to be there, that's all you can do until he wants to tell u anything |
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| itsTrueSonic |
well i am glad to head that you really care for this guy and feel the best way to handle this situation is to create a post here. :happy2: :happy2: . This shows how much confidence you have in our opinions. Do you think all the users here should create their own tv show to compete with dr. phil???
but here's my 2 cents ...
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over the course of the last 2 or 3 days, my boyfriend has been VERY stressed out, and i would say he is battling some kind of minor depression as well. nothing has currently happened in his life to bring on a depression (i wouldn't say it is situational or post-traumatic), so it's a bit confusing as to why he is feeling like this. i understand we all go through ups and downs in life, and i am sure he is just feeling stressed out about life in general - he takes on a lot more than most people could typically handle - and it seems to be taking a toll on him.
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maybe it sounds like the current workload he is taking is a toll on him, and he needs to take a break. here are some questions i have compiled for myself when i went through a similar situation he may be going through right now :
how much "free" time does he have with himself?
is he involved with a job with a lot of people interaction or single by himself?
does he do a lot of driving or operate heavy machinery?
how much time does he spend with you? how much time does he spend with his friends?
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we have been dating seriously for the last 5 months, with absolutely no problems at all. as a couple we are extremely happy and very much in love. neither of us have done anything to hurt the relationship or each other's feelings.
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well this eliminates you as the problem. some depression is caused by the fact that his life seems nonchalant. the same job, the same gf, the same life.. everything static.
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my main question is this... what can i do to help him? i don't want him to feel this way. i want him to be happy and positive again. his stress has started to rub off on me, making me irritable and not my typical positive happy-go-lucky self. i try to help but there is only so much i can do. i am running out of ideas on how to make him feel better, besides the obvious - comforting him, pampering him, talking with him, etc...
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i think the best thing to do for him is to talk to him, and maybe advise him to cut back on his workload or school schedule if he is in school.. the school semester is ending pretty soon, so it's time for him to relax and take it easy. that's my first opinion. my second opinion is maybe something is bothering him that you don't know about. best thing to do is to talk to him.
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last night he took 2 Valium and a Vicodin to help with the stress, which worked, but today he was back to being stressed again. i don't want him to rely on drugs for happiness.
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drugs are bad .. mmmkay ... had to add that ... hahahahaha |
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