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Refusing to change for the sake of a relationship is retarded.
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| wwu.punisher |
People who refuse to change something about themselves for the sake of a relationship make no sense. Existence is adaptation. Anyone who expects that there are people in the world who won't expect them to change at least one thing about themselves for the good of a relationship are unrealistic, naive, and in most cases immature. I'm sick of people bringing their ideals to the table and expecting that the person sitting on the other side is going to honor them.
ing society.
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| torontotrance |
| quote: | Originally posted by wwu.punisher
People who refuse to change something about themselves for the sake of a relationship make no sense. Existence is adaptation. Anyone who expects that there are people in the world who won't expect them to change at least one thing about themselves for the good of a relationship are unrealistic, naive, and in most cases immature. I'm sick of people bringing their ideals to the table and expecting that the person sitting on the other side is going to honor them.
ing society.
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well said |
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| goonerjack |
| I dunno, girls have said to me that you shouldn't have to change who you are for another girl... but to me, you should be prepared to make adaptions and sacrifices |
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| Boomer187 |
| i might be going to church for the first time in years......if thats not changin......:wtf: |
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| ShadoWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by wwu.punisher
People who refuse to change something about themselves for the sake of a relationship make no sense. Existence is adaptation. Anyone who expects that there are people in the world who won't expect them to change at least one thing about themselves for the good of a relationship are unrealistic, naive, and in most cases immature. I'm sick of people bringing their ideals to the table and expecting that the person sitting on the other side is going to honor them.
ing society.
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I agree with what you said if you include the proviso "within reason." |
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| ShadoWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by Boomer187
i might be going to church for the first time in years......if thats not changin......:wtf: |
Are you taking a vow of chastity for her? |
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| Boomer187 |
| quote: | Originally posted by ShadoWolf
Are you taking a vow of chastity for her? |
eehhh, happy time is something no chick can take from me :wtf:
she already took hers so I guess that means I indirectly took mine... |
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| wwu.punisher |
| quote: | Originally posted by ShadoWolf
I agree with what you said if you include the proviso "within reason." |
I could have included something like this, but it seems to me like you would have to define what is and is not "within reason". In addition, I would think that most people would realize it when they were making unreasonable sacrifices and put a stop to things before it got out of hand. Of course, I've been overestimating the general condition of human inteliigence over the past few weeks, so perhaps I'm wrong in making such broad assumptions. |
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| NiteMer |
| Agreed. One should be constantly changing throughout life. Whether it be for a girl, a friend or a family member. We should consistently strive to be better as individuals and to make those around us better, sheerly by being ourselves. |
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| itsTrueSonic |
agree. i can't count how many times i had to change in order to adapt to new environments. when it comes to new girlfriends to new house to new location to new work.
if people call me a for not standing aground to who i am, and force the people i am with to adapt to my own environment without me adapting to theirs .... then i tell them to f*ck off.. i am not selling my soul to everyone .. i am allowing my current environment to adapt to my nature, and have the flow of communication run smoothly without any bumps...
just as long as i don't have to jump off a cliff to adapt to my environment, that's fine with me... hhahaha |
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| Spacey Orange |
| I could not disagree more. Changing for oneself is acceptable, but for another is assanine. Now I understand why you were depressed, and hope you feel better. |
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| butterfly |
i agree that you should be able to adapt but if you have to change who you are to be with someone, it might not be right.
that being said, i was having issues with this yesterday with my bf. for example, he finds a lot of things i do to be horribly disgusting and i dont think much about it. one example is my abuse of the 3 second rule when your food falls on the floor... anyway, i thought about it and i normally make an effort to hide these disgusting things when i am around other people but i am at a comfort level with my bf (and my sister and one other person) where i can be a really gross. he claims it will make him less attracted to me so i said i would try to be less nasty. but sometimes old habits are hard to break.... |
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