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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by goonerjack
lmao at Gunyouken! it's more interesting than soaps anyway!
apparantly i've just found out she couldn't sleep last night and has been on the phone today crying to friends :nervous: - now that i feel really bad about :sadgreen: ... a few weeks ago i got rejected by a girl i'd been after for ages, that really sucked and I know exactly how she feels.
it may have been insensitive of me to flirt with this other girl in emily's house, but i'd grown sick of being the one feeling bad about various things with girls - was just unfortunate that emily was on the receiving end of my new attitude
so at the moment i'm the position where I know that i've broken emily's heart and feel terrible about it, but i shouldn't know this, and if she knows I know then I end up screwing up her friendship with victor. And then there's still the whole thing about how to hook up with steph, but I suppose that'll follow after the rest is sorted - just don't wanna leave it too long
man this is complicated :conf: |
you should not feel bad at all. if she really liked you and didnt make a move it is her own fault, regardless of whether you would have reciprocated or not.
i still think there were signs of her liking you though. boys never catch on when girls hint but they do. i bet if you have any girl friends who know her, they would have seen it.
anyway, if i were you, i would ask to stop being told about this stuff. it makes it unecessarily more complicated. if you have things to work out with this girl, it is better if you can work it out directly and through your friends. |
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| Gunyouken |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
i still think there were signs of her liking you though. boys never catch on when girls hint but they do. i bet if you have any girl friends who know her, they would have seen it.
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That prob is my biggest problem with girls... I never catch the signs. I sometimes will catch a sign.. but I will 9/10 times interpret it wrongly. Girls are so freaken greek. But i love them so. |
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| igottaknow |
if you have her address maybe you could write her a letter?  |
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| Phil raa |
2 things i've learnt....
a) things happen all the time "because" of another middle man - ie you only met person B because you both knew person A
b) it's possible to tell "too much" truth. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gunyouken
That prob is my biggest problem with girls... I never catch the signs. I sometimes will catch a sign.. but I will 9/10 times interpret it wrongly. Girls are so freaken greek. But i love them so. |
we're not that confusing, really. i bet emily likes him cause he has been a nice guy to her and she is probably just too shy or insecure to try and say anything. this is probably a bit biased of an opinion based on my own personal experience but i think the guilt and stuff should be on her. he should not have to feel being an ass just cause he is a nice guy (if my theory is correct). she needs to learn to be assertive and get guys who like her back. dating and finding good guys will never be easy and she may as well learn that now. |
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| chojin |
pfft, just try and get stephs number some other way, there must be some people you both know. snooze ya lose, this girl shunt be this hung up, send her a copy of 'dry your eyes mate':whip: :whip: :whip:
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| Gunyouken |
I wish girls could just learn that the good guys are the ones that don't know how to intepret the signs, and enlighten them.
"hey Gun did you not see the sign? "
"huh? you talking to me? (Heart pounding) Sign? What sign?"
"NOOOOOOOO silly Let's go back to my place and learn some signs, I'll sign you... you sign cheques... " |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gunyouken
I wish girls could just learn that the good guys are the ones that don't know how to intepret the signs, and enlighten them.
"hey Gun did you not see the sign? "
"huh? you talking to me? (Heart pounding) Sign? What sign?"
"NOOOOOOOO silly Let's go back to my place and learn some signs, I'll sign you... you sign cheques... " |
true... but then it just wouldnt be any fun anymore, would it? |
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| Gunyouken |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
true... but then it just wouldnt be any fun anymore, would it? |
Fun? yah It an absolute blast to not pick up ANY signs... what was I thinking? My love life is so great!!! hehehe |
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| goonerjack |
| quote: | | i still think there were signs of her liking you though. boys never catch on when girls hint but they do. i bet if you have any girl friends who know her, they would have seen it. |
you're probably right there - but it is so tough for most men to interpret 'hints'... another girl (the one i asked out & got rejected from) was hanging out with me all the time about a month or so ago, waiting around for me to talk etc and being way more friendly/keen than this Emily girl (my mate says it's just cuz of how nervous she was). Now if i was asked who i thought was the one that fancied me, i would have said that girl - not emily!
| quote: | | anyway, if i were you, i would ask to stop being told about this stuff. it makes it unecessarily more complicated. if you have things to work out with this girl, it is better if you can work it out directly and through your friends. |
I never wanted to know really in the first place but my mate couldn't keep his big mouth shut - he just has to tell people stuff. And now it's too late really for this situation, I know and if I keep pretending that I don't at some stage the 's gonna hit the fan.
btw i do have her address, and her email addy, but i am not gonna send teh letter! well maybe i would if i can write something good enough to sum up the whole situation...
the thing is i know how hard it is to tell someone that you really like them, but you do have to take the plunge otherwise you'll never know or lose out... just what looks like has happened to emily.
but that doesn't stop me feelin bad for her - in order to protect my mate victor i have to talk normally to emily, so the obvious topic is her good mate steph, which I know must really be killing her :sadgreen:
and there's still the problem of how to sort the situation of getting steph's number - it seems to me that because emily doesn't know I know she likes me, she's still hanging to something and perhaps trying to stop me getting with steph. but if i let her know that i do know then my mate is in ... |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by goonerjack
you're probably right there - but it is so tough for most men to interpret 'hints'... another girl (the one i asked out & got rejected from) was hanging out with me all the time about a month or so ago, waiting around for me to talk etc and being way more friendly/keen than this Emily girl (my mate says it's just cuz of how nervous she was). Now if i was asked who i thought was the one that fancied me, i would have said that girl - not emily!
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she was probably really nervous cause she knew you liked her and was afraid she was going to do something to hurt you without meaning to but didnt want to stop hanging out with you to avoid hurting you cause she liked having you as a friend. if that makes any sense. i've definitely been there before. :( |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gunyouken
Fun? yah It an absolute blast to not pick up ANY signs... what was I thinking? My love life is so great!!! hehehe |
That's why you take the risk. You can't control what other people think and act, but you do direct your own destiny. As such, all that you can do is take the chance, no matter how small it may seem, that someone whom you know you like feels the same way about you. That's how it goes, especially when you're not good at picking up the subtleties of the opposite sex (you're definitely not alone in that).
Listen to me - I could learn a lot from my own post. :stongue: |
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