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| dj tek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Keepingitreal
:rolleyes: :rolleyes: |
dont be rollin eyes kid.. that was sort of a private joke towards adam. |
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| Wazup8012 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Keepingitreal
CRYBABY:rolleyes: |
but atleast i am honest most guys thinik it but never say it outload.
and dave yes i know you understand. and I am hapy for you and (leaves out name). you deserve the best.
edit - thats not crying either. i understand you were joking but you need to be snappier with your jokes with me. :whip: ;) |
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| Wazup8012 |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj tek
dont be rollin eyes kid.. that was sort of a private joke towards adam. |
and i got it too.:D ;) |
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| BitchBoyNYC |
| quote: | Originally posted by DirtyDave
Adam, you know I agree with you. I was getting more consistent, random ass when I was an in college. I cheated on my GF all the time my senior year while she was living at home in LI. After, we broke up, I completely emotionally detached myself so I wouldnt get hurt anymore, b/c I still oved her and we were together for 6 yrs, so I lost my best friend in addition to my GF. I did end up being viewed as an by some girls these past few years, but I got what I wanted out of them, so it didnt matter.
They always say "Nice guys finish last"...and that is why I decided to stop being "sweet and nice" and just looked out for myself. However that can change. For the longest time I have been telling my friends and family "there is not much out there" when asked, "How's your love life?" or "How come a guy like you doesn't have a GF?"
I have spent a long time now wondering the same thing. I think that nice guys do end up winning in the end, its just that you cant jump right into being Mr. Romantic, Sappy Lovey-Dovey right away with a girl b/c that will scare her away. You should still keep to yourself for the most part, but still let her know you are interested. So basically you have to put up a facade (which everyone does anyway when you first meet them) and then ease your way into revealing your true self.
I have been single for almost 3 yrs now, and have been dating someone now for several months (some of you know who that is) and my views have changed a bit. I find myself wanting to do things for them, treat them right, spend a lot of time with them and I havent been this happy in a long time. I didnt think these girls existed anymore after what I have found in all my going out, but they will pop up and you just have to be ready when they do. |
WORD brother Dave!!!! Well said. Here's what I have to share with all of u. I can honestly say I've never been an when it comes to dating girls. I've always been the one to be taken advantage of like a sucker. I've been stepped on time & time again only to be gullable enough to get myself into the same situations over and over. I've been used & abused by just about everyone I've been with. It seems they like to take advantage of my openness and my kind and forgiving nature. However I just seem to always pick up and get right back on my feet again after each ordeal. Well, that is until the last person I was with screwed me royally.
I was with a girl from Jan. 1999 thru July 2002. During that time I became a father to a lil baby girl. I wound up getting a pretty good job working for ConEd(NYC electric company) in Jan. of 2000, 2 months after my daughter was born. During the first year of work, times were rough. Trying to support a family when making $11 an hour is no easy task, especially when you are the only provider for the household and bills accumulate to be almost as much as you make in a week. Anyway, there came a time in 2001,(after 9-11) where there was a load of OT to be worked and I began working 12 hour shifts 6 days a week. The more I worked, the more $$$$$$$$ I made, BUT the less time I spent at home with my family. This went on for months & months and I noticed that my ex & I were argueing more often, mostly about the fact that I worked alot and I was never home. You catch the drift. Finally, one day in April 2002, I was working the midnight shift and it was kind of quiet, so my boss decide to let me go home early at like 1 am. So I thanked him and went home. When I got home, I parked in my driveway and proceeded to go into my house. I made my way to the bedroom only to find my ex in bed with a mutual friend of our while my daughter was asleep in her bedroom which was next to my bedroom. You can only imagine what was going thru my mind at that point. I just wound going into my daughters room and locking myself in there and crying like a baby. I had never been so crushed in my life. My heart felt like someone tore it out inch by inch. We stayed living together for a couple of months after that but I just couldn't find it in my heart to forgive and forget that. Every time I looked at her, I felt like falling to my knees and breaking down. We decided that it was the best thing if she moved back in with her mother. She had no point in being around me. I loathed her and it just wasn't a good thing, especially since there was a little child around.
So then came the most painful day of my life. The day she moved out and took our daughter to go and live with her. Although I see my daughter all the time, the day she left was the worst day ever because it was the first time in 3 years that I walked into an empty house, and was not able to kiss my daughter goodnight. Wound up going to sleep hugging the pillow she slept with in her little bed for quite some time. Those next few months were pretty ty to say the least.
Now, things have settled down and all parties involved have gotten use to the situation as it has just become part of everyday life. I'm back on my feet again and looking back on it I can see it was the absolute correct decision to make. My daughter is happy, I'm happy and my ex is even happy and things seem to flow smoothly with the ocasional "bump in the road". I've made some great new friends on this board, and my lifelong friends I grew up with have become evryday parts of my life again. So in some way or another, whether some of you have known it or not, you have played a significant part in helping me get thru things. For that I express my grattitude and dearest thanks. So that is why I decided to share probably my most personal and innermost feelings publically on this board. This is me. This is why I got the nickname "BitchBoy" This is who & what Joey is about.
Thanks for reading/listening. You have no idea how good it feels to get this off my chest.:) |
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| Wazup8012 |
I am glad Joey. This was the main reason I expressed my feeling so that others who have burdens like Joey does, could have the courage to share their feelings as well. I am glad you got it off your chest and I am sure I speak for everyone when I say that I am sorry that happened to you and we are all lucky to have you as a friend.
In regards to the first part of your post. Well... I never cheated on any girl and I used to be the same as you. Alyways abused by women. The "girl" in the relationship because I was a good guy and was caring for others and very open with my feelings. After get hurt soo much for soo long I toughened up and nobody hurt me anymore. Everything 'encounter' in the past with women was known that it was just a "hook up" because I could not afford to get hurt anymore.
These days I am both tough and open with my feelings. I don't get hurt that often but yes I still get hurt. You have to get hurt in life. This is the only way to really learn and grow. Such is life. |
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| trancEyes22 |
wow joey...that took a lot for you to share that with us- thank you. knowing things like that allows all of us to understand you as a person better....and now we know some of the experiences you have gone through. i'm glad everything is working out now with you and your little girl...and that your ex is doing aight too. you are a wonderful man and i have no doubt one day you will meet the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with. :D
miss you xoxo! |
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| Wazup8012 |
| And if not Joey I can always "convince" a girl into dating you and making you happy. ;) :haha: |
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| madhattared |
bitches dude. i'm sick of girls who are like "i'm not the one for u but she's out there." i hate that. like they say that thinking its actually going to make me feel better as they carved out my heart with a dull spoon. right.
the only thing that really makes me feel better is this quote that i found somewhere
"You may climb to the highest mountain only to fall on each rock on the way down, You may fly to the highest height only to be scorched and burned by the Sun. But for had you not taken that first step, you would have gone nowhere and missed the journey all together."
when it comes down to it all u gotta do is follow your heart.
joey that story gives me the ultimate respect for you man. |
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| ZzZ The Goddess |
My thoughts on this is be more selective about who you choose to involve yourself with. Dont open up too easy. Wait to see if they are worth it. It really sucks when chicks play games and turn good guys bad. It makes it all the worse for when the right girl does come along and she is worthy of your time and by this point your are too fed up to realize the potential you may have with her.
All I can say is have some faith, in due time you will find the right person. |
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| DanAX |
i said fock love, fock romance, keep on being an ....
that way you won't get hurt no more.... |
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| Wazup8012 |
I just want to say that I am very pleased with all the posts in this thread I was unsure what kind of responses I would get. But so far I am happy, and like the way this is going.
Continue...:D |
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| Miss Bliss |
| Very cool guys... Adam, Brian, Joey, Dave, everyone else who has shared their experiences, that's really respectable of you all... seems like men have more of a heart than many girls realize :D ... all I can say is that I honestly believe that if you keep meeting people you will eventually find someone who will love you as much as you love them. I used to be the too, guys ;) I was the one who was out for ass and nothing else for a few years. But I eventually learned that there is nothing that I'd rather have than the relationship I'm having now. If there is someone who is so compatible with me out there, there are a few for you. :) |
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