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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by jonSun
Thats not a good thing if he's saying this after a year. I really dont think its the scared of commitment part if its not about marrige. I really dont think this relationship your "friend" is in is gonna last much longer. In the past I said the same to a girl after about a year & the relationship lasted only 5-6 more months & those months sucked becuase our feelings were on 2 different pages. |
actually ...i'm gonna have to agree with this to an extent...same happened to me. it just might mean that he is starting to lose interest or needs a little space or something...i dunno...
just think to yourself...what would be on your mind if you were with a guy for a year and were saying that kinda stuff? |
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| Miss Julia |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
maybe being together for a year is a big deal for him so he's worried about it getting really serious... |
What's there to worry about if you love the person, and they make you happy?
Shouldn't you feel blessed that you have someone that makes you happy? Love & happiness are not easy to find!! |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Julia
What's there to worry about if you love the person, and they make you happy?
Shouldn't you feel blessed that you have someone that makes you happy? Love & happiness are not easy to find!! |
hey you don't have to convince me...i agree hehehe...
i'm just saying that maybe he's thinking "wow a year"...maybe he hasn't had a lot of longer relationships in the past? |
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| Slylee |
i'm speaking from experience...go with my advice. my boyfriend broke it off back in august...at first i said i wanted to break up because he was treating me badly...then i sort of went back on it, and then he was like, "no i want to break up"...so technically he ended it...but still, i went and did my own thing, i barely called him at all...actually i dont think i ever initiated any calls during the break up..HE kept text messaging ME and calling me...and i was just keeping busy and acting like things were fine.
sure enough, he asked me out to dinner and said he needed to tell me something, and it turns out he couldn't live without me, and that the break up made him realize how much he needed me. :D
The End. Things have been awesome ever since. |
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| Miss Julia |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
maybe he hasn't had a lot of longer relationships in the past? |
The guy has had a past relationship that lasted for about a year and half... I believe. It was a few years ago. |
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| jonSun |
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Julia
What's there to worry about if you love the person, and they make you happy?
Shouldn't you feel blessed that you have someone that makes you happy? Love & happiness are not easy to find!! |
Im sorry to say guys dont think that way. Most of the time when guys are saying that they are thinking "maybe someone else can make me even happier". Thats what I was thinking when I was in a similar situation. I know its immature & selfish but at that time I was 24-25 & was like "am I really going to spend the rest of my life with her?". She didnt have eactly everything i wanted in a girl & at that time I still thought the perfect one was out there for me. I thought wait I love her but I really thought someone else could make me happier long term. Its selfish but I didnt want to sell myself short. But since then my thinking has changed some for the better. |
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| igottaknow |
If you really want to know you'll need to ask him. We only practice crackpot psyche here.  Sometimes the ability to communicate openly with your partner is more meaningful then telling each other that you love him/her. Put your cards on the table and demand he do the same. |
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| Miss Julia |
| I have to go run some errands right now, but keep the advice coming. I'll be back later to read all your posts. :) |
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| jonSun |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i'm speaking from experience...go with my advice. my boyfriend broke it off back in august...at first i said i wanted to break up because he was treating me badly...then i sort of went back on it, and then he was like, "no i want to break up"...so technically he ended it...but still, i went and did my own thing, i barely called him at all...actually i dont think i ever initiated any calls during the break up..HE kept text messaging ME and calling me...and i was just keeping busy and acting like things were fine.
sure enough, he asked me out to dinner and said he needed to tell me something, and it turns out he couldn't live without me, and that the break up made him realize how much he needed me. :D
The End. Things have been awesome ever since. |
Yes I agree with Slylee. Ive broken up with numerous girls & after I break up with them & I have some time to think alone I found out that with a few girls Ive wanted them back so bad. Then I call them & we talk & work it out. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, BIGTIME. |
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| Michael19 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee it sounds like he's having second thoughts about you and the relationship. this is what you need to do ASAP. you need to tell him that you are sort of confused too, and you think you want to explore other options and "find yourself" and take a break. then start going out and having fun and not calling him...only occasionally returning his calls.
if he loves you, he'll come running back crying like a baby. if he doesn't, then he obviously wasn't happy and was waiting for it to end. |
bad idea! :nervous:
if i was going out with a girl i loved and she broke up with me, i wouldnt bother calling and pretty much cuto ff all contact.
if you take the risk of "i am gonna let him ring me" chances are he wont bother and it will be over for good. |
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| Emil |
| Marriage is an archaic system that is not conducive to todays society. Live by those words, thanks.s |
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| Floorfiller |
| maybe my advice isn't any good here because i seem to think about things differently than average joe...i'd probably listen to some of what jon sun is saying... |
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