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Monogamy (pg. 2)
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| prolikewhoa |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
Cheating is for losers, and cheaters never feel the burn unless it happens to them.
I've not been cheated on, but I cant imagine how much it would hurt... |
i have, and it does. i think the worst feeling in the world (aside from losing someone you love) is being betrayed by someone you trusted/cared for/loved. it is the WORST thing you can do to a person in a relationship. why be with someone if you can't be only with them? if you care about a person, recognize that they deserve better than that. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
well how are you supposed to find someone you're compatible with if you don't date? |
thats what im saying, why is it unacceptable to date 5 people at the same time and just drop the ones not working?
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on "cheating" ...committed "I think we can make this work" relationships bad idea. Like marriage and what not. But if you both know youll ultimately never get married or live with one another and this is a 2 year relationship at best... neither of you really give a so why does it hurt. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
thats what im saying, why is it unacceptable to date 5 people at the same time and just drop the ones not working? |
well for casual dating i don't really see a problem with it, as long as you are straight-forward with the girls/guys you are seeing. and if anything serious starts developing, that's when the dropping of everyone else needs to get serious. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
But if you both know youll ultimately never get married or live with one another and this is a 2 year relationship at best... neither of you really give a so why does it hurt. |
because people see it as a reflection on them...they aren't good enough...they this, they that...
but as far as casual dating. i don't think anyone here would see a problem with that. its when you've committed to someone or things start getting serious and you still feel the need to cheat or see other people...that's when i see a problem. |
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| Estella |
| quote: | Originally posted by jonSun
Its sad, ive cheated on every girl ive been in a serious relationship with. Luckily none found out. But ive gotten better with each one. The last one I only cheated once & it was very early. |
hahaha. I'm sorry, I had to laugh and i know its not in the right context.
Orbax, men are allowed to be polygamists. You know that infamous double standard. I can see validity in what you're saying. The only exception in my opinion is that YOU are doing it because your intentions are sincere. Can't say the same for the other 3/4 of the population. A bit self-fulfilling as long as you don't drop those who don't make the cut too harsly.
Maybe it would decrease divorce percentages?
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| Orbax |
| but again, what is the difference (in the end) between polygamist committment and Serial Committment? |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
but again, what is the difference (in the end) between polygamist committment and Serial Committment? |
emotional connection...the connection established in short-term relationships where one quickly moves on to the next is not as strong as a in relationships where you are currently going out with someone and they are cheating. there is a sense of betrayal... |
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| Psy-T |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
but again, what is the difference (in the end) between polygamist committment and Serial Committment? |
your partners would feel worse knowing they arent getting your undivided attention :conf: |
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| Estella |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
but again, what is the difference (in the end) between polygamist committment and Serial Committment? |
The eventual oppression of woman in regions such as Saudi Arabia vs. America ? Maybe that is a bit far fetched, I don't know... |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
emotional connection...the connection established in short-term relationships where one quickly moves on to the next is not as strong as a in relationships where you are currently going out with someone and they are cheating. there is a sense of betrayal... |
Yea but are you saying that sense is any less present when someone breaks up with you because you found someone better?
and polygamy can go both ways Estella :P but guys wouldnt be down for that.
Sounds like you guys think there is a finite capacity for love and trust in the human mind :eyespop: |
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| Floorfiller |
| you know actually...more women that i know do this then men these days so i don't see any kind of opression of women going on. women have a greater opportunity to do this and they take it just as men have in the past... |
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| Orbax |
| I guess I need to refine the question. Are you arguing that people are weak minded and dont have an identity solidly defined enough to take rejection as an imcompatibility test and not that they are a bad person, or that monogamy is a morally incorrect action. |
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