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Monogamy (pg. 3)
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| Estella |
I'm speaking of other third world countries, on a global scale. Yes, it may not be as prevalent as in the past. But seriously, since when in developing country history have women been the oppressors? hahaaa could you imagine that. It would be like a slave drive. I can hear the whips, demands and profanities now.
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| Estella |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
I guess I need to refine the question. Are you arguing that people are weak minded and dont have an identity solidly defined enough to take rejection as an imcompatibility test and not that they are a bad person, or that monogamy is a morally incorrect action. |
Definately the first. I won't be modest. Even at 20 I can't take rejection. I have much to learn :D
Edit* Orbax, how many girlies do you have lined up in rotation?! |
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| Orbax |
I get annoyed at a lot of women who always talk about their ex-boyfriends as a tool to explain who they are. They wrap their identity up so much with the guy that its bound to fail, rejection is the best way to just drop a bad situation. Just walk away :)
So yeah, whats wrong with a cluster-F*** society where you meet someone, hang out in the commune, and once it goes south walk away and find someone else? |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Yea but are you saying that sense is any less present when someone breaks up with you because you found someone better?
and polygamy can go both ways Estella :P but guys wouldnt be down for that.
Sounds like you guys think there is a finite capacity for love and trust in the human mind :eyespop: |
well i guess how i'm kind of taking what you're saying is
1. dating multiple women at the same time
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2. dating exclusively, but starting to date again quickly after a breakup
ok so the first one can go a couple of ways...
if you are dating many women for extended amounts of time, then the emotional connection that each has with you will become stronger. the longer the individual relationships go on, the greater the sense of betrayal that individual will feel if they come to realise that you have been with other women at this time.
the other option for this would be dating many women at a time of searching for one that you would like to date exclusively, but ultimately at shorter lengths then above assuming that those are relatively committed, lengthy relationships. in this scenario, these shorter relationships would take place in a time frame in which no serious committment is made and both people are searching for someone to date more seriously. because both people are searching for someone to date exclusively, there isn't as great a feeling of betrayal because neither have committed to anything.
for the second option once again time is an issue. if you are in a serious long term relationship and then quickly start to date after it has ended, then that would definitely be painful. but at the same time, although you might feel inadequete or a sense of rejection, the fact that it was exclusive is more comforting because it leads to to believe that things didn't work out between you two not because of another person, but because of a separate issue between the two of you. you weren't betrayed...the person that broke up with you cares about you enough not to do that, they just don't feel the connection they once did. the relationship that takes place after that might is not any kind of reflection on you, its just the moving on of the other person... |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Estella
Edit* Orbax, how many girlies do you have lined up in rotation?! |
Ive never had a girlfriend :p |
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| Vlad |
| I guess its all about respect. Also, how can you truely get to know someone if youre busy pimpin' it up with 2 or 3 other girls. |
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| Orbax |
| thats like asking how you can have more than 1 friend at any given time. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Estella
I'm speaking of other third world countries, on a global scale. Yes, it may not be as prevalent as in the past. But seriously, since when in developing country history have women been the oppressors? hahaaa could you imagine that. It would be like a slave drive. I can hear the whips, demands and profanities now.
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well since arab countries are a completely different culture and aren't really relevant to my life in the united states...i was talking more about the culture that we live in obviously... |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
thats like asking how you can have more than 1 friend at any given time. |
the relationship between friends and spouse is different. i mean, you can have similar feelings of betrayal or something between friends, but you throw intimacy in between people and that just makes those feelings stronger... |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
thats like asking how you can have more than 1 friend at any given time. |
but you dont share deep physical intimacy with your friends.
If you do... you ahve a wikkid group of friends :D |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
the relationship between friends and spouse is different. i mean, you can have similar feelings of betrayal or something between friends, but you throw intimacy in between people and that just makes those feelings stronger... |
Well intimacy isnt a pre requisite for strong emotion, and even if it was, strong emotion like that which exists in the familial unit is way cooler than only having 1 family member alive right? |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
but you dont share deep physical intimacy with your friends.
If you do... you ahve a wikkid group of friends :D |
A harem would pwn |
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