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ex's as friends? (pg. 3)
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by goonerjack
*post*-relationship thread :sadgreen: :clown:
Anyway, something had been up between me and my gf of half a year... she had been ignoring me for a bit (put it down to stress in other areas of her life) but after I found out it was her ploy to make me dump her I decided it really wasn't worth continuing the relationship
So she did the whole crying thing, don't wanna lose/hurt me blah blah bull blah and says she wants to stay really close friends. At the moment I really don't want that after she's made me feel so crap and not been totally honest with me etc. - my friends don't do that
Although, I still do think she's a lovely girl - really do miss the way we used to be - and just wondering if these hurt feelings will subside and if it's worth persuing the friends thing... right now I can't see any advantages of sticking around apart from gaining another female contact, which are always handy...
thoughts? (sensible thoughts :p) |
Don't stay friends, just causes more heartache and issues in the long run. I JUST cut off all ties with my ex after 13 months of our breaking up. The last 13 months of having him in my life were a mistake. Seriously, don't do it. |
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| kossack |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Don't stay friends, just causes more heartache and issues in the long run. I JUST cut off all ties with my ex after 13 months of our breaking up. The last 13 months of having him in my life were a mistake. Seriously, don't do it. |
(i reluctantly agree, if you have the will to sever all ties, definitely the least painful way to go... and probably better for the both of you in the long run.) |
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| Aquarian |
| I guess if you can cut ties, it's probably the safe way to go. I tried the whole cutting her out of my life thing, but after a few months I just missed her so much it was unbearable. We're still friends today, but it's very very awkward at times. |
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| NEWYORKTRANCER |
| Tried it a few years back , bad idea won't work most of the time |
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It's possible - but only if the bf/gf feelings have passed from both of you. If one's harbouring feelings that the other isn't, when your time as a couple comes up, lightning will strike, and either you'll have a fight, or one will end up feeling hurt, dejected and lonely.
But otherwise, I've seen relationships spawn great friends after the breakup.. |
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| detdancediva |
Of course ur friends dont do that, they have a way different relationship with you then she does with you. I really do think exes could be friends all though it did'nt work out now it possibly could work out later and it might be something good for both of you, time will only tell but if she is not giving you time or energy on hanging out just doin the friend thing then i would say forget it.
Good Luck!!
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| Carriegsxr6 |
| Sorry, but it will never work. She will never quite respect you again, since she is the one who broke it off with you. :( |
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| Estella |
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works. All because of this little thing called sweet, sweet emotion.
But of course that doesn't mean you shouldn't try or rather doesn't mean you shouldn't allow yourself the temporary joy. :) |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by goonerjack
if it's worth persuing the friends thing... right now I can't see any advantages of sticking around apart from gaining another female contact, which are always handy...
thoughts? (sensible thoughts :p) |
if you still can her while being friends i would go for it. :haha: |
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| vrahnos |
MEN AND WOMEN CANT BE FRIENDS!
buddies maybe.... |
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| neoraver |
the problem is, as soon as u lose the person you loved, u automatically compare any other bf/gf with this person.
And for a period of time, u think that u will never find a person like him/her again in your life.
I personally think that it doesnt work, if it was a hard break-up and if it was from him/her side, and u still got feeling for him/her and feel like the partner has treated you unfair, then u will probably continue to have feelings for him/her, while she just wants to stay friends with you (if she wants to)
EDIT: my situation atm: gf said she cant have a relationship with me anymore, and that she cant continue this way, maybe in a few weeks, but not atm
now my question, shall I try to contact her in 2-3 weeks to see whats happening? |
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| dinoXpress |
ahh this thread is percect!
ojk when i left peru 6 months ago, i was in a pretty intense relationship with this chick, who is awesome and i love and is so ing hot and cool at the same time its insane <3.
we were never technically together, because neither of us cared about the officiality, but we knew we were together (<3perfection) and when i moved away from peru we had to break up. that long distance , thats bull and most of us know it.
so over the semestre we keep in contact, she hooks up with a boyfriend, and i do my thing etc etc etc. but the catch is we bioth still love each other and openly express it, cept were on different sides of the planet and i respect her for doing her own thing, and she is cool to my knowledged of me doin my thing. we still keep in contact and we had coffee the other day when i was in peru.
we chilled all day just like when we were together cept we didnf cuk around, which was cool, cuz if she cheated on her bf, no matter how much i got, i wouldnt respect her after for cheating, but did we both wanna get busy, and like , i still love this chick deeo down, but we cantr be together.
should i cut communications with her with a long heartfelt email? i mean hoenstly im stumped. |
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