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| Slylee |
here's the scoop...
i have this friend of mine who has always been really cool to hang out with, always has good pre-parties at his condo (the guy with the tables i practice on). i met him through my ex but my ex doesn't really talk to him any more and i ended up being better friends with him after i broke up with my ex.
ANYWAY...so he has a little arrogant side to him...like he's really not that good of a mixer, but you can tell he thinks he's like a god behind the decks. but whatever, i never really let it bother me. he's kind of a legend in his own mind, but always a fun guy to be around.
so over the weekend it was our friend's bday and everyone met at his condo for a pre-party. i decided to bring a bottle of vodka cuz he's a cheap bastard and sorta stingy, so i figured it would be polite since i'm sure everyone would be drinking his precious vodka. so we go there, we're all hanging out and spinning and i brought my boyfriend who has been there before and met this guy. even though he was friends with my ex, he has always seemed cool with my new boyfriend.
we partied and had a great night...but then my boyfriend brought something to my attention and it's really pissing me off now.
apparently they were both in the bathroom at the club and my boyfriend and him were just bullting in line and my boyfriend thanked him for "helping us get in the club" because he has really good hook ups and we just walked right in VIP. well my boyfriend said that after he thanked him, my friend had sort of an attitude and corrected him saying, "you mean getting you IN the club?" and then he just walked out of the bathroom. and my boyfriend said he felt like an ass.
i mean seriously, what the ? why would he act like that when my boyfriend was just being really nice and making conversation? i'm really annoyed and my boyfriend feels weird being around him now and isn't thrilled at the idea of going to his condo any more to hang out or god forbid, going clubbing with this guy so he can get us in. it's bull anyway because i don't have a problem getting into most clubs down here and we just happened to ride with him that night, so naturally we all walked in together. i'm sure i would have eventually gotten in with the rest of the crew since they got a table...but whatever, that's not the point. do you guys think it's worth mentioning? i really want to say something. |
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| dinoXpress |
Hmmm... i say leave it. personally.
its just his persoanlity, youve always found him to be a little cocky anyways, so just drop it.
However i lack relevant info on either party, but ur bf is ohsodreamy so i think he coulda gotten in by himself.... |
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| Miss Bliss |
| Honestly it sounds dumb and not worth it to me. If this guy's arrogant then that's the kind of thing he would say. Unless you are trying to turn him into a super nice guy, which you would never be able to do anyway, then I don't think it's even worth it. Your boyfriend shouldn't take it personally. Then again I'm quite a non-confrontational person. |
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| _Nut_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
here's the scoop...
i ....snip.... "you mean getting you IN the club?" ...snip... |
Maybe your boyfriend is ugly? |
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| Slylee |
my bf isn't confrontational at all either. and i really don't want to make a big stink about it, but i just wanted to sort of present it in a way like i'm asking if it's such a hassle to "get us in the club", and if so, then that's fine, he doesn't have to do us any favors. my boyfriend is super sweet and extremely genuine. he is not like any of the people down here, so i think he was sort of offended and now he feels like an ass going to his condo any more and i don't blame him.
i guess i was just embarrassed when my boyfriend told me that. i would never be a rude bitch like that to any of my friend's girlfriends. and my boyfriend isn't very familiar with such attitudes either because he's so damn nice so he was just really confused and like, "umm ok, sorry jeez". especially after we bought him a bottle of nice vodka...it's like what the . i'm extremely confrontational and i just really would like to see what he says when i bring it up. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by _Nut_
Maybe your boyfriend is ugly? |
uhh, that's a negative. |
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| dinoXpress |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
uhh, that's a negative. |
I guess he didnt get the memo... he is like.. ohsodreamy ;) :D :rolleyes: |
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| Rodrico |
Well, how close are you with this guy that got "your boyfriend" in? If you seem good friends, and have a decent relationship, its worth mentioning what that was all about. Just dont be angry and after he explains his reasons (truthful or not). Explain to him you would appreciate if he wouldn't come off that way, and if he is going to come off that way, you dont care to come over to his house or have his help to get into clubs anymore. There's definately something going on in that friends head of his.
EDIT: Either that, or he has a horrible sense of humour and it came out the wrong way. Like he meant that you would never need his help to get into any club? Taking a blind stab at this theory. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
Well, how close are you with this guy that got "your boyfriend" in? If you seem good friends, and have a decent relationship, its worth mentioning what that was all about. Just dont be angry and after he explains his reasons (truthful or not). Explain to him you would appreciate if he wouldn't come off that way, and if he is going to come off that way, you dont care to come over to his house or have his help to get into clubs anymore. There's definately something going on in that friends head of his. |
i'm pretty good friends with this guy. i mean pretty much every time i go to south beach, i go to his condo first for drinks and we hang out...we email each other fwds n stuff. he's definitely a good friend...that is why i feel the need to bring it up. it was completely uncalled for and somewhat disrespectful....and even though i've always known he has an arrogant side, i never would think he would act like such a little prick to my new boyfriend who is a sweetheart and very likeable...and most importantly, was JUST BEING POLITE.
i just want to say something like, "hey is it a problem for you to get my boyfriend into clubs with us or something?" and if he's like, "huh? what do u mean" then i want to say, "oh nothing because craig was sort of confused about a comment you made to him and i found it rather rude" and then tell him what he said...and see what he says. i'm not gonna like attack him or anything. |
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| Zewad |
my god jamie... you think wayyy too much...
this thread is why girls are hard to understand...
water under the bridge... shrug it off...
the guy is your friend.. give him the benifit of the doubt... and let it go,.. tell your bf the same.. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zewad
my god jamie... you think wayyy too much...
this thread is why girls are hard to understand...
water under the bridge... shrug it off...
the guy is your friend.. give him the benifit of the doubt... and let it go,.. tell your bf the same.. |
um no. i think i'd rather give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt over my very arrogant "friend" who i just party with on weekends. |
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| Zewad |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
um no. i think i'd rather give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt over my very arrogant "friend" who i just party with on weekends. |
ok,.. resume racking your brain for a solution...
it was just my 2cents... |
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