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| Rodrico |
| Sounds good to me. You should definately talk to him if your close. A third thing that could be is that, maybe this friend likes you more than he realizes, and is a bit jealous of your boyfriend. This could be his only way of really showing how he feels more superior to your boyfriend and comes off that way. Though I wouldn't think too much into this just yet as its the least bit probable of the other explainations. I guess it really depends on what he offers as an explaination and how he reacts to the situation. |
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| eRRaTiK |
you lost me at hello...
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| Slylee |
actually he's a closet fag. he has a girlfriend in NY but he cheats on her all the time and we had this openly flaming rich gay friend who moved out of the state, but a long time ago (you might remember the story) that gay friend got all yayed up with us (my ex and i) and confessed that this friend was a closet case with him...
everyone who meets him thinks he's gay. he just acts like a little bitch sometimes...like he'll sit there and bitch about having to pay $15 to get in a club, and it's not even about the money...it's because he's so arrogant, he doesn't think he should have to pay to get in because he's so cool. he's one of those...
i dunno though for some reason i've just always gotten along with him despite how obnoxious he is. i guess because none of that has ever directly affected me. i just always have a good time with him bla bla bla. but now he acted like a prick to my boyfriend and i just want to say something. |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zewad
my god jamie... you think wayyy too much...
this thread is why girls are hard to understand...
water under the bridge... shrug it off...
the guy is your friend.. give him the benifit of the doubt... and let it go,.. tell your bf the same.. |
Well this is one of the main differences between men and women. Women tend to be verbal and talk about their feelings, most tend to grow up this way. While men grow up and keep things towards themselves and deal with their own problems internally.
And lastly, why would you give your friend the benefit of the doubt over your own partner? |
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| Nabistai |
| He doesn't have to have feelings for Slylee, but like Hugh would say: "Just don't bring too many dudes" Know what I mean? |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
actually he's a closet fag. he has a girlfriend in NY but he cheats on her all the time and we had this openly flaming rich gay friend who moved out of the state, but a long time ago (you might remember the story) that gay friend got all yayed up with us (my ex and i) and confessed that this friend was a closet case with him...
everyone who meets him thinks he's gay. he just acts like a little bitch sometimes...like he'll sit there and bitch about having to pay $15 to get in a club, and it's not even about the money...it's because he's so arrogant, he doesn't think he should have to pay to get in because he's so cool. he's one of those...
i dunno though for some reason i've just always gotten along with him despite how obnoxious he is. i guess because none of that has ever directly affected me. i just always have a good time with him bla bla bla. but now he acted like a prick to my boyfriend and i just want to say something. |
Like I said, a least probable explaination, but I didn't want to rule out anything. Talk to the guy and see what he says, if hes a bitch about it, then walk away and dont deal with it. If he's sorry he will say so, if he feels bad, he should say sorry. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
Well this is one of the main differences between men and women. Women tend to be verbal and talk about their feelings, most tend to grow up this way. While men grow up and keep things towards themselves and deal with their own problems internally.
And lastly, why would you give your friend the benefit of the doubt over your own partner? |
exactly. my bf is a perfect example of that. also, i can tell that he is perfectly OK with me saying something because i asked him if i could (i didn't want to make a big scene if he didn't want me to). i'm sure it bothered him. if my boyfriend introduced me to some friends (females) and one of them acted that way towards me, i'd be pissed and not want to be around them any more...and i would certainly hope my boyfriend wouldn't shrug it off and defend her. |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
exactly. my bf is a perfect example of that. also, i can tell that he is perfectly OK with me saying something because i asked him if i could (i didn't want to make a big scene if he didn't want me to). i'm sure it bothered him. if my boyfriend introduced me to some friends (females) and one of them acted that way towards me, i'd be pissed and not want to be around them any more...and i would certainly hope my boyfriend wouldn't shrug it off and defend her. |
Ya cant really take it to heart, as boys were taught "not to cry" and to "walk it off". It just how we do. Were not as emotionally available as women, but were not completely shut off either (or shouldnt be). |
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| bluE_Neon |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
apparently they were both in the bathroom at the club and my boyfriend and him were just bullting in line and my boyfriend thanked him for "helping us get in the club" because he has really good hook ups and we just walked right in VIP. well my boyfriend said that after he thanked him, my friend had sort of an attitude and corrected him saying, "you mean getting you IN the club?" and then he just walked out of the bathroom. and my boyfriend said he felt like an ass.
i mean seriously, what the ? why would he act like that when my boyfriend was just being really nice and making conversation? i'm really annoyed and my boyfriend feels weird being around him now and isn't thrilled at the idea of going to his condo any more to hang out or god forbid, going clubbing with this guy so he can get us in. it's bull anyway because i don't have a problem getting into most clubs down here and we just happened to ride with him that night, so naturally we all walked in together. i'm sure i would have eventually gotten in with the rest of the crew since they got a table...but whatever, that's not the point. do you guys think it's worth mentioning? i really want to say something. |
Obviously the bloke is sexually frustrated and he knows he can't get any of you because you already have a boyfriend. In my mind, guys like that only try to go for your . Maybe you can keep him for attention purposes, use the guy or something. You know how to do. |
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| jonze234 |
| your boyfriend broke the guy code. :( |
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| Coup |
| neon shut up you dufuss. |
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| igottaknow |
Only read your 1st post. My take on it is...
he likes you more than a friend. when you broke up with your ex he wanted to get with you. Now your dragging your bf along when he really just invited you and he's pissed he's getting his nose rubbed in it. One other remote possibility is he likes you as a friend and considers your bf as an outsider who is tagging along. Either way its always a sticky situation when ppl take their bf/gf when they haven't been invited. |
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