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| samhouse |
very sorry to hear that...
definately never stop trying to help her..
and best of luck to you and your cousin..
I've seen this happen before to a close friend however not even close to as bad as you describe it :( |
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| Killah Monkey |
Reading this thread makes me think of a person in my life that has been down this spiral before we even started hanging out and is now going down that road again.
As her friends, she has been offered help, she has been encouraged to seek help through other resources, she refuses to admit it is a problem, so it has finally come to the point where she has been cut off in hopes she will find her way. This is a result of many negative instances due to her problems.
I am not sure if this was the best decision. I guess all we can do is try our best and be there when or if the time comes that they ask for our help again.
I mean we can all push and push our opinions on another person, but if they are not willing to change or accept help, you are not going to get through. We can just let them know we are there for them if they ever need us...IMO. |
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| StereoPrincess |
i think you are in a tough situation because she won't listen to you. you guys started doing all this stuff together so you are being a hypocrite if you say something.
every sunday i watch the intervention show on A&E and the theme always is to put up a front of support and send the addict away to deal with the problem. she is never going to deal with the problem here because there will always be a party and something going on that will pull her back in. |
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| DigitalMP |
1. She can't get help if she doesn't want it, so all good rehab idea are for not if she isn't willing. She has to believe she has a problem. It may end up being the police that make her realize this.
2. Telling her parents DOES seem like a good idea, because lsoing a firend is worth saving their life, but beware that she could disown her family and go her own way, since the drugs have more of a hold on her than eality.
3. NEVER stop trying, no matter how discouraged you are.
4. I haven't done hard drugs in ages, but I'll never introduce anyone to drugs again. No matter how bad you want a party buddy, it's not worth it. I'm glad I was always the type that could take or leave the party favors. |
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| jon jon |
| quote: | Originally posted by MzEargazm
Her life has now come to the point where it revolves around the next party |
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| MzEargazm |
| quote: | Originally posted by tatgirl
Maybe submit her name for a spot on the intervention show- as long as the border thing isn't an issue, they may do it- after all, they haven't done an episode on GHB:
http://www.aetv.com/intervention/participate/ |
Hey, it's worth a shot! BTW, thanks for everyone's concern! |
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| simms327 |
| I'm tempted to post the 'SRSLY? owl', but since this thread is serious and important, i won't. I wish you and your cousin good luck in getting her off the drugs. |
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| jasmyn |
| quote: | Originally posted by Killah Monkey
I mean we can all push and push our opinions on another person, but if they are not willing to change or accept help, you are not going to get through. We can just let them know we are there for them if they ever need us...IMO. |
yes -- until the person is ready to admit they have a problem and realize they need help, they will not see what you are trying to tell them.
I've been through enought b/s in the past couple months to realize that no matter how hard you try to be supportive of your friends, you will not get through to them unless they themselves are willing to listen to what you have to say. In most cases, you can keep talking and talking but not a word will get through to them because they are not in the right mindset to hear you.
question: what is the time period from when you introduced her to the drug scene to now? months, years?
edit: nevermind, i see 7 years! |
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| Skipper |
You can express your concern, but expect that she will not change until she WANTS to change.
It's a horrible thing to watch, but many ppl need to hit rock bottom before they turn things around. Sounds like she's not far from that point. |
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| girllovingtvibe |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
http://www.kelcom.igs.net/~sophrosyne/
This is in Windsor, On...I volunteer here. It's a good place...takes women 16+ and is strictly a group home for WOMEN and its free. If you're willing to pay a certain amount of money they have beds saved each intake for them. This is for when you need to get into the home immediatly. There's a waiting list...so I would recommend calling ASAP to get on the wait list. The last time I worked...the next intake was January 2. The intake worker works only on Monday's and Friday's, but you can leave msgs. It seems like it's a very good program to me.
If you have any questions, feel free to PM me. |
*two thumbs up* good one girl :) GOOD to see peeps like you out there :) |
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