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| MzEargazm |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
the problem is nobody in this thread including myself has any right to be offering advice.
thread should be closed and the chick that started this thread should seriously look for advice from her family and friends. |
Hey, I apologized for the depressing nature of this thread. I have already talked to my family and my friends. We are getting nowhere. Like I said, I am really in need of some different ideas to help out one of our fellow members of the scene. I figured that I might get some differnt advice or some new ideas from you guys, and I figured that perhaps some people could relate, or have had a similar experience. (BTW, thanks alot to those who actuallt give a sh*t) My cousin keeps pushing me away, and just to give you an idea of how bad the situation really is, she was in the hospital in a coma for four days just last week (thanks to G) and is already calling me up trying to plan a road trip to go to Tiesto in Montreal. This sh*t is real. If I can't turn to the people who make up the scene to offer some solid advice on a topic that can just as easliy affect you, as is it affecting my family, then what kind of people make up this whole scene in the first place. What the f ever happened to Peace, Love, Unity and Respect? |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by MzEargazm
Hey, I apologized for the depressing nature of this thread. I have already talked to my family and my friends. We are getting nowhere. Like I said, I am really in need of some different ideas to help out one of our fellow members of the scene. I figured that I might get some differnt advice or some new ideas from you guys, and I figured that perhaps some people could relate, or have had a similar experience. (BTW, thanks alot to those who actuallt give a sh*t) My cousin keeps pushing me away, and just to give you an idea of how bad the situation really is, she was in the hospital in a coma for four days just last week (thanks to G) and is already calling me up trying to plan a road trip to go to Tiesto in Montreal. This sh*t is real. If I can't turn to the people who make up the scene to offer some solid advice on a topic that can just as easliy affect you, as is it affecting my family, then what kind of people make up this whole scene in the first place. What the f ever happened to Peace, Love, Unity and Respect? |
sorry my post had nothing to do with ur cousin or u or was putting u down for asking for advice on a public forum. if u took it that way i apologize. i just think ppl seem to be criticizing ur cousin for going full out and some ppl at times are not to far behind.
ive been one to go passed my limit too. all im saying is that some pplare giving advice who really shouldnt be.
and im one of them. i shouldnt give any advice on this matter cause iv have a pass of partying wayyyy to hard too. but ill tell u one thing, there was one simple thing i did to stop partying hard. i had the urge to stop doing doing it. and if she doesnt have the urge to stop her ways theres nothing in the world u can do |
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| Cosmopolitan82 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Skipper
It's a horrible thing to watch, but many ppl need to hit rock bottom before they turn things around. Sounds like she's not far from that point. |
Unfortunately, rock bottom = death in some cases... Take action before its too late.
I agree with most of the advice here - Talk to her parents, help her to seek counselling, intervention...etc.. If she hates you forever for telling her parents, or even the cops.. I think it would be worth it in the long run to see her have a healthy lifestyle.
But something important to remember is that you cant be a hypocrite and keep on partying. Even if you arent as hardcore as she is or you dont see yourself as an addict or whatnot, its totally a slap in the face if she is making efforts to help herself - but her biggest supporter is out having a good time.
Leading by example is one of the most effective things you are empowered to do. If I were in her shoes, I would want someone to be there by my side and go through it with me. Having someone to rely on to keep me busy and away from temptation.
- Just some thoughts from someone who's never been in a situation like this.. I might not know what Im talking about, but maybe there are some helpful suggestions that fit into your situation.
Good luck and let us know how things go |
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| Fir3start3r |
Wow.
Has anyone really had a serious talk with her yet??
How can she be one step out of the hospital and one to Montreal??? :wtf:
She obviously has no respect for herself or her family but figures if she ignores the problem, it goes away, only to reward herself with a great time and complete this vicious cycle.
I don't mean to sound disrespectful, I just want to sound truthful.
Does she have any idea what she's putting her family through?
There is a serious lack of understanding on your cousin's part by the sounds of it unfortunately.
Some of the above advice sounds like a great idea, especially the intervention.
I understand it's difficult because legally you can't force them to what they don't want to do.
One suggestion I do have however is that if she's still living at home, her parents better start laying down the law of the house.
This does have the potential to backfire but if done properly, is a huge advantage in cleaning up her act.
I wish you all the best. |
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| infinity HiGH |
it's not easy giving advice on something like this.
Have you really tried putting everything into perspective for her? Show her how it's destroying her life? Ask her whether going on that roadtrip is really a wise idea. Does she TRULY believe that after spending 4 days in the hospital it's worth it, to go through that again? Or is it time to take a break from it all. Life doesn't revolve around partying. There's more to it than that.
Above all, you need to somehow get through to her; get her to realize and remember that this isn't who she was and that it's tearing her family up, and it's ruining her.
I don't know what else to say...except that I truly hope that you're successful in this, and that you don't give up on her. Good luck. |
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| Fir3start3r |
Does she have any major responsibilities?
Something to tear her mind off the next hit/party?
A family member to take care of or babysitting a family member?
I say family because if something goes wrong, it's family ;) |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
all im saying is that some pplare giving advice who really shouldnt be. |
How do you know who's qualified to give advice and who isn't?
There isn't really much "advice" anyway. There aren't a lot of options. It's either (a) do nothing, or (b) get other people involved.
Addicts don't respond well to logic or reason. The only action one can take is to bank on their emotions (with something like an intervention) or use some sort of force (i.e. getting the family/cops involved and having her checked into rehab). |
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| infinity HiGH |
Also, maybe try introducing her, or getting her to talk to people who are in the scene also, but a lot more responsible. From the looks of it, it seems like the people she parties with are having a negative impact on her life too. Maybe she just needs some more positive influence.
....I'm just throwin out idea's here. |
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| MzEargazm |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fir3start3r
Does she have any major responsibilities?
Something to tear her mind off the next hit/party?
A family member to take care of or babysitting a family member?
I say family because if something goes wrong, it's family ;) |
Her only major responsibilty is her job. |
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| Cosmic Fur |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
How do you know who's qualified to give advice and who isn't?
There isn't really much "advice" anyway. There aren't a lot of options. It's either (a) do nothing, or (b) get other people involved.
Addicts don't respond well to logic or reason. The only action one can take is to bank on their emotions (with something like an intervention) or use some sort of force (i.e. getting the family/cops involved and having her checked into rehab). |
I hate you for being so right like 99% of the time.
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by girllovingtvibe
*two thumbs up* good one girl :) GOOD to see peeps like you out there :) |
Thanks Penny...although personally I think my suggestion is pretty good the thread started doesn't seem to care or has skimmed over it b/c I have gotten no response.
Also...there is a pre-program available if clients have to be on a wait list, in order to prepare them for treatment and get them into detox. |
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| vinny_vegas |
| friends don't let friends do ketamine .: |
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