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Personal Problem Of The Week (pg. 2)
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| Floorfiller |
| probably the only way to know for sure is to come on to her....and then when she says "hey let's boink" you bust her and tell your friend... |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
If this girl is a cheater, she'll cheat on any partner she's with, regardless if he's the perfect man or not. |
DAMN IT, I guess all my effort to be the perfect man is wasted then!
note, this is not to indicate that my wife is a cheater..... I don't think she is....... if she is I really hope I catch her so we can have a good long talk and make this an open marriage............ |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
probably the only way to know for sure is to come on to her....and then when she says "hey let's boink" you bust her and tell your friend... |
No you'll actually need to bang her and get photos. As much as that would work for ygrene's buddy I think he'll have trouble with his wife...... "no really honey, I was just trying to help Bob out...." |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
probably the only way to know for sure is to come on to her....and then when she says "hey let's boink" you bust her and tell your friend... |
This is faulty though, because I've been known to make even non-cheaters cheat.
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| Silky Johnson |
| I say go ahead and tell him if you have proof. But you have to help him to understand that her cheating isn't a reflection of anything he's done wrong...because that's what will really crush him. He'll be wondering "What did I do?", etc. and it will be a huge blow to his ego. He needs to understand that she cheated because she is a selfish whore who has no idea what the institution of marriage is all about, nor what it means to truly love someone. Then tell him to go to the divorce lawyer and take that bitch for all she's worth. It should be easy if he's got proof. |
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| Jocker |
what will crush him even more, is when (it's not if, it's when) he finds out himself, and he'll also find out that his friends have kept silence and made a fool of him.
yeah, truth hurts, but lies to close the friends eyes from the hurtful reality is even worse.
if you really are his friend, it is your obligation to tell him |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I say go ahead and tell him if you have proof. But you have to help him to understand that her cheating isn't a reflection of anything he's done wrong... |
Or you could go the other way and tell him that it's 'cause his penis is too small...... just for fun of course. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
This is a load of crap. People cheat because they have internal issues, not because of anything their partner has or hasn't done.
Relationships take work, and real love is even more work. You don't just go cheat when things get boring or whatever. That's ing weak.
If this girl is a cheater, she'll cheat on any partner she's with, regardless if he's the perfect man or not. |
not really. what about stay at home moms who are married to workaholics who are rarely home and never even take them out for a nice dinner or have sex with them...usually that's because their husband is probably screwing someone at the office, but they don't really have proof.
it's easier said than done to just slap someone with a divorce when you have kids to raise and a nice home and some stability. it's sad and ugly, but it happens, and i don't necessarily think that every person who cheats is a piece of with internal issues. i think a lot of men and women tend to ignore or take their partner for granted at some point in the marriage and sometimes when someone new pays attention to them, they get caught up in it all and then feel absolutely horrible after it's all said and done.
oh and ygrene, if u really feel like she is a rotten bitch who is a pathalogical liar (or did u mean compulsive? pathological liars believe their own lies whereas compulsive liars can't speak the truth if they have a gun to their head), then skip the confrontation and do what you would want done if you were in his situation. would u want to know? |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
This is faulty though, because I've been known to make even non-cheaters cheat.
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oh SNAP! :stongue: :p |
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| LuNaSeA |
slylee/ygrene: i think going straight to the wife is a really bad idea. the confrontation there alone will most likely escalate and on top of that, she might use ygrene's confrontation against him by telling her husband and getting her husband to inturn confront ygrene and be all like "why you stepping up to my wife" and whatnot. not good. and what are the chances she would actually confess to ygrene? and if she did confess, she can still turn around that continue lying to her husband that ygrene's lying, she never confessed about cheating and that he was lying instead bc he doesn't like her, etc.. i mean there are tons of possibilities and none of which i can see is half-decent.. but if your point is to just blow the out of the water, then yea i guess that gets the job done.
i was gonna suggest getting a few friends together and try to have a heart to heart with your friend, but i think it's important not to have more than 1-2 people there (3 max) bc or else it will make it really humiliating and frustating for him to have a group of his friend basically tell him his 2nd marriage has gone to as well.. i think the most important thing is to first tell him that you guys are there for support and as friends and that you want the best for him, etc before you tell him. and once again, i agree with moral.. find out 100% before you decide to do anything. |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I say go ahead and tell him if you have proof. But you have to help him to understand that her cheating isn't a reflection of anything he's done wrong...because that's what will really crush him. He'll be wondering "What did I do?", etc. and it will be a huge blow to his ego. He needs to understand that she cheated because she is a selfish whore who has no idea what the institution of marriage is all about, nor what it means to truly love someone. Then tell him to go to the divorce lawyer and take that bitch for all she's worth. It should be easy if he's got proof. |
I agree. He did confide in me that he had considered serving her papers previously but, for a seperate non-cheating related incident. I don't think you can get to that point without realizing that maybe your partner has a few problems.
Nonetheless, if everything comes out, it'll still be a tough pill to swallow. I know I would have a hard time dealing with it just ONCE let alone twice.
Maybe I'll marry him just to keep him safe from here on out. |
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| Floorfiller |
Ygrene...just ask yourself one question...
WWJD?
what would jason do?
i think you have your answer... |
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