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Boy troubles!!
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| Theresa |
OK... so:
-I am single, and have pretty much been single for almost 2 years.
PROBLEM 1:
-Guy A is VERY interested in me. About a year ago he made tonnes of effort of getting my attention, to which I practically shunned him and stopped talking to him. After that time, I figured it was safe to talk to him again, assuming that he had gotten the hint. I was wrong. He still totally likes me and wants to be with me, and is making effort *Valentines day plans - which I have not agreed to participating in,* and everything. I think he thinks that there is potential for something more between us, but I don't feel the same way. I value his friendship, so I don't want to hurt him, but I also don't want to lead him on.
PROBLEM 2:
-Guy B is a good friend of mine from highschool. I used to have a massive crush on him, but either I was in a relationship, or he was, preventing us from pursuing the other. He became single within the last 6 months, and we started hanging out a lot more (as friends). Last night, after going out for drinks, he admitted to me that he liked me more than a friend, and wanted to be a "couple". I said I needed to sleep on it. I like this guy, but I know he JUST got over his ex. I am also wary of being in a relationship, and either losing his friendship and/or hurting him.
PROBLEM 3:
-Guy C is an old friend. He and I have always joked around and jokingly flirted, but I think there is a good understanding that nothing could ever happen between us. We hadn't hung out for quite some time, so we met up tonight for some food and coffee. Afterward, he suggested we go and hang out at his place to talk and chill out, (which seems normal since he and I are like brother and sister). We go there, and everything is awesome and neutral for about 3 hours.
-I have told Guy C about the well endowment of my first boyfriend. We are "close like that", so we joke around about it and whatever.
-Later on this evening, Guy C suddenly gets weird and starts asking me about my first boyfriends "endowment". I say that I have nothing to compare to in the general terms, but I show with hand gestures from what I remember him being. Then he turns on some porn for me to compare to. I compare, and give my honest opinion, thinking this would be the end of it, but he lets the porn play on.
-I have never watched porn, so massive weirdness for me!!
-Guy C then asks more questions, and even suggests he show me his own so that I can give my objective opinion on is endowment. I decline, and then suggest about 2 minutes later that I go home.
Now perhaps he thinks we are close enough where this is ok and comfortable, but I was massive weirded out. What the hell do I make of this?!
Men have been nothing but the cause of trouble for me this last few days. ARGH! |
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| Omega_Blue |
OMG DOUBLE POST!!!11
which guy is most compatible with you? then choose accordingly...
guy a is a weirdo, guy b sounds ok... guy c sounds like he tried to awkwardly proposition you for sex :stongue:
im gonna try that the next time i wanna get laid. "how big was your ex-bf's cock? would you like to see mine, and compare?"
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| fitom tiel |
| i'd probably go for Guy B if i really wanted to be with someone. Guy C if i really wanted to be with somebody, physically (i'm thinking he thinks he's well-endowed, but what's that worth). |
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| idoru |
| Guy B would be my best bet, however I'd give him a couple of weeks seeing as how he just got over his ex. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
OMG DOUBLE POST!!!11
which guy is most compatible with you? then choose accordingly...
guy a is a weirdo, guy b sounds ok... guy c sounds like he tried to awkwardly proposition you for sex :stongue:
im gonna try that the next time i wanna get laid. "how big was your ex-bf's cock? would you like to see mine, and compare?"
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Guy A is a nice guy, but seems to almost like me too much, if that makes sense. I dunno, I feel he comes on too strong, like he is trying too hard, and that freaks me right out.
Guy B is a sweet heart. I really like him, but I don't want to be a "rebound", (which I already told him, and he assured me would not be the case). I also don't think he has been single long enough to know what he wants, and wonder if maybe he just wants to get into a relationship because that's what he's used to.
Not to mention I am a massive commitmentphobe, so I don't like the idea of being tied down to one person.
Guy C has never ever ever ever before shown me any reason to wonder about his intentions. We have hung out alone before, and we have been friends for a couple of years. We seem to have a very close friendship where we can tell each other just about everything, however, I didn't think we were close enough to be giving objective views of the others anatomy. Perhaps I am a prude or something, but I was so weirded out.
WTF?!?! |
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| Omega_Blue |
:stongue: you know, now that i think about it, i give that guy props for saying something like that. i don't think i've got the balls to say something like that out of the blue.
"i'll show you mine if you show me yours... but only for.. uh.. comparison... err.."
i mean, seriously, how can you follow up with a classic move like that? |
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| fitom tiel |
| so what are you actually confused about? |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Guy A is a nice guy, but seems to almost like me too much, if that makes sense. I dunno, I feel he comes on too strong, like he is trying too hard, and that freaks me right out.
Guy B is a sweet heart. I really like him, but I don't want to be a "rebound", (which I already told him, and he assured me would not be the case). I also don't think he has been single long enough to know what he wants, and wonder if maybe he just wants to get into a relationship because that's what he's used to.
Not to mention I am a massive commitmentphobe, so I don't like the idea of being tied down to one person.
Guy C has never ever ever ever before shown me any reason to wonder about his intentions. We have hung out alone before, and we have been friends for a couple of years. We seem to have a very close friendship where we can tell each other just about everything, however, I didn't think we were close enough to be giving objective views of the others anatomy. Perhaps I am a prude or something, but I was so weirded out.
WTF?!?! |
yup, i think you hit the nail on the head with all three of these. guy a really REALLY likes you.. a little too much, a little too creep-ily.. he's the obsessive-stalker type i bet
guy c was obviously looking for the whole time. suggesting to go back to his place should be a heads-up for you.. i think you might've known that though. so in my opinion he sat there for three hours trying to figure out how he could go about getting you in the sack, and finally came up with a half-assed question.. "HOW BIG IS YOUR EX's PEN0R??" in hilarious. he tried though. then you straight-up blew him off :stongue: that must've been embarassing
guy b is the way to go i think. it can't hurt just to go on a date or two and feel him out a bit, you know? |
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| Theresa |
Well it isn't a matter of which guy I would pick out of the three or anything; I know it would be Guy B... I mean, that is a no-brainer.
I just need help in how to deal with them individually. How do I keep the friendship with Guy A and stop this massive liking me madness? Or is that not possible?
Should I try out the Guy B, or am I just asking for trouble?
And Guy C... well WTF?!?! That JUST happened like... an hour ago, so I am still recovering from weirdness! |
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| fitom tiel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
Guy C... :( |
are you Guy C? |
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| fitom tiel |
well, you've analysed everything in the situation but the most important part: yourself.
you know why each of them would or would not be ready for a relationship. are you? if so, are you ready to deal with the consequences? and by that, i mean: Guy B is probably the best choice. however, it seems like it would be something stable, something long-term, and that it would involve some sort of commitment. if you are so ready for this, then you would also have to: "reject" Guy A, and somehow disregard Guy C. this shouldn't be a problem, as Guy A is a friend and has possibly received no interest from you, and Guy C should indeed be disregarded. the hardest thing to face, i think, is, the commitment that you are (possibly) about to enter.
if you feel so ready, i'd say go for it. but stick to it. there's also the friendship at stake. |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
Guy C... :( |
hitting a little close to home, nou? :p
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Well it isn't a matter of which guy I would pick out of the three or anything; I know it would be Guy B... I mean, that is a no-brainer.
I just need help in how to deal with them individually. How do I keep the friendship with Guy A and stop this massive liking me madness? Or is that not possible?
Should I try out the Guy B, or am I just asking for trouble?
And Guy C... well WTF?!?! That JUST happened like... an hour ago, so I am still recovering from weirdness! |
I would cut off guy a. period. you don't want a friendship with a psycho, and he'll never think of you as a friendship. he's too infatuated with you. you're just that hot chick he knows that he wants to sleep with.
guy c.. well if you guys are really good friends, you'll both forget it ever happened and keep living life as usual. don't worry, he's probably jacking it right now anyways :stongue:
i'd say, once again, guy b if anything, but maybe you should hold off on him for a little bit too just to see if he gets back with his ex or something. then you'll know you were a rebound.
edit- i just realized you said you "value guy a's friendship" so in that case.. just be honest with him and tell him that nothing will ever happen between you and him. that's about all you can do, and if he's not getting the picture, stop associating yourself with him.
and on second thought, if you really think guy b is attractive and you've got a crush on him, you might as well just sex him up, especially since you don't like "commitment." it's what both of you guys really want, admit it |
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