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Boy troubles!! (pg. 2)
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| Theresa |
I am pretty naive sometimes when it comes to guys. I am willing to admit this, because there has been more than once where I thought a guys intentions were totally honourable, then later found out I was terribly wrong.
Guy C threw me for a loop though. Like I said, we have been friends for quite some time, and never once did I EVER question if he wanted to get into my pants. We have a very "sibling-like" relationship, and we both made it clear that we were happy with that. Maybe he was sincerely insecure and wanted me to take a look? Or maybe he was just horny and hoped I would get snagged by the hook?
I honestly did not think for even a split second that Guy C would do something like that. Going back to his place was 100% innocent to me.
Are ALL guys only interested in one thing?! Is there even a such thing as men and women being able to have sincere friendships?! |
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| fitom tiel |
i think men most generally misinterpret events as either advances on part of the female, or as the female accepting their advances. so, for the most part, real friendships do exist, but only under special circumstances where...where sex is entirely out of the question, really, for whatever reason.
tough. |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Are ALL guys only interested in one thing?! Is there even a such thing as men and women being able to have sincere friendships?! |
Maybe youre just easy looking? |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I am pretty naive sometimes when it comes to guys. I am willing to admit this, because there has been more than once where I thought a guys intentions were totally honourable, then later found out I was terribly wrong.
Guy C threw me for a loop though. Like I said, we have been friends for quite some time, and never once did I EVER question if he wanted to get into my pants. We have a very "sibling-like" relationship, and we both made it clear that we were happy with that. Maybe he was sincerely insecure and wanted me to take a look? Or maybe he was just horny and hoped I would get snagged by the hook?
I honestly did not think for even a split second that Guy C would do something like that. Going back to his place was 100% innocent to me.
Are ALL guys only interested in one thing?! Is there even a such thing as men and women being able to have sincere friendships?! |
see above edit.
every guy on this board knows he was trying to get in your pants, even if they won't admit it. he's probably found you attractive this entire time, and was using the terrible mistake of being the "nice guy" to you. sure he's your friend, but in the back of his mind, the entire time, he was thinking about the possibility of sex with you.
this kinda relates to freud's theory of sex and agression, and while i think for the most part he was a nutcase, i see where he's coming from in situations such as these.
guys are interested in relationships too, but you can't deny that we all love sex. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
hitting a little close to home, nou? :p
I would cut off guy a. period. you don't want a friendship with a psycho, and he'll never think of you as a friendship. he's too infatuated with you. you're just that hot chick he knows that he wants to sleep with.
guy c.. well if you guys are really good friends, you'll both forget it ever happened and keep living life as usual. don't worry, he's probably jacking it right now anyways :stongue:
i'd say, once again, guy b if anything, but maybe you should hold off on him for a little bit too just to see if he gets back with his ex or something. then you'll know you were a rebound.
edit- i just realized you said you "value guy a's friendship" so in that case.. just be honest with him and tell him that nothing will ever happen between you and him. that's about all you can do, and if he's not getting the picture, stop associating yourself with him.
and on second thought, if you really think guy b is attractive and you've got a crush on him, you might as well just sex him up, especially since you don't like "commitment." it's what both of you guys really want, admit it |
OK... fitom, I don't think I understood your post.
Omega, I appreciate your response. The truth of the matter is, that in fact Guy C and I will probably move on acting like this never happened. But I am still WTF'ing.
Guy A is the toughest one. I know he REALLY likes me, and I think that he has good intentions, (perhaps my being naive again and thinking that people are really good at heart). I don't want to hurt him, and I don't want to lose his friendship. I am starting to come to the realization that it's too bad for me, because neither are probably unavoidable.
So how do I tell him easily? What should I do to make the "seperation" go smoothly. I don't think he will let things go without a bit of a fight.
Guy B I am still thinking about. I think I will go with the straight up approach and tell him that I am only interested in a non-exclusive dating situation, at least until something changes.
And yea, I wanna sex him up :D |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by fitom tiel
i think men most generally misinterpret events as either advances on part of the female, or as the female accepting their advances. so, for the most part, real friendships do exist, but only under special circumstances where...where sex is entirely out of the question, really, for whatever reason.
tough. |
BWAHAHA!!! so true, so true.
why do we have to play the games? why couldn't people just be like, "I find you attractive and interesting, wanna get a drink?" it'd make things so much easier
the reason you think a guy's intentions are honorable, theresa, is because he was trying to do the nice-guy, friends-first-relationship-later routine that rarely works.. of course you don't realize their intentions at first- it's because they don't want you to realize it right away.
i wonder why that is... |
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| Clovis86 |
Canadian guys are weird.
:wtf: |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
BWAHAHA!!! so true, so true.
why do we have to play the games? why couldn't people just be like, "I find you attractive and interesting, wanna get a drink?" it'd make things so much easier
the reason you think a guy's intentions are honorable, theresa, is because he was trying to do the nice-guy, friends-first-relationship-later routine that rarely works.. of course you don't realize their intentions at first- it's because they don't want you to realize it right away.
i wonder why that is... |
But for nearly 3 years?!?!
NEVER ONCE did he even hint to wanting to sleep with me. He knows I am not interested in him, I have even said "it would be like doing my brother." Why would he suddenly spring this on me? WTF?! |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Clovis86
Canadian guys are weird.
:wtf: |
And that is why I am moving to Australia...
LOL!
Nah, they're probably just as bad there as they are here. But at least they have the accent going for them :D |
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| Clovis86 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
But for nearly 3 years?!?!
NEVER ONCE did he even hint to wanting to sleep with me. He knows I am not interested in him, I have even said "it would be like doing my brother." Why would he suddenly spring this on me? WTF?! |
See above. |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
OK... fitom, I don't think I understood your post.
Omega, I appreciate your response. The truth of the matter is, that in fact Guy C and I will probably move on acting like this never happened. But I am still WTF'ing.
Guy A is the toughest one. I know he REALLY likes me, and I think that he has good intentions, (perhaps my being naive again and thinking that people are really good at heart). I don't want to hurt him, and I don't want to lose his friendship. I am starting to come to the realization that it's too bad for me, because neither are probably unavoidable.
So how do I tell him easily? What should I do to make the "seperation" go smoothly. I don't think he will let things go without a bit of a fight.
Guy B I am still thinking about. I think I will go with the straight up approach and tell him that I am only interested in a non-exclusive dating situation, at least until something changes.
And yea, I wanna sex him up :D |
don't approach guy b like that. he'll be cool with it, i'm sure, but i think the smoothest way to do it is to go out and have some drinks with him, go home with him, sex him up, and THEN tell him you don't want commitment. or tell him right before the sex. he won't say no.
i wouldn't worry about guy c. though it'll be pretty humorous/awkward for the next few days i'm sure
guy a, well, if he's really a sincerely nice guy, just looking for the possibility of a relationship, and not a stalker-type, then he should accept you being straightforward about the relationship with him. like i said before, if he can't accept that, you shouldn't associate with him.
whatever you do, best of luck :p |
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| Clovis86 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
Because it build and builds and builds and BUILDS and you cant stand it anymore and you feel like you are going ing NUTS.
Believe me, I was guy C times 10000000... |
So what did she think of it? |
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