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Boy troubles!! (pg. 3)
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Clovis86
See above. |
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| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
But for nearly 3 years?!?!
NEVER ONCE did he even hint to wanting to sleep with me. He knows I am not interested in him, I have even said "it would be like doing my brother." Why would he suddenly spring this on me? WTF?! |
just the fact that you had a conversation about whether you two would have sex or not should tell you that he's obviously interested in you sexually. otherwise it would never come up in conversation.
you gotta remember, 99.99% of men rarely have female-friends as "just friends" and nothing more. the thought of sex is always in the back of our heads. otherwise, in most cases (though some will disagree), we probably wouldn't be friends with you. srsly.
nou is right.. |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
I mean I would do her |
there you go. don't lie to yourself, don't try to defend yourself.. we all know.
lol @ the ladder gif |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
Well I meant its like I wouldnt NOT do her for some reason... but I mean , lol cant even beat off to the thought of her, and I can beat of to just about ANYTHING! :wtf: |
ok now the thread just got weird. :stongue:
bedtime |
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| bidor |
| Guy B, sounds ok to me:) |
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| Cloudburst |
| so... which one is FF? |
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| washout |
depends.
id have to know the following to properly advise u.
are u fat ??
are u ugly ??
do u have kids ??
are you attractive ??
staight teeth ?? |
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| washout |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
n00b |
a kitten will die for your insults. |
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| THE_Chris |
Its all confusing.
Remember tho the golden rule. Women can have a group of men they fancy and a seperate group of men who they just want to be friends with. Men ONLY have a group of women who they fancy. We do NOT make friends with a woman unless we want to her.
Why women cant get a grasp of this idea is beyond me. MEN DO NOT WANT TO BE JUST FRIENDS WITH WOMEN. GIRLS IF A MAN TALKS TO YOU HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU, HE WANTS TO ROOT YOU.
Armed with that information look at your situation again.
Edit: And dont fall into the trap of thinking "this mans different, he REALLY DOES want to be just friends." Trust me, he doesnt. He still wants to take your pants off with his teeth. |
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| Ian |
| Guy B. you say he's broken up a few months, tha t's enough imo |
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| Marc Summers |
Personally, I would say Guy B is going to break your heart! It won't last!
And Guy C will end up cutting locks of your hair, and will eventually make a Theresa Shrine, and you will find this, and get creeped out. Break up in 3 weeks.
Guy A will always be at your side, and will bend over backwards to make you happy. Unfortunately we call Guy A, "softy", and you will never break up with him because you feel bad. You will get married and have two children, and those children will be computer nerds. Your children will end up supporting you because Guy A is always losing his jobs, because he is a pushover, and expendable. You will cheat on him many times.
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
OK... so:
-I am single, and have pretty much been single for almost 2 years.
PROBLEM 1:
-Guy A is VERY interested in me. About a year ago he made tonnes of effort of getting my attention, to which I practically shunned him and stopped talking to him. After that time, I figured it was safe to talk to him again, assuming that he had gotten the hint. I was wrong. He still totally likes me and wants to be with me, and is making effort *Valentines day plans - which I have not agreed to participating in,* and everything. I think he thinks that there is potential for something more between us, but I don't feel the same way. I value his friendship, so I don't want to hurt him, but I also don't want to lead him on. |
i think you're right about what you said and leading him on. guys are stupid...if you give them any sign of their being a chance, they are going to keep trying. i know it's hard because you guys are friends, but you need to let him know...because if you can't be friends without his feelings getting in the way (if he does still have feelings) then i don't really see how you can remain friends with him. you need to be honest about everything with him...make it clear, but try to do it in a nice way.
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PROBLEM 2:
-Guy B is a good friend of mine from highschool. I used to have a massive crush on him, but either I was in a relationship, or he was, preventing us from pursuing the other. He became single within the last 6 months, and we started hanging out a lot more (as friends). Last night, after going out for drinks, he admitted to me that he liked me more than a friend, and wanted to be a "couple". I said I needed to sleep on it. I like this guy, but I know he JUST got over his ex. I am also wary of being in a relationship, and either losing his friendship and/or hurting him.
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i think that your concern about him just getting out of a relationship is a good one. being that you guys have been good friends, you should have a pretty good idea of how experienced he is in dating and how he might've handled similar situations in the past. i wouldn't be too worried about him using you as a rebound if you guys have been good friends. as far as being wary because of the friendship thing...well that's either something you are comfortable with or not. what's his personality like? is he still friends with any of his ex's? he's probably avoided telling you about feelings before because like you, he values your friendship. it's true that friendships can get a little wierd after people have dated or messed around, but i don't think it should stop you from going for it if you think that's what you want. if you do it though...you should realize that it's a possibility and be willing to except any concequences with the friendship...
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PROBLEM 3:
-Guy C is an old friend. He and I have always joked around and jokingly flirted, but I think there is a good understanding that nothing could ever happen between us. We hadn't hung out for quite some time, so we met up tonight for some food and coffee. Afterward, he suggested we go and hang out at his place to talk and chill out, (which seems normal since he and I are like brother and sister). We go there, and everything is awesome and neutral for about 3 hours.
-I have told Guy C about the well endowment of my first boyfriend. We are "close like that", so we joke around about it and whatever.
-Later on this evening, Guy C suddenly gets weird and starts asking me about my first boyfriends "endowment". I say that I have nothing to compare to in the general terms, but I show with hand gestures from what I remember him being. Then he turns on some porn for me to compare to. I compare, and give my honest opinion, thinking this would be the end of it, but he lets the porn play on.
-I have never watched porn, so massive weirdness for me!!
-Guy C then asks more questions, and even suggests he show me his own so that I can give my objective opinion on is endowment. I decline, and then suggest about 2 minutes later that I go home.
Now perhaps he thinks we are close enough where this is ok and comfortable, but I was massive weirded out. What the hell do I make of this?!
Men have been nothing but the cause of trouble for me this last few days. ARGH! |
personally, i don't think that i would ever just start whipping out my wang for judgement from any of my close girlfriends, and i have a lot of friends that are girls. seems to me like there was a little more going on there. i think there are a couple of options...
1. he really does feel THAT comfortable around you and so he did it rather innocently. if this is the case, he's probably pretty small and wants some reassurance from you that he's not inadequate.
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2. he had some alternative motives. the whole "let's watch porn alone and i'll show you my cock" thing is a little wierd. maybe he thinks you'll be impressed with his size and then you'll want to have sex with him or something i dunno.
either way, i'd maybe try to avoid a similar situation with him for a while and just pretend like nothing happened. if an uncomfortable situation like that comes up again, well i'd start thinking about what the motivations are behind it. |
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| Nrg2Nfinit |
i remmber i was at this party once.. and theresa signalled me to grab her bra.. so i did and then she was like "no no no no no " and it wierded me out :p
ok now seriously. Guy A sounds like he really likes you, he'll treat you better then all those other guys for sure.
Guy B sounds like the cool type. probably teh most attractive to you since you had a crush on him before. Is it floorfiller?
anyways if you think he's hot and you can get into his pants .. do it .. that would be my decision (if guy B was actually girl A for me lol).
Guy C. sounds like hes had enough of treating you as afriend and wants some action now. I dont think its wise to spend more time alone with him.. maybe hang out as just friends.. its going to be difficult to make things back to the way they used to be. |
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