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Would you date someone who doesn't listen to trance? (pg. 5)
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| milos |
| quote: | Originally posted by dartrance
Such a stupid question.
And this goes for any genre of electronic music.
Lisa: Do you think you're being a bit unfair? I mean you are saying that a potential guy must like trance music but at the same time you will not budge for him if he was into Rap or RNB music.
I dated a girl who was into the country and i hated when she poped in a cd but we had fun with it. And she liked some of the trance i played. You balance it out.
But to have a actual dating requirement where Guy A or girl B must like a certain type of music to date me is Complete bull. |
hey, word to that - especially the "stupid question" and "complete bull" bit.
this guy said it best people. and as an example, i enjoy every minute of being out at a top40 club or country bar or whatever when i'm with someone i like spending time with. |
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| DigitalMP |
who said anything about permission? it's more of a question of compatability. some people are so passionate about music that it makes that much of a difference.
and vivid, thanks, i'll make a note of that. |
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| SonjaDanceDance |
| quote: | Originally posted by spitty
exactly! its not that i'd think less of the person, but its two different social lives. i don't think he'd like me rollin in at 10 when hes off to work..and if (when ;) ) i get back into the swing of things, he definitely wouldn't be cool with me gettin all bojangly
we couldn't fuse as one, b/c i wouldn't want to share his hiphop lifestyle and he couldn't handle mine. plus most hiphop guys that pick me up (bartending) tend to have a crappy attitude |
That's exactly what I mean our social lives are totally different because of the different types of music we listen. He rather go to a hip hop and reggae club, which I don't mind some of the time, but he's completely lost if i take him to guv and doesn't even try to enjoy the music. He just complains. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
who cares if you have different lifestyles from your mate?
"he wouldnt be cool with this, she wouldnt be cool with that?"
Since when do we ask our gfs/bfs for permission? |
well depends why ur dating. if ur dating a chick just because ur too scared to be out in the real world without a mate then it doesnt matter cause ur a leech of a person anyways. if ur in a relationship so that u andur partner can get something out of it and are there to help one another out and help eachother reach that next level in life wether it be financially goal wise career wise etc. well then its not going to work if ur partner has a complete different nature then u. if she puts partying before she puts u, or if she puts partying before something that u priortize more in ur life.
that whole true love thing is bs. u got to find someone u can relate to and have the same nature as. If ur a family oriented person ur most likely going to be more compatible with another family oriented person. if ur career driven, ur gonna match up with someone who is just as acreer driven cause u feed off one another. |
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| SonjaDanceDance |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nikitha
I'm sure that you guys could come to a healthy compromise!
if this is about him having a problem with you going out and dancing all weekend then maybe it has nothing to do with the music preferance... he might just want you to be spending time with him rather then dancing it up and partying.. which could be very problem-matic
you should have a sit down with him and findo ut exactly what he feels on it.. lay out your feelings on the table and try and come together at a solution for the both of you!
hope everything works out!
Nikitha |
Awesome advice will do that for sure. Thanks. |
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| MarkT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spin Laden
I'd prefer to introduce someone to trance and hope she gets hooked rather than date an uber trancehead... |
ya, for sure.
the problem I'm running into now is that while they are enjoying the trance which I play...they also like Euro and generic pop/rock crap too and try to get me to listen to that :( |
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| SonjaDanceDance |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
LOL Hey Sonja! Liking your posts recently! :)
I'm in the same situation, only I've been in my relationship for 6 years and I only started attending EDM events in the past year (since Sept/04). I am now engaged to this girl and although she didn't need to tolerate my joy of trance over the past 3-4 years when I'd listen to my burned CDs, now that I like going out and enjoying it live, it does lead to a few issues...some of which you have already experienced from me with the flirting around with awesome fellow-partiers.
We've been in a long distance relationship so it's kind of different, but we still need a strong understanding (like Nikki said above). There also has to be a trust that nothing will go wrong (e.g. strangers buying you drinks that are called blow jobs :p).
At the end of the day, you should be with someone who wants to see you happy, which is exactly why my fiancee supports my need to go out every so often (although she would much rather prefer we spend time together doing romantic girly stuff). Just like Nikki said, there has to be a compromise ;) |
yah it looks like i will have to have a talk with him. hopefully we can compromise because he is a really nice guy. |
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| geroin |
she has to be into house or at the very least trance
otherwise it sucks a lot |
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| all-nite-freak |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
well depends why ur dating. if ur dating a chick just because ur too scared to be out in the real world without a mate then it doesnt matter cause ur a leech of a person anyways. if ur in a relationship so that u andur partner can get something out of it and are there to help one another out and help eachother reach that next level in life wether it be financially goal wise career wise etc. well then its not going to work if ur partner has a complete different nature then u. if she puts partying before she puts u, or if she puts partying before something that u priortize more in ur life.
that whole true love thing is bs. u got to find someone u can relate to and have the same nature as. If ur a family oriented person ur most likely going to be more compatible with another family oriented person. if ur career driven, ur gonna match up with someone who is just as acreer driven cause u feed off one another. |
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| milos |
| your boy needs to loosen the up |
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| Spin Laden |
| quote: | Originally posted by all-nite-freak
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ha ha, there's that Dr Phil-th again. |
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| Cribby |
| quote: | Originally posted by simms327
it would be very hard for me to date somebody who was into somthing like hiphop or punk hardcore, cause i like to go and dance to EDM, and if i had to go out with her to RnB events, i would hate it.
that being said, i am in a mutual trance-loving relationship right now, so im pretty happy :D :D ! |
+1 same here. You are VERY lucky :) |
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