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True Colours (pg. 5)
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by The Highroller
Because I "ruined her weekend", she has chosen to terminate the friendship and to refuse to pay me the money that I owe her.
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THATS ING BULL! COMPLETE BULL! I cant believe she'd have the GALL to ing do it - justify it to herself by saying because you apparently "ruined" her weekend, that therefore, SOMEHOW she feels that makes it OK to ing not pay you.
BULL! I'd be so ing offended and pissed off.
Its the ridiculous mentality behind that way of things that upsets me so, not to mention that value that that 150$ has to you Graham!
I was stiffed 25$ by a semi-friend for some mushrooms I spotted him for on a camping bc he didnt have the cash when we were scoring.
Im still annoyed at the matter when I think about it.
Its not because I need that ing 25$, but the principal behind the matter... that he'd honestly be like "nah, it, I dont wanna pay for them...."
Everytime Id see him he had an excuse... after a while I just stopped bothering.
Honestly - IF YOU OWE PPL MONEY - YOU ING OWE THEM MONEY! PAY THEM!
Do what you should be doing!
Jamie |
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| Mako |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
THATS ING BULL! COMPLETE BULL! I cant believe she'd have the GALL to ing do it - justify it to herself by saying because you apparently "ruined" her weekend, that therefore, SOMEHOW she feels that makes it OK to ing not pay you.
BULL! I'd be so ing offended and pissed off.
Its the ridiculous mentality behind that way of things that upsets me so, not to mention that value that that 150$ has to you Graham!
I was stiffed 25$ by a semi-friend for some mushrooms I spotted him for on a camping bc he didnt have the cash when we were scoring.
Im still annoyed at the matter when I think about it.
Its not because I need that ing 25$, but the principal behind the matter... that he'd honestly be like "nah, it, I dont wanna pay for them...."
Everytime Id see him he had an excuse... after a while I just stopped bothering.
Honestly - IF YOU OWE PPL MONEY - YOU ING OWE THEM MONEY! PAY THEM!
Do what you should be doing!
Jamie |
Yeah it is rude and cheap on her part, money is money, don't with it. And although it would be really great to track her down and get those $150 from her, as it IS his right to be payed back, I think he should, either ask her kindly and reason with her once the thing cools down, or just let it go, and take it as a valuable lesson for the future. Not to be stingy, but to be careful. :) |
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| LiANG |
Graham I've had a similar experience in the past, involving a very close childhood friend. For a while, I couldn't believe it was actually happening, our friendship being ruined, all for a mere $200.
Here's an advice I get often - give if you have to, but never borrow or lend money to friends, as it'll eventually lead to problems.
The way I see it, your friend has some problems. Feel compassion, don't let this incident bother you and move on. |
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| mushyflowa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tordan
i've been screwed over before... you just need to learn, fix the situation/cut your losses and move on. |
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| Frenchina |
Yes, move on is right, but it makes you rethink who you may trust. If it has been a close friend/childhood friend, family who has done this to you, then who can your trust? Those people who are supposed to be your most trusted people in life have abused your trust.
With trust being my # 1 quality or whatever you want to call it, and it being abused by a close friend, ya it makes reconcider who I trust now. |
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| CandyGirl |
Look at the bright side... it only cost you $150 to get a worthless piece of scum out of your life for good!
A bargain I'd say.
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| Jem_hadar |
Im gonna add that I think this "rational" behind not paying you back is immature as well.
How old are you here?
You came, so ing pay me your share of the money that you owe me. If I hadn't ing spotted you you would have had to pay and would have paid, so PAY ME BACK!
Dont try to justify that bc you had a bad time that its a reason you dont HAVE A FREAKIN' OBLIGATION to pay a person back!
I wouldnt and couldnt even do this to an ex I hated if that'd been the case. You owe - then you owe... how can you with a good conscious feel you have a right not to pay this person back!
It flabbergasts me this mentality and way of thinking!
:rolleyes: :rolleyes: |
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| Frenchina |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
Im gonna add that I think this "ration" behind not paying you back is immature as well.
It flabbergasts me this mentality and way of thinking!
:rolleyes: :rolleyes: |
It's true. I totally agree, I mean she knew what she was getting herself into money wise ( or anyone that gets themselves into a money situation) So therfore she should pay without question. He is being relativly calm when I would be bitching for my money back ( but that's because I have no patience). She may be seeing your niceness and walking over you, which in that case , what a b..ok I wont go there, that's not nice of me, But honestly, wow, she should step back and realize that if this was the other way around and some one owed her money, she would be calling non stop and asking for this back. It;s a 150$, she may not think that that money is alot , but um, hello it is. This isn't right, and ya maybe I am over reacting, but non of this is right. As Jamie said, just because you did't have a good time doesnt erase your half of what was needed to be paid. If you had a good time or if you had a bad time, does't matter, you still had TIME, which means..you need to pay.:whip: |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by muzzybear
Can you put a dollar value on a friendship? If so, then I can honestly say that I dumped a friend because she owed me $4000 from a trip. $150's nothing. |
its the principal id say |
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| The Highroller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchina
It's true. I totally agree, I mean she knew what she was getting herself into money wise ( or anyone that gets themselves into a money situation) So therfore she should pay without question. He is being relativly calm when I would be bitching for my money back ( but that's because I have no patience). She may be seeing your niceness and walking over you, which in that case , what a b..ok I wont go there, that's not nice of me, But honestly, wow, she should step back and realize that if this was the other way around and some one owed her money, she would be calling non stop and asking for this back. It;s a 150$, she may not think that that money is alot , but um, hello it is. This isn't right, and ya maybe I am over reacting, but non of this is right. As Jamie said, just because you did't have a good time doesnt erase your half of what was needed to be paid. If you had a good time or if you had a bad time, does't matter, you still had TIME, which means..you need to pay.:whip: |
Believe me, I am not being walked all over in this situation. I let her know exactly what I think of her. The only reason why I'm not calling her non-stop is because I've seen her true colours now and I know she's not going to give me the money.
Even if she did give me back the money, I wouldn't care. This "friend" has treated me with such a total lack of respect (in regards to this issue, and others), that there is no chance of forgiveness. |
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| OrZonE |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchina
Alot of people put up an act when they first meet you, so they can get you to like them, and when (if) you become friends, they try to slowly become the "real" them ( because putting on a show for a long time can't be that easy ), and then *poof* you realize that they have been "fake" with you for since the start or for a while. |
Well, I don't expect ppl to be the "real" them right away with me. Certain aspects of personality come out only once you are comfortable enough to show them. I don't see it as hiding your "true" personality, I see it as simply getting to know a person. |
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