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Here we go...DRAMA! jk but this should take up my afternoon...and yours too! (pg. 2)
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
That is a sign of insecurity. She seeks positive attention to reassure herself, most likly due to her social status amongst society. If she is a lesbian, and you know she doesn't wanna sleep with your man, I wouldn't worry about it.
Yea, it can get a little annoying when your boy is showering her with attention, but that isn't her fault. You should talk to your man about it, and tell him how much it bothers you. |
he wasn't showering her with attention at all. he was getting uncomfortable. it was like every 2 minutes she was like, "HAHAH CRAIG!! omg take our picture!! *kiss*" "hahahah omg CRAIG! where's the camera! HAHAH" while she laid all over he gf. craig was just like, "uhh...":nervous: actually, i could tell that everyone at the party was like, "get a ing room"
he admitted to me that she was a little over the top that day. i expressed to him that i found her annoying and he was like, "yea, she was kind of obnoxious" he is not even remotely attracted to her, and even if he was, it wouldn't matter because he doesn't have that type of personality where i would ever have to worry about him disrespecting me or cheating. this is strictly her. she even tried to tell me one time that she thought he might have been checking her out or something. i was like :wtf: i just think that even though she's gay, she really enjoys turning guys on and being a big attention whore. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i'm pretty much the same way too, but for some reason, it's like a natural thing for me to turn it off around my friends' boyfriends. |
Unfortunately I forget to do that, and there has been once or twice a friend has gotten pissed at me and told me to quit flirting with their BF.
To me it is slightly offensive, simply because that is just my personality, and they are telling me that my personality bothers them around their BF. Usually, in my mind, that is a sign that the person doesn't know me very well (and in both cases, this was true,) because I am not the kind of person who would attempt luring someone else's fling away from them. |
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| Silky Johnson |
My friends don't do that to me, and I don't do that to them. That's just straight up disrespect..to everyone involved.
If that ever DID happen...well...I would seriously rethink my friendship with said "friend". |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
he wasn't showering her with attention at all. he was getting uncomfortable. it was like every 2 minutes she was like, "HAHAH CRAIG!! omg take our picture!! *kiss*" "hahahah omg CRAIG! where's the camera! HAHAH" while she laid all over he gf. craig was just like, "uhh...":nervous: actually, i could tell that everyone at the party was like, "get a ing room"
he admitted to me that she was a little over the top that day. i expressed to him that i found her annoying and he was like, "yea, she was kind of obnoxious" he is not even remotely attracted to her, and even if he was, it wouldn't matter because he doesn't have that type of personality where i would ever have to worry about him disrespecting me or cheating. this is strictly her. she even tried to tell me one time that she thought he might have been checking her out or something. i was like :wtf: i just think that even though she's gay, she really enjoys turning guys on and being a big attention whore. |
Hmmm, this brings me back to the insecurity thing. She wanted a positive response to her behaviour.
Was she drunk? |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
My friends don't do that to me, and I don't do that to them. That's just straight up disrespect..to everyone involved.
If that ever DID happen...well...I would seriously rethink my friendship with said "friend". |
that's how i feel. it's pretty black and white for me. i thought it was rude and disrespectful... |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
If that ever DID happen...well...I would seriously rethink my friendship with said "friend". |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
that's how i feel. it's pretty black and white for me. i thought it was rude and disrespectful... |
Maybe you misinterpreted her behaviour to get his attention or whatever. I think you should talk to her about it; let her know it made you feel uncomfortable.
Depending on how she reacts to that, then you might wanna reconsider the friendship.
P.S. In my mind, I am not really "flirting" in the way that I would with a guy I was trying to get with... I am just being friendly and nice, which a lot of people lable "flirting". I don't think I should have to change my natural demeanor to a friends boyfriend... or to anyone else for that matter. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Hmmm, this brings me back to the insecurity thing. She wanted a positive response to her behaviour.
Was she drunk? |
yea she was. and yes, she's very insecure. she's always been that way. i was best friends with her in middle school and we lost touch for years, and i found her on myspace and we've been right back to being good friends again since march. craig likes her too, and the 3 of us have hung out a lot and she's very flirty with him, but i didn't really care cuz she's my best friend and she's gay and i just didn't even feel threatened at all...but i dunno...this weekend, she was a little much and it bothered me that she was getting all touchy and sexual with her gf in front of him...and in front of everyone for that matter.
this other chick was getting annoyed by her because she was doing the same thing in front of her bf. men are men...of COURSE they're going to stare if they see 2 chicks making out. it's like duh. so i think craig was nervous because he would like see them and then look at me like, "oops! sorry i didn't mean to look" hahah i didn't get mad at him though...i was mainly annoyed with her. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| BTW, lesbian friend sounds like that character from Sex & the City....the obnoxious party girl who falls out a window. Famous last words, "I'm so bored I could die!" |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Maybe you misinterpreted her behaviour to get his attention or whatever. I think you should talk to her about it; let her know it made you feel uncomfortable.
Depending on how she reacts to that, then you might wanna reconsider the friendship.
P.S. In my mind, I am not really "flirting" in the way that I would with a guy I was trying to get with... I am just being friendly and nice, which a lot of people lable "flirting". I don't think I should have to change my natural demeanor to a friends boyfriend... or to anyone else for that matter. |
yea i understand what you're saying, but at the same time, it's inconsiderate to just be like, "what? i dont see it as flirting in my mind, so it isn't..deal with it"
i wrote her an email explaining why i was annoyed and gave her very good examples of her behavior that day, to back up what i was saying. i also said that i didn't want to hold a grudge, but i needed to get that off my chest. i told her she should be a little more senstive to her surroundings when she drinks.
so yea, her response to that email will definitely shed some light on where she's coming from and what i will do from there.. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
yea she was. and yes, she's very insecure. she's always been that way. i was best friends with her in middle school and we lost touch for years, and i found her on myspace and we've been right back to being good friends again since march. craig likes her too, and the 3 of us have hung out a lot and she's very flirty with him, but i didn't really care cuz she's my best friend and she's gay and i just didn't even feel threatened at all...but i dunno...this weekend, she was a little much and it bothered me that she was getting all touchy and sexual with her gf in front of him...and in front of everyone for that matter.
this other chick was getting annoyed by her because she was doing the same thing in front of her bf. men are men...of COURSE they're going to stare if they see 2 chicks making out. it's like duh. so i think craig was nervous because he would like see them and then look at me like, "oops! sorry i didn't mean to look" hahah i didn't get mad at him though...i was mainly annoyed with her. |
Yea, I definitely think you should talk to her. Tell her that, whether she is a lesbian or not, going overboard with the PDA was and is not appreciated as it makes other people feel uncomfortable. Explain to her that you didn't appreciate her outbursts, and her constant attention seeking with your boyfriend. She may not have even realized what she was doing.
I mean, we've all been drunk. We've all made ass' of ourselves. We've all said things and done things that in our better judgement we probably wouldn't have done. Let her know she crossed the line, and if she does it again, then get rid of her. |
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| MeLLyMeL |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
It's in my natural demeanor to flirt with everyone.... like... EVERYONE. Girls, guys, peoples parents, teachers; it doesn't matter.
It isn't the blatent "hey baby" flirting, but it's that overly nice, touch on the shoulders and smile sweetly kind of flirt. |
o man
i think that's all of us cuz i know i do it too..
it's fun :D plus it gets me things biggie sized for no extra charge
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