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Here we go...DRAMA! jk but this should take up my afternoon...and yours too! (pg. 3)
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
o man
i think that's all of us cuz i know i do it too..
it's fun :D plus it gets me things biggie sized for no extra charge
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so you will flirt with your best friend's man if it means you are gonna get hookups with drugs or at a club? lol or u just mean in general with random guys... |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
yea i understand what you're saying, but at the same time, it's inconsiderate to just be like, "what? i dont see it as flirting in my mind, so it isn't..deal with it"
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I get what you mean, but I think in a lot of cases, sometimes girls get catty and over-sensitive.
For example, I hang around a girl and I am always being silly and flirty and overly nice. She is perfectly ok with my behaviour. Then she introduces me to her boyfriend, I behave exactly as I normally do, and suddenly I am flirting with her boyfriend.
Some girls confuse "being nice" with "flirting". That becomes tiresome for me, because at that point, I have to conciously act stand-offish to the guy, which usually leads to "why doesn't your friend like me?!" since I am being normal to everyone else.
Get it?
EDIT: I am not saying that excuses your friend. I'm just saying, sometimes people don't mean it the way you take it. Either way however, in this case, you felt uncomfortable with her excessive PDA which is another issue in itself. |
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| MeLLyMeL |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
so you will flirt with your best friend's man if it means you are gonna get hookups with drugs or at a club? lol or u just mean in general with random guys... |
oh no hell nooooo
you'll never see me flirting with Lis's bf of any of my girls boyfriends..
i just mean it's in my nature to be flirty with ppl in general unless they have a female attached to their side. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I get what you mean, but I think in a lot of cases, sometimes girls get catty and over-sensitive.
For example, I hang around a girl and I am always being silly and flirty and overly nice. She is perfectly ok with my behaviour. Then she introduces me to her boyfriend, I behave exactly as I normally do, and suddenly I am flirting with her boyfriend.
Some girls confuse "being nice" with "flirting". That becomes tiresome for me, because at that point, I have to conciously act stand-offish to the guy, which usually leads to "why doesn't your friend like me?!" since I am being normal to everyone else.
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yea, but i guess i am just aware of peoples' motives. im not stupid. i can tell if someone is just that type of nice, touchy person. i'm like that too. i usually have to make some sort of contact when i'm in a deep conversation with someone. craig has even brought it to my attention before and it bothered him a few times when i was talking to a guy friend and i was drunk and like holding his hand when i was talking, and i literally didn't even remember grabbing his hand. but i was careful not to get that way again around craig because it bothered him.
i really believe in my gut that she was just using my bf to help her be "the life of the party" and to just feed her drunken ego. and that is rude and disrespectful to me. and it's flakey too. that turns me off. |
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| MeLLyMeL |
i have a friend who has to be the center of attention.. and it's funny cuz she's probably the one with the lowest self esteem. but once u get her started forget it!
she'll make out with girls in the middle of the dancefloor while i just stand on the side like 'duu do dooo'.
girls getting attn for the wrong reasons is MAJORLY annoying. |
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| philliez |
| quote: | Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
i have a friend who has to be the center of attention.. and it's funny cuz she's probably the one with the lowest self esteem. but once u get her started forget it!
she'll make out with girls in the middle of the dancefloor while i just stand on the side like 'duu do dooo'.
girls getting attn for the wrong reasons is MAJORLY annoying. |
attention whoring is laaaaame |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
i have a friend who has to be the center of attention.. and it's funny cuz she's probably the one with the lowest self esteem. but once u get her started forget it!
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that is exactly how my friend is.
oh and theresa, in my email i was very clear about everything. i even said, "look, i know you dont mean it, but im just letting you know that you made me, and some other people feel uncomfortable"
it was a very mature email i think. i let moral read it, and he said it was perfect. i hope she reads it and realizes that she was kind of an ass and that she offended me. i hope she doesn't write back like, "oh whatever, get over it, bla bla bla" because that would seriously make me say, "alright, have a nice life"
that's just how i am. if you're not going to respect my wishes (which aren't like unreasonable i dont think) or my feelings, then i dont need you as a friend. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
i have a friend who has to be the center of attention.. and it's funny cuz she's probably the one with the lowest self esteem. but once u get her started forget it!
she'll make out with girls in the middle of the dancefloor while i just stand on the side like 'duu do dooo'.
girls getting attn for the wrong reasons is MAJORLY annoying. |
I agree with it being annoying. I had a friend who was like that, and I got rid of her a while back *for compounding reasons*, but anyway, even though it pissed me off that she would make out with randoms and demand attention from every guy she came across, I reminded myself that it was because she has to have some sort of psychological issue driving her.
I REALLY didn't like her though. I told her that I had a crush on a guy. The next thing I know, she is inviting him to her place to have drinks.
I flirt with a guy at the club, she comes up and introduces herself and weasles the frontline with him.
I would point to a guy "Gee, he's cute". She'd walk up to him, "Hi, I'm ****" and then she would introduce me to the cute guys not so cute friend.
Argh. |
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| D-res |
i think when friends flirt with your significant other it's pretty dick but i try not to take it too seriously. hell i do it too. there really is no limit to how far you go since we're young and just lookin to piss eachother off out of boredom so calling a friend to let him know how good his gf was in the night before is never out of the question. Iguess it's not a big deal because i know better than to think my friends would actually try to steal my gf and they know i wouldnt do that either so theres nothing to take seriously and get worked up about.
the only instance in which you can take it too far is if something serious happens in their relationship and instead of being supportive you just act like a douche |
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| MeLLyMeL |
I don't see why you should flirt with a friends bf.
I usually like to think my guy is good enough and i don't need to be all flirty with someone i know's man.
geesh. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I agree with it being annoying. I had a friend who was like that, and I got rid of her a while back *for compounding reasons*, but anyway, even though it pissed me off that she would make out with randoms and demand attention from every guy she came across, I reminded myself that it was because she has to have some sort of psychological issue driving her.
I REALLY didn't like her though. I told her that I had a crush on a guy. The next thing I know, she is inviting him to her place to have drinks.
I flirt with a guy at the club, she comes up and introduces herself and weasles the frontline with him.
I would point to a guy "Gee, he's cute". She'd walk up to him, "Hi, I'm ****" and then she would introduce me to the cute guys not so cute friend.
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hahah what a cockblock! that sucks. no one needs chick friends like that.
i had a friend who i really liked actually, but for some reason when we'd be out with guys, she always tried to make me out to be this materialistic bitchy type and she was like the "cool, natural one who never wears make up and likes to drink beer and go camping". don't get me wrong. i wear makeup and can easily come off as the girly, materialistic type, but if u get to know me, i'm actually REALLY down-to-earth and "girl next door". it was just really funny to watch her try to have a pissing contest about who's been camping the most or whatever and i would bust out with some story about how i hiked some mountains in japan with my dad and she would quickly change the subject. she would get pissed. lol so yea, i stopped hanging out with her. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I flirt with a guy at the club, she comes up and introduces herself and weasles the frontline with him.
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Theresa... do me a favour.... next time you're out with her flirt with Scott, he needs some love and she may be just the whore to give it! |
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