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My dilemma... opinions sought please.
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| nusty |
So I'm taking this time to forefit my right any more of these threads for the rest of the year if I can get some other peoples opinions here...
My issue is that I just drove home to NYC from Waterloo two days ago.
I have a female friend who is in tears and completely at her wits end as to what to do about a situation with a soon to be ex that is quickly spiraling out of control and both her and I are becoming more and more concerned for her saftey. She lives in Montreal (6 hour drive from me currently). Normally I wouldn't even hesitate I would load things I need for the next two days and go to her aid, but this week I am moving out to Los Angeles... by driving and I HAVE to be there by tuesday night. LA is a 41.5 hour drive from here (3 days, since I'm going solo).
I'm considering leaving for Montreal first thing tomorrow morning and then spending all day saturday there and then leaving for LA from Montreal (43 hour drive, still takes me 3 days) first thing on Sunday. So I would drive all day Sunday, Monday, Tuesday... the timing still works but doesn't leave me much room for a buffer should something go wrong on my way (not saying it will, I just like to be on the safe side)
She has no other male friends in Montreal and very few anyway that are even within 6 hours distance away that would be willing to step in to tell this guy to off permanentaly. He won't listen to her requests without becoming aggressive. I have NO problem standing to this guys face so that he gets the picture, where ever that leads so be it. And I feel that by showing him she has male friends who are willing to drive this distance to protect her then he may back down a bit which would make her life a lot easier. She is already stressed to the max with work and a bunch of other ordeals. She is one of the sweetest most amazing girls I know and would do almost anything for her especially defending her against pricks that never deserved her in the first place.
She obviously does not wish to go the police about this since it hasn't crossed that line yet.
I'm torn as to what to do. The friend side of me says I should always do anything I can to help but the responsible side of me says I can't give the extra day of travel time.
Should I head to Montreal or take the trip to LA a bit easier leaving myself an extra day of travel time? |
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| simms327 |
well - if you believe that there is any chance of her getting injured (him getting violent) then you should go.
If that happened, you would never forgive yourself.
but, LA is a loooong way.
tough call.
if she was in danger - i would go. |
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| nusty |
yeah he's put holes in the wall from his 'venting' before but he's never crossed the line of hitting her. He does scare her a fair bit though when he gets mad and I think I would mostly serve as a buffer so his frustrations come out on me rather than her. Like I said I have no problem taking a few shots from this guy if it comes to that. I think there is a chance he might cross the line with her but it's only a chance at this point. He has an aggressive history littered with fighting but no acutally reports of ever hitting a female.
I think after typing this out and hearing your comment, I'm slowing leaning towards going to Montreal tomorrow..... I guess I'll sleep on it tonight and call her in the AM to see how she's doing at that point in time.
I think you're right, if something did happen and I know I could have been there to prevent it, I would never forgive myself. I think it would also mean the world to her for the emotional support for a bit. She's a workaholic so she doesn't really have a lot of close friends in MTL. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| Dude....friends are a precious thing....if you can help her out of what sounds like a very bad situation then you do it. It there is any way possible for you to go you should. I know I would do anything for a friend and by the sounds of it....from many of your posts....you are exactly the same way. She needs someone who can help her and I know that you definately could. I say go....even if it means being a little late getting to LA....I'd still do it. |
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| EvilTree |
Be there for your friend.
You can make up some lost time by pushing little on speed limit, but your friend is important. |
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| malek |
if you need some arms...
on a side note, she has to leave him by herself... because she'll be back with him sooner than you think... women are like that:rolleyes: |
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| Elendil |
| Well, if you truly feel in your heart that you are needed there, then thats what you need to do. However, remember this: he may not be able to hit her, but he's damn sure going to be able to hit you. So be very prepared for the probable consequence. Good luck. Be safe. |
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| Misanthrope |
| quote: | Originally posted by EvilTree
You can make up some lost time by pushing little on speed limit... |
Sorry dude, I would seriously not recommend this.
Your emotions are high, situation is intense, the last thing you need is to get into a car collusion. |
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| Jayx1 |
| why doesnt she just call the police? |
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| Jayx1 |
| why doesnt she just call the police? |
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| NuERA |
i dont think i would want to be the guy that crosses you dave...
tough situation, i dont know what i would do. but if you do go all the way down there, make sure the guy doesnt know you are leaving for LA the next day. |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by Elendil
However, remember this: he may not be able to hit her, but he's damn sure going to be able to hit you. So be very prepared for the probable consequence. Good luck. Be safe. |
OH, Dave doesn't have much to fear AT ALL. Trust.
Dude, I wish I knew what to tell you. Thats a precious difficult situation.
You're gut is gonna tell you when you wake up this morning what you need to do, I think.
Good luck in whatever you choose. |
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