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Who do you trust? (pg. 4)
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I actually trust a lot of people. But then again, I don't really surround myself with morons.
I give people the benefit of the doubt and trust right off the bat. I don't have the attitude that people need to prove themselves to me. I give them trust, and all they have to do from there is break it...pretty simple, and it weeds out the idiots right quick. |
same here. when people are overly obnoxious about trust and talk about "only trusting themself" and bla bla bla, i just think, "get over yourself". like everyone is just waiting in the "i'm special" line with a number for their trust. :rolleyes: lol |
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| kid nyce |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
same here. when people are overly obnoxious about trust and talk about "only trusting themself" and bla bla bla, i just think, "get over yourself". like everyone is just waiting in the "i'm special" line with a number for their trust. :rolleyes: lol |
what about those people who have trusted before only to be disappointed...maybe they just believe in the motto - if you want something done right you just have to do it yourself |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by kid nyce
what about those people who have trusted before only to be disappointed...maybe they just believe in the motto - if you want something done right you just have to do it yourself |
The truth is at some point every person has to trust another... it's essential to being a social creature. If you truely trusted no one but yourself you'd be a hermit (or a member of the tin hat brigade). Many people don't like to admit that they put trust in others because they perceive that as a weakness, however, it is one of our species greatest strengths. |
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| kid nyce |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
The truth is at some point every person has to trust another... it's essential to being a social creature. If you truely trusted no one but yourself you'd be a hermit (or a member of the tin hat brigade). Many people don't like to admit that they put trust in others because they perceive that as a weakness, however, it is one of our species greatest strengths. |
Damn, so I 'really' am a hermit! crap....lol |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by kid nyce
Damn, so I 'really' am a hermit! crap....lol |
I'd imagine you just don't like to admit you trust others. This is not to say we all trust a lot of people with everything but you have to trust some people with certain things otherwise life within a society is simply not possible. |
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| Aquarian |
| pretty much no one right now. Except for small unimportant things of course. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
The truth is at some point every person has to trust another... it's essential to being a social creature. If you truely trusted no one but yourself you'd be a hermit (or a member of the tin hat brigade). Many people don't like to admit that they put trust in others because they perceive that as a weakness, however, it is one of our species greatest strengths. |
i couldnt have said it better myself.
i believe in that whole, "get it done yourself" thing, but we're talking about trust in general, not trusting people to get things done for you...that's a different kind of trust.
and moral ur so right about people seeing trust (and forgiveness is another one) as a major sign of weakness, but i've always viewed it as a strength myself. |
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| dj tek |
| trust is a big word.. theres different levels of trust and different ppl who fit them in your life. |
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| Theresa |
It depends on the kind of trust. I trust different people with different things. I trust my roomie, my old school friend from grade 3, my mom and grandmother, and some of my other friends. Like I said though, I would trust them each with different things.
My friend from grade 3, I would trust to tell her about some of my deepest darkest secrets, but I wouldn't trust her with any of my money.
My mom, I would trust her with my life, but I wouldn't trust her not to blab to my family about certain things, and I wouldn't trust her not to flip over some of the things I could tell her.
My roomie, I trust him pretty much with everything, but I am still not entirely comfortable with telling him things from my past (but there is probably 1 or 2 people in my entire lifetime I have trusted with that).
etc.etc.
I guess there is no one I 100% completely trust with everything. I am not a very trusting person though. |
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| kid nyce |
Moral - no it's not that I don't like to admit I trust others, it's just that I usually hold a high expectation for actions that aren't within my immediate control. Especially when it comes to situations with results.
I think we are talking about different levels of trust, I understand the gist of what you are saying, but on a personal and professional level, there aren't many I'd trust with work getting done.
In relation to a social level of trust, to me, there has to be a proven track record for me to earn a persons trust, thus them earning mines. Free will trust is a social boundary, we create these from our acquaintences and not necessarily dole them out at free will. I wouldn't trust a person I just met to watch over my children, but I would if that person has generally be in my life for an extended period time and has proven to me they are capable and responsible to handle that situation. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by kid nyce
Moral - no it's not that I don't like to admit I trust others, it's just that I usually hold a high expectation for actions that aren't within my immediate control. Especially when it comes to situations with results.
I think we are talking about different levels of trust, I understand the gist of what you are saying, but on a personal and professional level, there aren't many I'd trust with work getting done.
In relation to a social level of trust, to me, there has to be a proven track record for me to earn a persons trust, thus them earning mines. Free will trust is a social boundary, we create these from our acquaintences and not necessarily dole them out at free will. I wouldn't trust a person I just met to watch over my children, but I would if that person has generally be in my life for an extended period time and has proven to me they are capable and responsible to handle that situation. |
so you're one of those "guilty until proven innocent" types? :p
i'm with jenny....everyone has a clean slate with me, and if i get burned, i don't make the next innocent person pay. life's too short. move on.
even if someone betrayed my trust, i would forgive them probably (obviouly if it's petty, and most of it is to me), but i would just make a mental note to take caution with that person in the future. |
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