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live with the grrrlfrend...yay or nay?
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| chucho |
my gf is asking to live together but im not sure about it; going to a better apartment, get another car and well...stay together
sort of roommate...
but i have my doubts
any experience-advice? |
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| Sushipunk |
Some background info on your relationship would help prompt more helpful replies...
How long have you been together?
Do you get along?
Etc. etc. etc. |
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| Slixter |
| Having been in this situation myself, I would say that if you have any doubts, don't do it. No matter how well you think you know each other, living together is a completely different kind of commitment. Will you be able to put up with her habits (quirks) and vise versa. If you both love each other and feel you can make it work go for it. It's always nice to have someone else to wake up next to in the morning! |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slixter
Having been in this situation myself, I would say that if you have any doubts, don't do it. No matter how well you think you know each other, living together is a completely different kind of commitment. Will you be able to put up with her habits (quirks) and vise versa. If you both love each other and feel you can make it work go for it. It's always nice to have someone else to wake up next to in the morning! |
A big +1 to that. Nice post.
How do YOU feel about it chucho? |
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| chucho |
i'm used to her ... we know eachother's habits
we should at least try it...if doesn't work out...it'll be frustrating |
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| Sushipunk |
Be open about before you do this - And make a bit of light of it :)
"Are you sure you wanna live with me? I'm a bit weird here and there (who isn't :p), sometimes I [blah blah blah]"
You will probably get a reply like, "Yeah same, I [more blah blah blah]."
Communication is the key to it all, trust me :) |
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| Vlad |
| I guarantee that if you 2 move in together, that you guys will break up. Moving in together never lasts, especially if you 2 are young - Ive seen this happen with more of my friends that I feel like counting. |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
I guarantee that if you 2 move in together, that you guys will break up. Moving in together never lasts, especially if you 2 are young - Ive seen this happen with more of my friends that I feel like counting. |
I've been living with my gf for 3.5 years now. I'm exceptionaly happy. Perhaps I'm the exception to the rule though (what rule?).
Good point though Vlad, I just checked Chucho's profile, and to do this sort of thing at age 20 could be hard. Not impossible though, by any means. It could be the best thing ever.
Just make sure you know what you want, and what you're getting into. And make sure she does too. As I posted before, communication is the key :) |
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| Jansa |
I was 19 when I moved together with my gf. We've been together for a year now and everything's still nice and dandy. At first all of her quirks seem so cute, then comes the fase where they get annoying...once you accept that and get over it without breaking up, you can live together happily. :)
PMS is a bitch though... |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slixter
Having been in this situation myself, I would say that if you have any doubts, don't do it. No matter how well you think you know each other, living together is a completely different kind of commitment. Will you be able to put up with her habits (quirks) and vise versa. If you both love each other and feel you can make it work go for it. It's always nice to have someone else to wake up next to in the morning! |
Ronin: If there is a doubt, there is no doubt. |
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| CranberryJuice |
a lot of people i know are living together and everything is fine for them but then if u have some doubts.....try to think more about what YOU really want....dont decide anything just because your gf wants it ....living together is something important and which is a next step in a serious relationship ..like some people said previously living together has nothing to compare with your current situation and neither with going in vacation together so think about your own desires and perspectives for your relationship
but i think u have to feel ready for it
good luck in whatever you decide!:gsmile: |
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