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I'm halfway and a bit to becoming a 40 year old virgin. (pg. 2)
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| Jase83 |
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Someone needs a hug, "come here big fella" |
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| astroboy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Akridrot
Losing my virginity was a regrettable thing. From the moment I left the apartment, I was already feeling bad about it. Sex is so ing overrated it's not even funny. Once I had it, I felt like such a loser for wanting to have it so much. |
It sounds like your attitude before you had sex was the problem. Sex is no big deal and guys build it up into something huge. That's the mistake.. and it only leads to trouble. It puts unnecessary pressure on you when you try to pick up girls. It increases chances of -whippage etc.. SO I'd say it's a good thing that you got the wrong attitude out of your system.
The saddest, most pathetic sight in the world is seeing a guy alowing himself to be totally dominated and treated like a doormat by his girl, just because she has more sexual experience than him. Invariably she loses respect for him and has no qualms about finding someone more experienced to please her, leaving the poor dude totally broken hearted over a relationship which was in the first place.
| quote: | | Maybe that would change if I ed someone I cared about. Unfortunately, I don't care about anyone because no one cares about me. :( |
Chin-up tiger, suck it in and get positive. You'll find someone. Sitting around sulking won't do you any good. Get out there! |
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| Nrg2Nfinit |
im a virgin in the butthole and the nose
ive never stuck my nose in a snatch |
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| astroboy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nrg2Nfinit
im a virgin in the butthole and the nose
ive never stuck my nose in a snatch |
earhole secks ftw!!1 |
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| Tholius |
Interesting thread.
Actually isn't the whole point of sex to do it w/ someone you actually care for?
I mean I'm all for people having sex for fun, for experimentation... but when you say have sex w/ someone you don't really care for... I think that's pretty poor considering you're gonna hurt them. Ideally in that scenario there are no strings attached and no-one will get hurt, but there are always strings attached. Moreso, do you know what 'some' level of emotion to actually heighten the experience sex brings?
Another point is that, at least for me, is that I would probably never have sex w/ someone I didn't care for in relation to the potential pregnancy risk. I know, condoms 95%... that's honestly not good enough for me in comparison to having a child w/ someone I give 2 rats about. Just thinking about them having similar personality characters to the female to which I have no feelings for just gives me chills.
Although, as someone did mention, to not procrastinate it so much that you think sex is the be all and end all of everything... I think that that is really relevant... however, I still think that waiting until it is meaningful for yourself, and you're not kidding yourself and doing it for reasons you're willing to accept and not rationalise is preferable.
I understand there's a load of questions, frustration and the like that coems out of this... and tbh, there's no clear cut answer... but I suppose you take on all the advice, and take out of it what you find relevant in your life. |
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| Inertia |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tholius
I mean I'm all for people having sex for fun, for experimentation... but when you say have sex w/ someone you don't really care for... I think that's pretty poor considering you're gonna hurt them. |
hey now! only hurt them if they ask you to. |
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| Yan |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tholius
Actually isn't the whole point of sex to do it w/ someone you actually care for? |
Science basically states that our purpose in life is to reproduce and then die.
So I guess that's a big, fat NO according to the scientists. :p
It all comes down to personal preference, of course. |
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| Tholius |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yan
Science basically states that our purpose in life is to reproduce and then die.
So I guess that's a big, fat NO according to the scientists. :p
It all comes down to personal preference, of course. |
Okay, that wasn't the purpose of my statement at all, I think that's another whole issue... which will probably cater best in another thread.
But to reply, my opinion is that, yes it may well have been for procreation only, however it's role has probably changed in modern society. Essentially I was pointing out my opinion which is if you have sex w/ someone, you should definately care about them, and there should be no malice or ill-intentions. |
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| Turbonium |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tholius
Okay, that wasn't the purpose of my statement at all, I think that's another whole issue... which will probably cater best in another thread.
But to reply, my opinion is that, yes it may well have been for procreation only, however it's role has probably changed in modern society. Essentially I was pointing out my opinion which is if you have sex w/ someone, you should definately care about them, and there should be no malice or ill-intentions. |
This opens up a whole new bag of issues. What if "caring about them", despite being true, is only imagine. Like say:
- must reproduce
- conditioned to put meaning into sex
- perceive caring/emotional attachment
- have sex |
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| Yan |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tholius
Okay, that wasn't the purpose of my statement at all, I think that's another whole issue... which will probably cater best in another thread.
But to reply, my opinion is that, yes it may well have been for procreation only, however it's role has probably changed in modern society. Essentially I was pointing out my opinion which is if you have sex w/ someone, you should definately care about them, and there should be no malice or ill-intentions. |
You're also of the group that believes that you should wait, correct?
Do you think this was a result of influence from your family, your friends, or something that arose entirely independently? |
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| DOOMBOT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Inertia
pwnd. |
Thread shoulda been locked after this post. :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: |
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| ASFSE |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJFreaq
I made the mistake of losing my virginity with a chick I cared about.
Anyway, after 2.5 years of dating, we broke up because she was crazy, and I was immature.
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hey that happened to me too, sucked after we broke up. |
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