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Question for the guys...or girls too. (pg. 4)
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| Lebezniatnikov |
| It might present a threat to some guys at first, but once you explain the situation they should be able to take you at your word. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
unless you have weak game |
She doesn't need game... when you look like Jamie others bring the game to you (you should know this). |
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| XaNaX |
| As long as this guy does not still want to you then you should be good to go. Either way its not gonna hurt your game but if he is secretly in love with you or some like that it could become weird. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
As long as this guy does not still want to you then you should be good to go. Either way its not gonna hurt your game but if he is secretly in love with you or some like that it could become weird. |
my mom thinks he is, but i don't really think so. and if he is, i think he's pretty much accepted that i'm not and has moved on from that thought. i think he was in love with me when we were kids...but not any more. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
As long as this guy does not still want to you |
probability of this is lower then winning the lotto |
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| Slylee |
| i just wanted to get guys' perspective on it because i know that most men are dogs and i'm sure a lot of men wouldn't throw me out of bed, so that's what i would imagine would run through a guy's mind if i was dating him and brought him to my place and introduced him to my male roommate whom i'm very close with. he might think, "ha, bull your roommate doesn't want to secretly you". but like a lot of you said, if a guy has a problem with it, then he's probably controlling and jealous and that's a turn off for me. |
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| XaNaX |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i just wanted to get guys' perspective on it because i know that most men are dogs and i'm sure a lot of men wouldn't throw me out of bed, so that's what i would imagine would run through a guy's mind if i was dating him and brought him to my place and introduced him to my male roommate whom i'm very close with. he might think, "ha, bull your roommate doesn't want to secretly you". but like a lot of you said, if a guy has a problem with it, then he's probably controlling and jealous and that's a turn off for me. |
If you were ugly or this guy was gay you would be set. But some guys will have a problem with the situation because as a guy they know that if a guy says he is "friends" with a hot girl what friends really means is "I want to this girl but I haven't hooked it up yet". |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
If you were ugly or this guy was gay you would be set. But some guys will have a problem with the situation because as a guy they know that if a guy says he is "friends" with a hot girl what friends really means is "I want to this girl but I haven't hooked it up yet". |
lol exactly |
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| Lilith |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i just wanted to get guys' perspective on it because i know that most men are dogs and i'm sure a lot of men wouldn't throw me out of bed, so that's what i would imagine would run through a guy's mind if i was dating him and brought him to my place and introduced him to my male roommate whom i'm very close with. he might think, "ha, bull your roommate doesn't want to secretly you". but like a lot of you said, if a guy has a problem with it, then he's probably controlling and jealous and that's a turn off for me. |
lol!
But to be serious about your question, people can think all the hell the want as long as it doesnt involve anything on some kind of level you're uncomfortable with and heck, unless it's blatantly obvious or you can somehow read minds, then its more than likely your own imagination at work.
It's sounds like you've known him for long enough anyway that any little fantasies he's ever entertained are probably long gone and would have tried something anyway in the past, hardly think 4th grade puppy love counts either for anything!
As for potentials, if they can't handle the fact you have friends, (of either sex) you're sharing a house with then, thats just a sign theyve got some serious inferiority, or lack of trust issues in the first place and stay the hell away from them. They've got some growing up to do :D |
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| Lebezniatnikov |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
my mom thinks he is, but i don't really think so. and if he is, i think he's pretty much accepted that i'm not and has moved on from that thought. i think he was in love with me when we were kids...but not any more. |
lol @ concept of just falling out of love.
An old flame is easily rekindled. |
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| idoru |
I wouldn't mind at all, really. I'd trust the person I was going out with to be open/honest about pretty much everything, and I'd trust that she's not letting her roommate poke her.
Go for it. Nothing wrong with it. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov
lol @ concept of just falling out of love.
An old flame is easily rekindled. |
Exactly. Those feelings don't just go away.
Not that your friend is necessarily 'just working on having sex with you' or has a hidden agenda, but if there's any feelings there whatsoever...
Like, imagine if things seem to work out for a while and he hears you having sex with somebody in the next room? I don't know if you've had to deal much with girlfriends of his, but have you considered how it would make you feel hearing the same thing come from his bedroom? Obviously none of us are really familiar with the entire situation, but maybe you should talk to him about this? (probably much easier said than done, I know :p ) |
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