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Wow this sucks major monkey balls (pg. 5)
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jansa
IT'S A TARP!! |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Yup for sure, you're 100% right. I HAVE experienced this with my bf, after we got back together. When we were "coming clean" about our escapades during our break up, I found things out that I NEVER thought he would do.
It was hurtful because it went SO against the person I thought he was, and it was totally out of character for him. But then I realized that he still WAS the person I thought he was...and the only real issue was my bruised ego. It stung like a bitch for a while, but boy am I ever glad I got the over that. I look back and it seems so silly...but yeah, I feel proud of myself that I could truly get over something like that.
I think in your case...with the porn, that's clearly a lot different. The implications that has on a relationship are far greater than what happened to me. In your case it's both his AND your problem...so that requires both of you to be on the same page, which I can understand why it would be difficult.
If it really is a problem for him, like any person with an addiction (or whatever, lol)...it puts people on the defensive, and yeah that REALLY s up communication.
Anyway...enough of that, lol. Getting a little too in depth here. I'll just stick to my original point that you should perhaps think a little bit more about this situation, and really consider what you need, what you may regret, what you could learn...blahblah. Especially since it DOES sound like you've got some emotions involved here. |
yea well you both communicated and worked it out.
in my case, i was the only one making the effort to bring it up and work through it. he wasn't. he was too embarrassed or something. like moral said, things happened so quickly. i was so resentful too because i was REALLY skeptical of moving with him...i thought it was too soon and i was scared it would ruin things and make us end, and sure enough, it did. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
yea well you both communicated and worked it out.
in my case, i was the only one making the effort to bring it up and work through it. he wasn't. he was too embarrassed or something. like moral said, things happened so quickly. i was so resentful too because i was REALLY skeptical of moving with him...i thought it was too soon and i was scared it would ruin things and make us end, and sure enough, it did. |
Yeah poo. And on the other side of the fence I've been there too, lol. And yep there definitely comes a time when you can give too much or do so much of the work without reciprocation.
Haha...ah in relationships! |
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| Slylee |
whatever, i'll make him his dumb little CD and just play it cool. stay busy. focus on my sexy FB whom i was starting to like a little bit, but of course now i'm all in craig mode.
my FB is driving me nuts lately, he always likes to play games and try to make me jealous and i don't fall for it and act cool, and i know it drives him nuts, so now he's being a brat. he's so hot though lol
i hate men sometimes. |
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| Jansa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
In time both of you will either demonstrate that he has overcome the character flaws that resulted in your break up or you won't. |
I'm pretty sure the breakup made those issues he has even worse. :( |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jansa
I'm pretty sure the breakup made those issues he has even worse. :( |
It could have, however, often times the loss of someone or something important to one will act as a wake up call (if you will) leading to a period of self reflection, which in turn may lead to self improvement. Wow, was that a run on sentance or what? |
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| Lira |
Wait, how can daily porn be a problem?
[Unless you're Slylee, the following paragraph contains too much information]
I either do it before going to sleep or when I want to study and need some extra stamina... that doesn't mean I love my girlfriend any less. I can't understand how that could be a problem either. I've always told her that it's just like fantasising, but with a visual aid — and the bonus is that, although she was the only girl I've ever slept with, I had a vast knowledge on how to rock her world since the beginning :D
[/too much information]
Really, pr0n doesn't matter at all... I can't consider that unfaithfulness. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Wait, how can daily porn be a problem?
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I think it was the content of the porn more so then the quantity thereof. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I think it was the content of the porn more so then the quantity thereof. |
Why? Was it illegal? :conf: |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Wow, was that a run on sentance or what? |
Actually, no it wasn't. Your proper (and effective) use of commas makes me proud. :D |
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| wienerschnitzel |
| it all boils down to what you are willing to deal with and where you draw the line. If the pr0n was the only thing bothering you then maybe you two could work it out, if there was more then that.. then i would seriously rethink making another commitment. I guess what i'm trying to say is, everyone has their issues, eli is a compulsive liar, and i'm a control freak. It took us a year or so to admit it, but slowly we are starting to deal with it and we've made alot of progress, and alot of compromising. |
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| Jansa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Wow, was that a run on sentance or what? |
:stongue: yeah
Well, let's hope, for slylee's sake.
Slylee, you can consider a relationship with him, if you really feel there's something in it. But I still stand by my point that he's definitely ing with you when it comes to that CD and the e-mails. This is textbook.
If he knows his , in a couple of weeks he'll be giving you less and less attention. Upto a point when you start seeking contact yourself, wondering what's up with him and etc. And when that happens, you're bagged.
I repeat, it's a TARP! |
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