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| woscar99 |
Thanks for all the advice, I really appreciate it. I called my gf a few minutes ago and it was more of the same. I told her I was going out for lunch with my mother and sister and asked her if she wanted to come but said she wasn't ready yet and a bunch of stupid excuses. She says I'm not paying her attention these past few days and it's probably true. I really want to make things right and be open about these recent events, so I told her we needed to talk when I came back from lunch. I'm scared less! :nervous:
sushipunk: first you call me the worst kind of lame and now I'm an attention whore. Please stop the name calling, and give some good advice instead ;)
Allied Nations: I'm not sure that posting pics will do any good, you never know who's watching! |
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| all-nite-freak |
sell all your posessions...buy some drugs and go here.
start walking...its the only way for you to turn inot a balanced individual like myself.
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call me:gsmile: |
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| Xilver |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
How was it, if you don't mind me asking? |
Well, at first it was weird. Going from living with a girl you've been with for the last 8 years to moving in your own apartment, alone. The new girl was living pretty far away, and her parents weren't really keen on her seeing me (since she broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years for me, her parents liked the boy), which meant that I didn't see her as much as I wanted to. When living alone, I thought I missed my ex-gf, but I realised that what I missed was not my ex-girlfriend, but the feeling of not being alone. After a few weeks it went away, and a few months later my new gf found a job near me and moved in with me.
It was a tough time, but I couldn't be any happier right now with my girl. |
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| eRRaTiK |
| quote: | Originally posted by woscar99
I really want to make things right and be open about these recent events, so I told her we needed to talk when I came back from lunch. |
Good.
| quote: | | I'm scared less! :nervous: |
Now this is real. When you're scared it's an indicator that you're on the right track. Be honest to yourself and to her. Tell her about your fear and why you feel the way you do. |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by eRRaTiK
Now this is real. When you're scared it's an indicator that you're on the right track. Be honest to yourself and to her. Tell her about your fear and why you feel the way you do. |
Good post.
Best of luck to the thread starter too, I hope the conversation goes well. Sorry for being on your case about it :p |
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| woscar99 |
| quote: | Originally posted by eRRaTiK
Now this is real. When you're scared it's an indicator that you're on the right track. Be honest to yourself and to her. Tell her about your fear and why you feel the way you do. |
I agree.
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
Good post.
Best of luck to the thread starter too, I hope the conversation goes well. Sorry for being on your case about it :p |
Thanks man, and no prob ;)
I'll let you guys know how it goes. ;) Wish me luck! |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by woscar99
I agree.
Thanks man, and no prob ;)
I'll let you guys know how it goes. ;) Wish me luck! |
Suerte :) |
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| woscar99 |
OK, so we had a really long talk today. I went straight to the point and told her that our relationship was going nowhere and that I thought that we needed to take a break to really miss each other like crazy and realize just how much we love each other. She said she didn't need time to know that she loves me more than anything in the world and started to cry (, I don't deserve to be alive! :whip:). That totally broke my heart and I started to cry as well. I thought time was what I needed, but then I realized that I really didn't want to spend time apart. We argued for hours but we finally agreed that it's worth it to try and change our ways since we can both get on each other's nerves all the time.
So now, I'm willing to really work on my relationship and give 110% to make it work.
I really hope she gives 110% too, because our relationship is really one that's worth saving. If things don't change in a month, then I guess I'll definitely call for a break, move in on the other girl and let the chips fall where they may! At least I'll be satisfied that I gave everything I could to make things work.
Thanks for all the great advice I got here, you guys really pointed me towards the right direction. ;) |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by woscar99
OK, so we had a really long talk today. I went straight to the point and told her that our relationship was going nowhere and that I thought that we needed to take a break to really miss each other like crazy and realize just how much we love each other. She said she didn't need time to know that she loves me more than anything in the world and started to cry (, I don't deserve to be alive! :whip:). That totally broke my heart and I started to cry as well. I thought time was what I needed, but then I realized that I really didn't want to spend time apart. We argued for hours but we finally agreed that it's worth it to try and change our ways since we can both get on each other's nerves all the time.
So now, I'm willing to really work on my relationship and give 110% to make it work.
I really hope she gives 110% too, because our relationship is really one that's worth saving. If things don't change in a month, then I guess I'll definitely call for a break, move in on the other girl and let the chips fall where they may! At least I'll be satisfied that I gave everything I could to make things work.
Thanks for all the great advice I got here, you guys really pointed me towards the right direction. ;) |
Good on you for having to balls to confront the problem with her, and to try and work through it.
Seriously man, good stuff :) |
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| CranberryJuice |
woscar = im really happy things are getting better ;)
communication is the key |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by woscar99
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Good to hear you guys seem to be working your differences out :) |
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| XaNaX |
| You made the right choice. A relationship gets stale in 7 years and the girl at work is new and interesting. However, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. |
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