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Question about cheating + friends.... (pg. 3)
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by cheshirepk8
see that's ok. added bonus, they don't know each other.
you did the respectful thing. very admirable.
i just hate when people aren't honest. that's my biggest dislike.
i need to be able to trust the person. especially if we are fookin'
i just don't know why someone would do something like that.
i could never hurt anyone like that. not saying i didn't want to at one point. |
I feel exactly the same way.....maybe you and I should get together and go on a date sometime? |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
It's forgivable in time, but only in certain cases. I don't think it's right for people to say it's absolutely unacceptable all of the time. I dunno about you guys, but best friends are hard to come by.
And I'm not saying I wouldn't be hurt and angry at them both - but is one incident of mistaken trust and infidelity really worth losing a friendship over? Some "friendships", sure - other friendships, not so much.
I can tell you who'd be paying for dinner for a looooooooooooong time though. haha |
while i agree that best friends are hard to come by, is the person really that good of a friend if they thought it was a good idea to sleep with your significant other behind your back? none of my "best" friends have ever dicked me over like that. not even close. |
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| cheshirepk8 |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
*cues John O'Callaghan - Exactly*
need we say this again!? |
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| verndogs |
I was on the receiving end of being dumped since my first gf did cheat on me (I did not know this other guy). My ex told me she felt bad for cheating on me, but she was ready to move on. She really did want to keep in contact since I was generally a good guy to have as a friend.
I told her this:
me: "I'm not hurt at all. This was good practice for me because when I get a real gf , I know what to do."
needless to say, we haven't spoken to each other since and that was 8 years ago :clown: |
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| cheshirepk8 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
I feel exactly the same way.....maybe you and I should get together and go on a date sometime? |
heh... might be a little hard if you are a non-bostonian. ;)
when i hear stories about this stuff, it just amazes me how cruel people can be...
especially if it is your best friend. dude it's just horrible.
makes me think, if they are capable of that... what else would they pull?
i don't think i could be in a situation where i doubt everything that is said.
it would drive me insane. i need open communication and trust.
just reminds me of the saying that it takes a lifetime to build trust and an instant to break it. |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by verndogs
me: "I'm not hurt at all. This was good practice for me because when I get a real gf , I know what to do."
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Hahahahaha! That's awesome!
If my wife ever did cheat on me, I honestly wouldn't deliver throat-punches or any of that crap. I'm not a very emotional guy. I'd probably say something like:
"Alright. Well, you know that we are done then right? Ok. Good luck with everything."
And that'd be it. |
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| Slylee |
I think if I was ever faced with this situation, I’d more than likely stay friends w/ the best friend if they were heart broken and really going out of their way to make it up to me. I mean if I could see that they truly felt like , bla bla.
I honestly don’t know really. It’s easy to say how I’d react. I usually don’t give myself enough credit. I think I wouldn't be able to move on from something like that, but I've moved on from some pretty ed up before just fine, so who knows. I’d probably be REALLY hurt and angry for a while and then one day just wake up and be over it, and be friends with both of them again and wish them the best of luck. lol |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by cheshirepk8
heh... might be a little hard if you are a non-bostonian. ;)
when i hear stories about this stuff, it just amazes me how cruel people can be...
especially if it is your best friend. dude it's just horrible.
makes me think, if they are capable of that... what else would they pull?
i don't think i could be in a situation where i doubt everything that is said.
it would drive me insane. i need open communication and trust.
just reminds me of the saying that it takes a lifetime to build trust and an instant to break it. |
Tee hee!! I was actually making a little joke. I really do agree with you on all that stuff but, I'm also married. So the date would then fly in the face of everything I just agreed with you on. I know, pretty nerdly joke, huh? :p |
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| cheshirepk8 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
Hahahahaha! That's awesome!
If my wife ever did cheat on me, I honestly wouldn't deliver throat-punches or any of that crap. I'm not a very emotional guy. I'd probably say something like:
"Alright. Well, you know that we are done then right? Ok. Good luck with everything."
And that'd be it. |
See if it is a married couple that is a whole other ballgame...
this is a no-division-of-assets situation.
cheating in a marriage is just on a level i don't know where to start with.*
*although there are certain exceptions of course... separated, etc.
but for a relatively steady "normal" marriage, oh hell no. |
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| cheshirepk8 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
Tee hee!! I was actually making a little joke. I really do agree with you on all that stuff but, I'm also married. So the date would then fly in the face of everything I just agreed with you on. I know, pretty nerdly joke, huh? :p |
Going on date with someone from internet still sketches me out anyways. =)
Besides, didn't you post pictures of you two on the "getting to know you" thread. :)
No worries, innocent joking is fine... and married guys aren't my thing.
see above posts :happy2: |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
Hahahahaha! That's awesome!
If my wife ever did cheat on me, I honestly wouldn't deliver throat-punches or any of that crap. I'm not a very emotional guy. I'd probably say something like:
"Alright. Well, you know that we are done then right? Ok. Good luck with everything."
And that'd be it. |
that's such bull |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
that's such bull |
Swear to God, Jamie. Truth.
EDIT:
I'm not saying I wouldn't be completely heartbroken and cry and all of that but, that's exactly how I would deal with it. |
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