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3/4 of all people are 'yes men'. (pg. 3)
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| Joss Weatherby |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Of course, and I fully agree with what you're saying...but I guess I'm referring mostly to social situations when people's feelings and opinions are involved.
Like, I think about my one girlfriend who always has drama going on/is creating it...simply because she can't be forthcoming with people and/or assert herself. She's constantly caught up in other people's opinion of her, and basically doesn't want to give anyone a reason not to like her. I understand why she does it, and her heart's in the right place, but in the end she makes herself look shady and manipulative. |
Oh, social yes people...
Yea. I think everyone is like that though at one point or another.
On the opposite side of your friend are people that are always assertive and to some degree argumentative about anything regarding things you do, plans you make, what you say, etc. Those people are just as annoying.
It still comes down to knowing when to just go with the flow and when to assert yourself and compromising in any situation.
People that just float along will cause issues, tangling up in and making a mess, and so will the dams, they just block everything.
METAPHORS PEOPLE!!!! :gsmile: |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
Sorry, but when my boss tells a joke, I am going to laugh. Because he pays me to. I wouldn't be very good at my job if I didn't do what I was being paid for, now would I?
You know what's maybe worse than yes men though? People who keep yes men around them, because they cannot tell the difference. These people are called Management and they need the constant attention of their lessers in order to feel the confirmatory pride requisite of telling others what to do all day long.
But yeah, when I'm not being paid, you, that wasn't funny, no I don't agree, go to hell you stupid . |
I have a plate of cookies here. Do you want one? |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| No, contrary people are preferable at all times. Wanna fight about it? :p |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| your cookies, triplekike. I want cake. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| But I didn't ask for cake. :( |
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| the_voice |
| i say no yea i am a guy but still no |
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| bas |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
your cookies, triplekike. I want cake. |
You fat piece of . |
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| ziptnf |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
your cookies, triplekike. I want cake. |
Mmmmmmmmmmmmm....
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
For example, Sara said in random talking that she doesn't want FB because her Boss would ask to friend request her, and she doesn't want that.
Why does she feel like she'd be obligated to say yes? |
Although there is certainly no obligation to say yes, refusing the request could disadvantage her by preventing her from taking advantage of information asymmetries that currently exist.
Often the best way to keep a secret is not to hide the answer but to hide the question. Here, hiding the question (i.e. whether or not she will assent to a friend request) by avoiding facebook entirely may well yield greater utility than participating in facebook ever would (particularly in view of the rather dubious utility of the latter). Rationally, then, the self-interested person would forego facebook in order to retain that greater advantage for themselves.
However, I agree wholeheartedly where you write:
| quote: | | Nothing if it's cold and calculating; but when it stems from cowardice it's pathetic. |
That is generally how I would evaluate acts of reluctant acquiescence or those designed to "hide the question."
If the very advantage sought through acquiescence is nothing more than the avoidance of conflict itself, then that is indeed quite pathetic--such people will be used, and deserve to be used, to serve the ends of others.
On the other hand, where such action is taken in the service of a strategy of inveiglement or dissimulation which may produce benefits unobtainable through direct confrontation, I could hardly fault it. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Hell yeah, Arbiter agrees absolutely with something I said! I'm writing about this in my journal tonight! |
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| squirrelly |
I'm not a "yes" person unless it comes to my job.
Let's just say I've seen people lose their jobs for less than just declining a fb request... |
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