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Friends who are depressed (pg. 4)
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| Lunar Phase 7 |
Sounds like the guy needs some new focus or challenge to rise upto. Whilst his life sounds pretty good, perhaps it bores him a lot and the weed is simply a quick fix for him rather than a long term strategy to help him over come this boredom.
He has lost him aim/drive because there is nothing new going on in his life perhaps? Same old same, etc. I empathise. |
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| Slylee |
so you think he is reaching out right? that's what i said.
my bf doesn't seem to think so. they're guys and they're french canadian. if he called them up and said he was about to slit his wrists, they'd laugh and be like, "dude get a ing grip!" |
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| Lunar Phase 7 |
By the sounds of it he is a gifted individual, somewhere down the line he has either lost confidence to progress or is no longer sure how to.
I'm guessing this happened when he set up his business, big challenge and it's rewarded him justly. However it's probably also left him with a "what now?" kind of feeling.
If this is the situation I think it's more a case of him getting out of it himself, hopefully he will find some new direction to pursue or some new interests.
Just be thankful he's not on anything harder (or alcohol). |
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| Slylee |
he's definitely a special guy and is an acquired taste. he's well worth the time and effort of getting to know him/getting him out of his shell around you.
also...he was here for dinner and announced to us that he quit drinking. i guess he was drinking a lot of beer too but he's quitting. i tried to get him to quit pot too and even offered to quit too but it's not happening lol
*i keep telling him to bring his dog to the dog park or beach and that she'd be a chick magnet. he's got a mini white schnauzer and she's the bomb. |
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| The17sss |
| man.. this sounds so much like my best friend. and, not until he get into a relationship did he clean up his act and develop an iota of motivation. :p |
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| Lunar Phase 7 |
As I am sure you are aware though pushing people to do things won't work.
Perhaps you can think back to things that used to really captivate his interests (sports, hobbies, media) and then look around for related events or opportunities he can get back involved with whatever it is.
If you are subtle and casually suggest something it would be far more likely to succeed than forcibly trying to get him out the house.
For arguments sake lets say he was mad into fixing up cars when he was younger, perhaps a friend could conveniently let you down on some local rally you had tickets for.
Or maybe you could look into the possibility of him helping out in workshops to share his craft with children or adults who want to learn new skills.
I could be way off the mark, but for what it's worth I think he just needs something new to spark his imagination, but you gotta be clever how you introduce this. |
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| Slylee |
he is into fixing up cars. my bf has an 87 supra he's been fixing up for racing/beating up and this guy has some other little old japanese car as well and recently got into fixing it up and my bf was over there every day and they'd work on it ALL day long.
i'm going to tell my bf to get him to work on the car again and come over more often. i keep inviting him to dinner almost every night lol i feel bad for him he just sits home alone. and plus i want his dog.
*edit* i just realized that maybe he's just down about getting older. his birthday is this sunday and i think he's turning 29. |
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| Lunar Phase 7 |
So what better cure for this than recaptivating his youth by teaching kids his trade?
They'll get something, he'll get something and he will be surrounded by people who will look up and respect him. I think it will give him a sense of responsibility especially if he is a positive role model for kids who struggle to find decent ones.
I'm sorry the only supra's I'm familiar with are skytops.
Why not make a deal. You clean his house if he cooks for guests? |
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| Irkutsk |
| It's common that ppl who suffer from mental conditions such as depression are too ashamed to seek out therapy and the appropriate medication. Instead they self medicating themselves with recreational drug such as pot. Maybe if you let him know it's no big deal giving therapy a try. |
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| Rose |
| Man it's people like that who make weed look bad. If he cut down he'd be in much better shape I'm sure. |
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| Slylee |
| yea everyone is different and it's generally difficult to know your limit when it comes to any substance, illegal or legal. it's not rocket science (being in tune with yourself) but a lot of people can't do it. or "won't" i should say. |
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| Rose |
| Yep. Tall dark and handsome? Pics? lol. |
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