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| Jackson |
Hey guys,
Yeah usually I hate too but I am going out of my mind and I'm sure its not even that big a deal...i just need a little insight.
So I've managed to have an arguement with my gf ..we go to university together but during the holidays we live 5 hours apart.
Anyway, she has this friend who I have never met. Apparently she used to hang out with him alot during the summer before we met. He calls her reguarly, like 4 times a week andabout 3 of these times will be in the middle of the night and wake us both up. He constantly texts her on like an hourly basis and whenever she goes back home he always wants to hang out with her.
We had a big arguement about this as I brought the subject up. My girlfriend says that he is apparently interested in this other girl and she doesn't believe that he is attracted to her one bit...
Am I in the wrong here for thinking this?
Does he like her?
We haven't spoke in like 4 days, I took the arguement pretty badly and did some ...
CORE VERSION: GF is recieving loads of calls and texts from another guy. I'm not sure if i'm in the wrong. |
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| Amduscias |
Oh hai, that was too long so i didn't read but here is a running dog for you.
Edit: Just read the COR version and i still have nothing to say, so here are 2 running dogs for you
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| Lomeli |
| We can't tell you what to do. You know what is that you have to do, but you're just too afraid to do it. SPEAK YOUR MIND! Don't let fear and insecurity get in the way of your relationship. Communication is by far the most important aspect of ANY form of relationship. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jackson
Hey guys,
Yeah usually I hate too but I am going out of my mind and I'm sure its not even that big a deal...i just need a little insight.
So I've managed to have an arguement with my gf ..we go to university together but during the holidays we live 5 hours apart.
Anyway, she has this friend who I have never met. Apparently she used to hang out with him alot during the summer before we met. He calls her reguarly, like 4 times a week andabout 3 of these times will be in the middle of the night and wake us both up. He constantly texts her on like an hourly basis and whenever she goes back home he always wants to hang out with her.
We had a big arguement about this as I brought the subject up. My girlfriend says that he is apparently interested in this other girl and she doesn't believe that he is attracted to her one bit...
Am I in the wrong here for thinking this?
Does he like her?
We haven't spoke in like 4 days, I took the arguement pretty badly and did some ...
CORE VERSION: GF is recieving loads of calls and texts from another guy. I'm not sure if i'm in the wrong. |
I think you can answer your own question: How many women have you called and texted in the middle of the night on a regular basis that you didn't want to sleep with?
Question 2: How many women do you know that would tolerate this sort of from you unless you were sleeping with them or they really wanted you to be.
c0r version... your girl is in' this dude when she's back home. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| You sound insecure. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lomeli
We can't tell you what to do. You know what is that you have to do, but you're just too afraid to do it. SPEAK YOUR MIND! Don't let fear and insecurity get in the way of your relationship. Communication is by far the most important aspect of ANY form of relationship. |
Who the fuck died and made you Dr. Phil? |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lomeli
your mom |
that was a total failure right there; not even close to funny. You usually do better then that. |
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| Lomeli |
I know...
I haven't smoked yet :( |
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| KilldaDJ |
hey man, i argue with my missus all the time, for petty things too like why i havent done this or whatnot. just tell her how u feel and if shes not stupid, she'll assure u and put ur mind at ease.
though on the flipside, she could well be banging this 'old' pal of hers.
so there you have it, pick the blue or red pill. infact, it. take em both. |
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| Silky Johnson |
Basically, you can either trust your gf, or not. If you feel that her relationship with this fellow crosses the boundaries of YOUR relationship with her, then say so. All you can do is voice your discomfort at the situation. If she gets defensive and isn't sensitive to how you feel...that speaks for itself really.
You shouldn't ever have to give loved ones an ultimatum, but at the same time, if they aren't willing to accept one, you gotta wonder why/what's going on. |
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| euphoria |
There is nothing wrong with male / female friendships assuming they are platonic but it seems like in this case they are very "close". You left out some crucial pieces of information here.
1. When he calls in the middle of the night does she actually answer and talk to him or tell him off I'm sleeping?
2. Does he know about you? (Doesn't even matter too much really most guys don't give a )
3. Does she leave the room to talk to him or speak to him in front of you, and do the conversations seem suspicious?
There are a number of possibilities here. He can either be a very needy male friend, not have very many friends if any at all besides ur girl, or he def wants to get with her and is using this whole "he's trying to get with some other chick" as a ploy to find out what advice your girl will give him and actually use her own advice to get into her pants.
If you are getting a bad feeling about this you should trust your instinct. Tell her he is going overboard and she needs to talk to him and tell him to respect, and if that doesn't work talk to him yourself. |
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