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Is Passion "a must" or just a luxury?
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| igottaknow |
I’ve heard that the three most important things in a relationship are Friendship, Passion and Respect but is passion over rated? I wonder how many people out there are settled in a relationship or marriage because they never really found what they were looking for and they were tired of looking. How many people have settled for Mr./Ms. OKAY instead of Mr./Ms RIGHT. If you are one of those people, are you happy? Let’s say if I were to find a “good guy” who was caring, respectful, would do anything in the world for me, but there was just something missing, a lack of chemistry or emotional/spiritual connection. I would be smart to settle with a man like this, but would I be happy in the long run? Is passion “a must” or is it just a luxury? It’s not that I’m looking for the fairy tale but I just wonder if settling without it should even be option. Are you supposed to wait for “the one” even if they might not exist? If you are someone who did that, how did that turn out? Should the person you marry be a practical logical match or should they be more than that? Should it be someone who makes your heart feel all warm and fuzzy, you can’t stop smiling at each other, love being around them, will do anything to make them happy etc. or is all that just some Hollywood idea of a marriage? Should we even aim for that or are these unrealistic expectations?
Did you settle? |
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| Meat187 |
| Whenever I hear or read about this romantic Hollywood movie- / shallow tearjerking women's novel- / retarded emo poet- definition of true love I throw up a little in my mouth. |
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| boris_the_bear |
| retarded and irrelevant post removed |
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| EricB. |
| passion is for hookers |
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| Silky Johnson |
People can't find "the one" because they're ing morons, not because their relationships don't have passion or whatever the else. People generally don't even know or understand themselves, how the can they know or understand another person enough to know how to make a relationship work?
In short, your question is irrelevant to what the real issue is. |
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| EricB. |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
People can't find "the one" because they're ing morons, not because their relationships don't have passion or whatever the else. People generally don't even know or understand themselves, how the can they know or understand another person enough to know how to make a relationship work?
In short, your question is irrelevant to what the real issue is. |
i know exactly what I want unfortunately in Toronto it doesnt exist. I'm not going to find a 10/10 thatll cook and clean for me....actually there are a few out there but they expect a 10/10 that makes millions. I'm like 7/10 that makes hundreds |
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| Meat187 |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
People can't find "the one" because they're ing morons, not because their relationships don't have passion or whatever the else. People generally don't even know or understand themselves, how the can they know or understand another person enough to know how to make a relationship work?
In short, your question is irrelevant to what the real issue is. |
Seems like you misunderstood. The question was not about women only. |
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| Theresa |
I have had one of each... one where the man was a decent, hard-working, loving guy who treated me well, but we just weren't on the same page. Then I met a guy who not only was all those things, but also made me excited to see him, butterflies in my tummy type stuff, would do just about anything for him.
Although I could have settled for the first guy, I felt like something was missing and as soon as I realized that the thing that was missing was attainable, I wanted to move on. That's never a good thing for a relationship.
With that in mind, I think it's better to wait for that person who makes you giddy and excited to be with them, because if you settle for less and find more while you're with them, you will be disappointed or tempted to cheat/leave them (which I think may be a reason why so many people get divorced).
However, if you are getting older, I can understand why you would wanna get hooked up for the sake of companionship and take the chance of being disappointed or just "ok" with things. There is a possibility that there isn't anyone out there that will give you those "giddy" feelings, or that the stars just wont align so that you will find them. I would imagine there would be a breaking point where you say that you've waited long enough and just go with "ok".
Personally, I am not sure I would ever be able to settle for "ok", but then again, I am not in my 40's and alone so who knows. The need for companionship is a powerful one. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Meat187
Seems like you misunderstood. The question was not about women only. |
Mhmm. |
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| EricB. |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I have had one of each... one where the man was a decent, hard-working, loving guy who treated me well, but we just weren't on the same page. Then I met a guy who not only was all those things, but also made me excited to see him, butterflies in my tummy type stuff, would do just about anything for him.
Although I could have settled for the first guy, I felt like something was missing and as soon as I realized that the thing that was missing was attainable, I wanted to move on. That's never a good thing for a relationship.
With that in mind, I think it's better to wait for that person who makes you giddy and excited to be with them, because if you settle for less and find more while you're with them, you will be disappointed or tempted to cheat/leave them (which I think may be a reason why so many people get divorced).
However, if you are getting older, I can understand why you would wanna get hooked up for the sake of companionship and take the chance of being disappointed or just "ok" with things. There is a possibility that there isn't anyone out there that will give you those "giddy" feelings, or that the stars just wont align so that you will find them. I would imagine there would be a breaking point where you say that you've waited long enough and just go with "ok".
Personally, I am not sure I would ever be able to settle for "ok", but then again, I am not in my 40's and alone so who knows. The need for companionship is a powerful one. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by EricB.
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YOU'RE BORING :mad: |
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