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Are birds of a feather better off flocking together, or are they missing out? (pg. 2)
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| Silky Johnson |
I gravitate socially towards people who share common interests with me, for what I think are obvious reasons - but I would hardly say that makes us similar. I have the best relationships with people who are very different from me (my bf is my polar opposite). Initially, yes of course it's more appealing to connect with people who seem like-minded, but again, personally, I find that doesn't facilitate longevity.
That said, I was more of a loner when I was a kid. I hung out with everybody and nobody. The whole clique thing never really appealed to me, so I just sort of joined whatever groups I felt like at the time. Surprisingly, nobody ever had a problem with this.
It wasn't until the end of HS that I formed a solid group of friends, and only within the past 6-7 years that I've formed a group of girlfriends that I can see myself having a relationship for the rest of my life. And again, we're all very different.
edit: I also really love what I do for this very reason. I work with people from all kinds of cultures, and have to be sensitive to their needs and practices, be non-judgmental, etc. There's a lot to be learned from others. |
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| Silky Johnson |
Also this:
| quote: | Originally posted by woscar
You can miss out on a lot, either way. |
Hanging out with like-minded people helps to reaffirm values and beliefs which builds confidence and self-efficacy but, conversely; hanging out with other-minded people helps us to question and challenge our beliefs, which can lead to growth and change. |
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| igottaknow |
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| Magadansky |
Socially, I like to have people around me who do not share exactly the same thoughts as me. Even my closer friends aren't like me, they value different things and approach similar situations as I had before, differently. This, as some people stated above, helps you to enrich yourself more and be able to view the things from more than one angle.
Romantically however I want someone who is similar to me, more precisely in the way they approach love. I can't stand a girl who isn't romantic as I am or does not value the same gestures and things in love as I do. She might be completely different in terms of job, political views, music and so on but deep she has to be like me otherwise I just have the feeling my love isn't appreciated (and probably it is vice versa). |
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| MGT |
Different for growth.
Similar for girth. |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spam
You just got owned PKC. |
i dont follow. |
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
i dont follow. |
You are a non sequitur? |
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| tubularbills |
| i like people like me. both in friends and romances. |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by EddieZilker
You are a non sequitur? |
:haha: |
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| kadomony |
| I don't know, ask Stu. |
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| Lilith |
| I've never met another me (which is possibly a good thing!) There are some things which I have a superficial common interest in with other people like music but I guess romantically at the moment its more interesting to be with something I have not a lot in common with. That can be cause for a few squabbles, but otherwise its opened my eyes to a few things I probably would have been dismissive of. |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by kadomony
I don't know, ask Stu. |
Ask me what?
Tell me :mad: |
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