She is turning 84 and I did my best living with her to take the best care I could for her, everything was OK until a few months ago she either caught the Dementia or Alzheimer disease and wouldn't take her medicine anymore and talked to invisible people all day and night always running on little or no sleep. She would call the police at 3am all the time and say there was a murder here or there and give names of people from her past that she felt were being murdered. I called Adult Protective Services where I have a friend that works there so she sent out the police - CIT officers and my Grandma went willingly with them. But I thought she was going to come back home sometime soon. We took away her cell phone awhile back and I can definitely deal with her talking to herself so I didn't think she was going to sent to her place of death but I should have known. She was sent to a nursing home where she will never come home from and basically she will die there.
I cried so much today! She begged me to take her home but since the law was involved I couldn't do anything about that. The friend I have at Adult Protective Services said it was nothing I was doing wrong but she needed more proper care. So tonight I am drowning myself in some hardcore drugs, This is really hard for me since she watched me as a kid while my parents worked and I known her all my life, even more than my brothers but that is probably due to the fact I am the oldest but it really really ing hurts. I start to think of the things I could have done better and as greedy as it sounds I almost wish I didn't call my friend at Adult Protective Service because she would be at least be here tonight. But everything happens for a reason (so I like to think) and maybe it probably really is for the best so tonight me and my girlfriend are really partying real horror show. I need to get back to the drugs and I just needed to release this information to strangers for some odd reason and since TA is my main forum of interest that's how it came about. This is just the cycle of life hitting me smack in the face tonight.
ModernNosferatu
Lomeli
Sorry to hear that man. :(
woscar
This sucks man, and APS are s.
rT19
if feel for you bro
grandma's are amazing
i love my to death
i hope she gets the best care at her new home
Joss Weatherby
Nursing Homes are a conspiracy mate. Better watch out.
EricB.
youre a fag nou.
as for OP. Sucks man, we had to do the same to my grandma this year. She ended up starvingherself to death. Getting old sucks. My parents are getting up there in age, and it saddens me at times.
Moongoose
Same here, had to take both grandparents to the nursing home in the span of a couple of weeks a few months ago. It sucked but they need 24hr non stop care and you just cant provide that when they live at home. It used to be that every loud sound would wake all the familly up and we would rush to see if perhaps grandpa was strolling around during the night, fell down and broke something (which was usually the case sadly).
pkcRAISTLIN
Im looking forward to when I have to take my pares to a nursing home and get power of attorney.
KilldaDJ
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Originally posted by ModernNosferatu
me and my gf were talking about this song yesterday lol, it was coined the most depressing song ever lol
oh and bad times for ur gran. i can imagine it sucks big time.
Moongoose
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Originally posted by KilldaDJ
me and my gf were talking about this song yesterday lol, it was coined the most depressing song ever lol
You dont want to wield a knife while listening to that song. Guaranteed to end badly.
Fledz
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Originally posted by EricB.
youre a fag nou.
as for OP. Sucks man, we had to do the same to my grandma this year. She ended up starvingherself to death. Getting old sucks. My parents are getting up there in age, and it saddens me at times.
Not necessarily. I've got two grandmas left in their late 70s and a grandpa in his 80s and they are doing fine. Just because you get old doesn't mean your quality of life goes downhill and you need constant care.
This is why staying healthy, exercising and eating well is so important in your younger years because it allows you to live well into your 80s and well too. No one in my extended family has ever needed to go into a home and probably never will, simply because well all take care of ourselves.
The western world has this strange outlook on life where anyone over 60 needs to be put into a home so someone else can take care of them. I don't get it.
