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stealing girls is the new thing in 2k10 (pg. 8)
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| wotyzoid |
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
that. if she isn’t with a friend, or hasn’t been previously, its game on. Why must I treat her relationship with more respect than she’s willing to? |
This is pretty much how I roll. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
that. if she isn’t with a friend, or hasn’t been previously, its game on. Why must I treat her relationship with more respect than she’s willing to? |
This is a good point, even though I understand Jenny and Lews' side of the argument.
From a guy's point of view: Let's say I sit next to a girl in my accounting class and she's got a boyfriend. We make conversation like normal people before and after class. Over the weeks, we both understand the chemistry between us is electric and undeniable... and without being forward at all, she clearly starts hinting about being unhappy in her relationship yet still cares about her bf, yada yada. I really want to be with her, and I can tell that maybe she just needs a little nudge over the cliff to set things in motion. We all know breakups are never easy or clean. So I open up and tell her I'm really in to her, etc. She'll be forced into making a choice (which would ultimately be fair to everyone involved, as sneaky secretive crushes don't help existing relationships). I may have pushed her back with her boyfriend after my advance makes her reevaluate her situation; provide the catalyst that gives her the confidence to end the relationship she isn't fully respecting; or enter the friend zone by making the whole thing complicated. If it works out between us, and she's happy I provided the spark, who gives a about the other guy she left at that point? I'd be doing myself a disservice (and possibly her) by never opening up (if I felt the situation merited it); if it wasn't me, eventually it would be someone else that she'd end up with. Sometimes people just need a little kick in the ass. ;) |
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| nefardec |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
I may have pushed her back with her boyfriend after my advance makes her reevaluate her situation; provide the catalyst that gives her the confidence to end the relationship she isn't fully respecting; or enter the friend zone by making the whole thing complicated. If it works out between us, and she's happy I provided the spark, who gives a about the other guy she left at that point? I'd be doing myself a disservice (and possibly her) by never opening up (if I felt the situation merited it); if it wasn't me, eventually it would be someone else that she'd end up with. Sometimes people just need a little kick in the ass. ;) |
I think that's manipulative, and you may have problems with her trusting you down the road. |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
This is a good point, even though I understand Jenny and Lews' side of the argument.
From a guy's point of view: Let's say I sit next to a girl in my accounting class and she's got a boyfriend. We make conversation like normal people before and after class. Over the weeks, we both understand the chemistry between us is electric and undeniable... and without being forward at all, she clearly starts hinting about being unhappy in her relationship yet still cares about her bf, yada yada. I really want to be with her, and I can tell that maybe she just needs a little nudge over the cliff to set things in motion. We all know breakups are never easy or clean. So I open up and tell her I'm really in to her, etc. She'll be forced into making a choice (which would ultimately be fair to everyone involved, as sneaky secretive crushes don't help existing relationships). I may have pushed her back with her boyfriend after my advance makes her reevaluate her situation; provide the catalyst that gives her the confidence to end the relationship she isn't fully respecting; or enter the friend zone by making the whole thing complicated. If it works out between us, and she's happy I provided the spark, who gives a about the other guy she left at that point? I'd be doing myself a disservice (and possibly her) by never opening up (if I felt the situation merited it); if it wasn't me, eventually it would be someone else that she'd end up with. Sometimes people just need a little kick in the ass. ;) |
That's a terrible example. 'Electric and undeniable' chemistry between two people studying accounting? Bull. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by nefardec
I think that's manipulative, and you may have problems with her trusting you down the road. |
I don't know man... it's definitely a gray area. I don't mean to sound like I'm orchestrating a grand scheme. But sometimes you can see that a girl is almost waiting for you to speak up; you can see she's unhappy with her man but might not have the confidence/courage to do something about it unless she knows what you're feeling. If you believe your instincts to be true, and a chance at happiness awaits, why keep quiet? If you're wrong, you gotta suck up the embarrassment. But if you put the choice in her hands, that's not really manipulative.
Edit: lol good point Sushi. Shoulda said abnormal psychology. |
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| d_Verge |
| quote: | Originally posted by nefardec
I think that's manipulative, and you may have problems with her trusting you down the road. |
Or better yet, you may have problems trusting her down the road. Knowing how you got her, you might think some other guy is trying to do the same thing in a different class next semester. |
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| JD8180 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
That's a terrible example. 'Electric and undeniable' chemistry between two people studying accounting? Bull. |
I'm studying accounting... :( |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by JD8180
I'm studying accounting... :( |
Then I'm sorry, sir, but you have no personality :o
Or I was just joking :p |
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| yukii |
^ :stongue:
I like it when guys like kevin are pushy and I like them back, it gives an incentive to move forward because obviously he likes you & wants you.
However, if I'm taken, I really hate pushy guys, even if I repeat I have a boyfriend. Then it's just awkward and I don't know how to avoid the guy because he still keeps coming on to me. |
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| JD8180 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
Or I was just joking :p |
it's cool man, I wake up every morning saying it was the worst mistake in my life. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by yukii
^ :stongue:
I like it when guys like kevin are pushy and I like them back, it gives an incentive to move forward because obviously he likes you & wants you.
However, if I'm taken, I really hate pushy guys, even if I repeat I have a boyfriend. Then it's just awkward and I don't know how to avoid the guy because he still keeps coming on to me. |
One doesn't even have to be pushy... sometimes just being honest about your feelings is enough ;)
If a girl tells me she's not interested, done... message received; I shall bother you no more. Some fellas, as you know, need it to be spelled out to them. haha |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| The biggest infidelator I know is an accountant. |
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