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So I either have a busted fuel pump or a shot transmission... (pg. 3)
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| OrangestO |
| quote: | Originally posted by wienerschnitzel
The point I'm trying to make is you have no reason to suspect that what Nou's family did was not in his grandmas best interest. |
You're right.
I apologize for that, but I still stand behind my stance on the subject. Unless my family member has to be hospitalized and bedridden, then I'm not throwing them in a nursing home/assistant living facility/whatever. Not on my watch. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
That's good. Neither would I.
But I've been through committing someone close to me because they suffered constant seizures, paranoia of loved ones through dementia, and myriad other physical issues that had likely been neglected due to the principle of taking care of family, foremost. It was not in her best interest; in retrospect, it's much easier to keep loved ones close to you, even if they would be much healthier under professional watch and facilities. It becomes outright selfish at some point. |
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| Nrg2Nfinit |
| quote: | Originally posted by EddieZilker
Does the engine start? If it starts, it's not your fuel pump. |
I've had a fuel pump issue before.
usually what you can do for a temp fix is grab a large stick and smack it from underneath your car.. that should get you giong until you can bring it to a mechanic.
if your car is prone to issues its always a good idea to have a AAA membership.. here in canada we call it CAA. |
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| OrangestO |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
It was not in her best interest; in retrospect, it's much easier to keep loved ones close to you, even if they would be much healthier under professional watch and facilities. It becomes outright selfish at some point. |
My grandfather faced this when he went through chemo. He wanted no part of it, but with constant nagging and guilt trips from the family he decided to go through with it.
It extended his life - from what we were told - but the pain and suffering he had to endure in doing so is something I would never wish on my worst enemy. He was bedridden at my mom's house the entire time with nurses coming from time to time to take care of him.
From what I remember, they considered putting him in a hospice but it became too late and he passed away before a decision was made.
Quite the dilemma, either way. |
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nrg2Nfinit
usually what you can do for a temp fix is grab a large stick and smack it from underneath your car.. that should get you giong until you can bring it to a mechanic. |
Yup! Just finishing up my first semester in automotive tech. If the car starts after thumping the bottom of the fuel-take where the pump is mounted, you've loosened the impellers enough to get the car to a mechanic and get it replaced. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by OrangestO
Quite the dilemma, either way. |
Exactly. It's one of the hardest decisions you can make about someone you love. Even if you know they are going to die, you know they would rather die at home than some facility full of strangers and staff.
It's why it's not right to take the hardline against people who locate their family members into such places; in my case, my ex-girlfriend's mother was only 50. Hardly on death's door by that assessment, but she had MS since she was 19, and 3 decades of burgeoning dementia.
You just can't make such snap judgments based on what you think you would do for your mother/father, grandma/grandpa... not until you're truly staring down the barrel of doing so, yourself. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| quote: | Originally posted by EddieZilker
Does the engine start? If it starts, it's not your fuel pump. |
Sorry I should have wrote fuel system. The pump is probably fine but there might be an issue somewhere in the timing system. My dad had almost the exact same issue on an Accord he owned, swore it was the transmission, took it in and they said it was the fuel pump stopping gas flow then dumping, which caused the car to learch while cruising.
I noticed this issue a couple days ago on my way down here but I wasn't driving. I chocked it up to my mom failing at my cruise control. I drove around for 4 days here, including up some rough access roads and highway driving and didn't notice it. After an hour or so though on the road today it started doing it again but more rapidly. No warning lights all levels are fine and it seems to happen when I'm cruising at around 40mph and at about 2000 rpm. It's an automatic and it wasn't trying to change gears when this was occurring and in fact changing gears seemed fine.
It could be tranny but it seems like it would be all or nothing if that were the case and now show up randomly.
if I know though, cars really aren't my thing. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
Exactly. It's one of the hardest decisions you can make about someone you love. Even if you know they are going to die, you know they would rather die at home than some facility full of strangers and staff.
It's why it's not right to take the hardline against people who locate their family members into such places; in my case, my ex-girlfriend's mother was only 50. Hardly on death's door by that assessment, but she had MS since she was 19, and 3 decades of burgeoning dementia.
You just can't make such snap judgments based on what you think you would do for your mother/father, grandma/grandpa... not until you're truly staring down the barrel of doing so, yourself. |
Yea we made the call after she suffered a bout of delirium where she was totally gone. She thought she was back on her farm in North Dakota, which she moved from when she was like 7. She wouldn't remember to eat, she'd open a bottle of wine and then forget how much she had. She is much happier now. It's an extremely nice facility that specializes in memory issues. |
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| EddieZilker |
NVM misread your post.
It could be secondary voltage leak with the ignition system. What are the weather conditions when this is happening?
Also, have you had any work done to that car, recently? |
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| Sushipunk |
It's always a tough call with dementia. My gran ended up with Alzheimer's when she was 79, and despite my dad living a couple of blocks away and being around there as much as he could (she refused to move out of her house), it wasn't so easy. She got to the point where if she was left alone for an hour or so (even at midnight or something), she would go wandering around the neighborhood by herself, and have no idea where she was. She'd occasionally forget to put clothes on too, so my dad used to get quite a few calls from the local police, to pick up an old naked woman. Thankfully my gran had lived in the area for 40 years, and nearly everyone knew her, and knew about her condition, so they'd help her out if they found her strolling around lost.
My dad and uncle eventually decided to put her into proper care. She seemed pretty ok with it, but she was forgetting stuff most of the time, so it's kinda hard to tell. On the other hand, she would vividly remember things from her childhood, and at some points she was so sure she was 10 years old again and had to go and feed the horses (she grew up on a farm, and that was always her job as a kid).
One of the saddest moments of my childhood :( She was such an awesome lady though :D |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
You're right in that its immoral to put a family member into a home just because you're tired of dealing with their age. I'm with you there. If that happens, those people are s. |
off, how is it immoral? if they can't take care of themselves properly why does that automatically become their family's problem? like, some might argue i have public masturbation issues, but should that really be dealt with by my kids or should the state intervene?
we just put nan in a home. dad kept telling me how nice it was. i told him i was glad that it was nice, and i hope he was looking forward to living there some day. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
It's always a tough call with dementia. My gran ended up with Alzheimer's when she was 79, and despite my dad living a couple of blocks away and being around there as much as he could (she refused to move out of her house), it wasn't so easy. She got to the point where if she was left alone for an hour or so (even at midnight or something), she would go wandering around the neighborhood by herself, and have no idea where she was. She'd occasionally forget to put clothes on too, so my dad used to get quite a few calls from the local police, to pick up an old naked woman. Thankfully my gran had lived in the area for 40 years, and nearly everyone knew her, and knew about her condition, so they'd help her out if they found her strolling around lost.
My dad and uncle eventually decided to put her into proper care. She seemed pretty ok with it, but she was forgetting stuff most of the time, so it's kinda hard to tell. On the other hand, she would vividly remember things from her childhood, and at some points she was so sure she was 10 years old again and had to go and feed the horses (she grew up on a farm, and that was always her job as a kid).
One of the saddest moments of my childhood :( She was such an awesome lady though :D |
man i hope that never happens to my parents. |
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