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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by david.michael
As it turns out, that happens to be the name of my punk band. |
Hah! TA is full of good band names these days :p |
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| psybaby |
| Love my freedom :D |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I do have to laugh at you people saying you need to be single to have "freedom". If the only relationships you've been in made you feel like you've held back from anything, you've been doing it wrong. Unless of course the only freedom you're really talking about is the freedom to whoever you want...why bother with this thread in the first place? |
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| PivotTechno |
| Look who the OP is - do you really need to ask why? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I guess not. :/ |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
I do have to laugh at you people saying you need to be single to have "freedom". If the only relationships you've been in made you feel like you've held back from anything, you've been doing it wrong. Unless of course the only freedom you're really talking about is the freedom to whoever you want...why bother with this thread in the first place? |
It really depends. Freedom to anything is negligible. We are always free to anything, and if you do everything while in a relationship it really says everything about the quality of it.
I used to be a bit of a serial monogamist. I like being in relationships. Life is just better when you are in one that is going well.
There is still something to be said for having more freedom when single. We are free to make "selfish" choices. Looking out for number 1 is not such a bad thing if you are doing it for the right reasons. I'm all about compromise, but when you only have your needs and wants to think about you do have many more options in terms of certain things. Just the choices I have made in the last year would have been impossible in the relationship that I was previously in back home. Hindsight is really easy for sure, but not having anything to hold you back (i don't mean what you will likely assume by this) does allow you to be bolder. 2013 is only 3 months old and it is easily on track to be probably my most successful year ever. None of this would have happened if i didn't only have myself to think of.
The kicker is that I hit the jackpot and met someone way out of my league that finds me charming for some reason beyond me. It most likely means i'm ed again. Wo de tai tai.:p |
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| psybaby |
I'm in a "relationship" for 7 years :) and we are both free emotionally and spiritually (I did put quotation marks because for me that is a spiritual divine union and divine union is an example of true love that leads to everlasting happiness and spiritual expansion). For healthy "relationship" emotional and spiritual freedom are essential.. Emotions and mental state, my own and his are kept clean.. Freedom of not wanting anything, of not having any expectations. We direct our strength on what is essential, on disconnecting the mind.. The more you become aware of yourself as consciousness, personal energy becomes more distant, weaker and the energy of the Presence becomes stronger. So we give each other time and space to self-explore ourselves, no limitations, no expectations..we don't need to be loved. Only then your love becomes very open, very broad, very beautiful, very strong. Life by it self will give you what you need at the perfect time. If you could stop thinking incessantly and stop identifying with your thoughts then you can come to understand. You know when babies are born they don't do much thinking. But they are still whole and peaceful. They still experience things and they are joyful. Because they aren't trapped in concepts like we are. I don't want you to believe anything. You will know when you become less identified with your mind and less addicted to thinking. It's simple. Your mind complicates. Just as nature is innocent, we must return again to innocence. For real understanding you need to become empty. With innocence, mind comes back on track. If ego is gone..
Many people believe that only one person can be their soul-mate I don't. Many consider the soul-mate as the "perfect person" and the "perfect love", that is the biggest misconception. No words can express Love because it is an experience. When retelling an experience it then becomes just a story. It's simple, love is simply being in the moment. When you are with someone you love, you are just feeling the bliss of being in the moment with that person. You can attain the same bliss through meditation.. :) |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
| What a load of commie e. 2 in the pink, 1 in the stink. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I've been thinking a lot recently that I would like to try meditation. I used to be all into that stuff in my late teens + early twenties. |
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| psybaby |
| Miss Pie :) you can always start meditating again, grow again.. Again, be kind to yourself because that is for you! :) |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
| When I am about to fist someone, i never think to myself, "It would be so much better if she had a Gorbachev birthmark." |
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| PivotTechno |
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
I've been thinking a lot recently that I would like to try meditation. I used to be all into that stuff in my late teens + early twenties. |
http://www.torana.dhamma.org/
Free and non-sectarian, but you'll need to book two weeks off. Very much worth it, though. |
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