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Do you think men and women can be just friends? (pg. 2)
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| SYSTEM-J |
| Lira, I sometimes think you exist entirely as a sort of universal antimatter to cynicism. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
Lira, I sometimes think you exist entirely as a sort of universal antimatter to cynicism. |
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Some people just want to see the world burn. I'm the clumsy kid who accidentally sets the arsonists ablaze :p
This is not without problems though: I fell out with a friend because he was becoming increasingly cynical, and thought I was leading these girls on (which is, of course, rubbish). He was a bit of a misogynist though, and he thought women aren't at all interesting (and that's, quite naturally, bollocks), so there was no reason I could possibly want to hang out with them that didn't involve testosterone. Eventually one day he said he thought I was despicable for doing all this and pressed my berserk button complaining I should act like a Christian. |
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| itsamemario |
lol only being friends with males sounds like ing hell.
of course male and females can be friends. |
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| Lilith |
| Yes, but they will still look at your boobs. |
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| Jon_Snow |
| What are we supposed to look at your eyes? :rolleyes: |
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| itsamemario |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lilith
Yes, but they will still look at your boobs. |
Yeah, just like my female friends can't stop staring at my bulge.
The notion that friends cannot have sex is pretty silly, it's perfectly doable, as long you ain't slowing till the break of dawn. |
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| AlphaStarred |
| Well, that's my point. If you're buddies, then where does one draw the line between friends and lovers? And if you stop ing, the 'friendship' could eventually die out. Same thing with sexual tension - once it's released or dies out, do you still remain friends? |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by AlphaStarred
Well, that's my point. If you're buddies, then where does one draw the line between friends and lovers? |
I'm not sure a line needs to be drawn. Sure, there's a difference between saying someone is your friend and someone is your girlfriend (or boyfriend for that matter), but it's the attitude that counts. If you've got a friends with benefits, and there's never been a talk about how it is okay to have more friends with the same benefits, then you might refrain from bonking other people for the time being.
Sure, this equals being lovers, but I'd find it the emotionally responsible thing to do. Besides, for all I care I married a friend, so I wouldn't be so caught up with these labelling conventions :p |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
It's perfectly possible for men and women to be friends if there's mutual friends or a common social situation. A man and a woman who regularly hang out together with no other party and no prescribed social situation, well... I think tension will almost inevitably arise if it doesn't exist already.
[Insert politically correct qualifier about sexuality here] |
i agree with this in terms of introductions. I think once that introduction is made and the relationship is established its easy to be friends with someone and have no sexual tension, even when one on one.
but strangers of the opposite sex don't just meet and be "friends"...
Lira's opinions on this topic don't count because he's asexual. :p |
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| Lira |
But we're not even disagreeing with one another :p
That's precisely why I turned down some opportunities teaching solo when my spider sense tingled... |
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| Jon_Snow |
| I never bought that "I married my best friend". You're trying to say there is more to your realationship than sex. You build friendships, you don't build sexual attraction, you either are or you're not. For the most part people of the opposite sex aren't friends because they don't share the same mindset. Note this doesn't change when people get married guys like doing man stuff with other guys like watch the game etc and women do things like shopping. Yeah there are exceptions to the rule. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
I never bought that "I married my best friend". You're trying to say there is more to your realationship than sex. You build friendships, you don't build sexual attraction, you either are or you're not. For the most part people of the opposite sex aren't friends because they don't share the same mindset. Note this doesn't change when people get married guys like doing man stuff with other guys like watch the game etc and women do things like shopping. Yeah there are exceptions to the rule. |
I'm not sure I follow you... I share the same mindset with loads of friends of the opposite sex :conf:
It just so happens that, in my wife's case, I'm both attracted to her and we've developed a friendship as well. Most couples will tell you precisely the same thing, I believe (reason you've heard this before).
I can't imagine how annoying it must be to date someone you're not friends with... |
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