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Do you think men and women can be just friends? (pg. 4)
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
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Oh, I didn't mean to say he thought the way you do: You couldn't be more different. If it sounds like I did, I apologise. For starters, you don't come across as a misogynist/male chauvinist - he clearly thought women are "not as bright" as men, something I don't think you'd say. If anything, I'd say you just dislike bad arguments and plonkers - not women :p
And I agree with you regarding the three cases in which it's possible to tackle this problem. (C) is an important one, I believe, and how you treat your friends clearly matters: one of my friends used to make fun of me because I'd treat her like a "bro", but treating them all as men after a while does have the same result as smiling when you're not that happy.
By the way, this is not to say I felt zero sexual tension the whole time, specially with strangers. but I'm quite oblivious to my surroundings, and sometimes I'd just noticed something hours later... when it was all safe to just go to the internet and cry myself to sleep :p |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
men and women minds are fundamentally different. We enjoy doing different things. Even when we do the same thing we do it for different reasons. Take games guys play shoot'em up, women play well I don't know I'm not a woman. |
As far as stereotypes go, you're right. But there are blokeish women, who take pleasure in doing things guys usually like; and there are girlie men, taste wise. I'm definitely one. My female friends have recommended some of the best books I've ever read, and some of the best TV programmes I've ever watched precisely for this reason.
In short, I enjoy the same things my female friends do mostly because the manliest thing I do is listen to drum'n'bass. Of the most girlie kind :D |
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| Silky Johnson |
Of course men and women can be just friends. Like all relationships, you have to enter into them knowing your intent and then discussing (and respecting) your boundaries. It isn't rocket science, unless you're a troglodyte.
I really don't believe that people "can't help themselves". You can be in any mindset you want to be when it comes to the opposite sex. If you aren't putting out the vibe and seeking someone else's vibe, then "tension" won't be a problem. It's about mindfulness. "I am not looking to meet a member of the opposite sex for sexual or romantic purposes; therefore, I will not." |
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| Vivid Boy |
jenny's my nigga she aint ever seen my peepee and yet we've watched someone OD together.
I still think they shouldnt have made such a big scene about it and just weekend at bernie's the girl's body out of there. |
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| Silky Johnson |
:stongue: :stongue: :stongue:
Totally forgot about Weekend at Bernie's. Ahahahahaha!! |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Oh, I didn't mean to say he thought the way you do: You couldn't be more different. If it sounds like I did, I apologise. |
Don't worry, I'd just been expanding on my own thoughts in a fake email to nobody at work and I used a vaguely relevant line of your post to link it in. |
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| AnotherWay83 |
i've had women friends in the past so i certainly think it's possible.
that said, i'll never actively try to be a girl's friend again - sooner or later some guy will enter her life and either because a) he's jealous or b) she doesn't want him to have any doubts, we'll stop hanging out almost completely. this has happened to me in the past so it's kinda pointless trying to be friends with girls if they'll just disappear soon anyway. |
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| Zharen |
| quote: | Originally posted by AnotherWay83
i've had women friends in the past so i certainly think it's possible.
that said, i'll never actively try to be a girl's friend again - sooner or later some guy will enter her life and either because a) he's jealous or b) she doesn't want him to have any doubts, we'll stop hanging out almost completely. this has happened to me in the past so it's kinda pointless trying to be friends with girls if they'll just disappear soon anyway. |
Well, in my experience I've seen guys being guilty of this too. As soon as they got a g/f it was all "Hey, cya later." and disappear for a while. It's only when I unexpectedly run into them later on is when I realized that got ed, and now I gotta hear their sob stories. :rolleyes: |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by AnotherWay83
i've had women friends in the past so i certainly think it's possible.
that said, i'll never actively try to be a girl's friend again - sooner or later some guy will enter her life and either because a) he's jealous or b) she doesn't want him to have any doubts, we'll stop hanging out almost completely. this has happened to me in the past so it's kinda pointless trying to be friends with girls if they'll just disappear soon anyway. |
This needn't happen. This may (and does) happen from time to time, but if you befriend him as well from the outset, it's unlikely this will be an issue.
Unless, of course, he's jealous by nature. Then your friendship is doomed :( |
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| Jon_Snow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
As far as stereotypes go, you're right. But there are blokeish women, who take pleasure in doing things guys usually like; and there are girlie men, taste wise. I'm definitely one. My female friends have recommended some of the best books I've ever read,
In short, I enjoy the same things my female friends do mostly because th |
To be honest I never read that Harlequin romance novel you sent me. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
To be honest I never read that Harlequin romance novel you sent me. |
Y U DO DIS  |
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| Jon_Snow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Y U DO DIS |
At least we both share a love for Y U NO meme guy. |
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