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dying at a young age
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| Vivid Boy |
I have had a lot of friends die young. I would say anywhere between 4-5 good friends pass away through one way or another. I used to always think it was sad. I would hear the adults talk about how sad it was because they were so young and missed so much of their life. im at the age of 32. I have to say I don't think dying at a young age is that bad. Actually being my age and thinking back through my whole life and all of my small amazing memories, I'd be quite content if i found out i only had a few days to live. I'd think to myself, "I am young (sorta) but I already lived the best years of my life. I kicked some ass as a child." I mean honestly 28-32 has been quite boring. Sure I have done a lot of travelling, which I wasn't able to afford as a kid, and yes I can afford to buy cool grown up stuff.. but stuff is just stuff. And as my friends get older and settle down, i slowly watch the innocence and fun drain from their faces, rushing home after hockey because their wives will be upset if theyre not home when they said they would be.
I don't mean to the be that trapped in the "past" sort of guy but I am just saying I don't think dying young is all that bad now. Go out while you're on top.
anyone agree? |
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| FuzzQi |
| 28 here. If I found out I only had a few more days to live I'd be kind of annoyed. There's more I want to do. |
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| Sushipunk |
34 here. I agree with what FuzzQi said, I'd be a bit pissed about it. Way too much stuff I still want to do, especially with travel.
Sure, I had some pretty interesting years when I was younger, with lots of travel and random experiences, but I don't think life has to be boring when you get older, it's just different, you know? |
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| Vivid Boy |
I had a pretty bad ass childhood lol.
my teenage years were scandalous.
my 20's were legendary.
I think i lived them so fully i wouldnt be too phased if I died tomorrow. I mean I'd be sad about itbut deep down I think I would be content with what I did in my 30 yrs |
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| OrangestO |
I have faith I'm here for a reason. A reason I'll grow to realize when it's time.
Luckily, knock on wood, I've been ok in the death department. But what's really knocking on wood when it's a part of life.
And I agree Sushi, older but different. The good. The bad. The in between. |
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| Vivid Boy |
name some stuff you guys still want to accomplish.
I have my own goals of course. I'm not saying I am giving up on the will to live. but Im curious as to what you guys still want to accomplish |
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| Sushipunk |
| Straight off the top of my head, I want to travel a bunch more, and I'd like to own a little place out in the country somewhere, so I have a place to go and chill that's my own space. |
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| Psyshell |
| I've never really had any friends die at a young age, then again maybe it's something that happens more in 20s-30s. However I'm not sure it'd be all that bad either. I think the main concern is not achieving what you sought out to achieve, but really, if you're dead will your status really affect you at all? Will not achieving some sortof quality of life goal (like owning a house) actually affect you if you're dead? I don't think so. The main thing I'd feel is a bit cheated if I made decisions earlier in my life that were long term benefit short term cost focused. I think most of all people dying at a young age affects their friends a lot more than it does them. |
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| Lira |
In a sense I agree with you: Life in your twenties seems much more exciting because it tends to be a lot more open-ended - we have the impression as a group that there are many more doors open in front of us, and there's the extra energy to boot.
As you grow older, you often feel the need to follow a specific career (whatever it might be) and settle down, as arsing around may have negative social consequences, and the odds of meeting someone you want to be with for an indeterminate amount of time increases.
However, is any of this objectively true? Of course not, you can be the party Eric you've always wanted to be. However, more and more this is going to be your choice, and as other people make theirs, you'll have to go down that road pretty much by yourself (or with new people). So you don't really have to wither away, if that's how you see it. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
I think there is an expectation to 'get old' before people indeed get there. We blunder through our 20s, thinking 'this is it, I'd better live it now', completely oblivious that our curiosity is absolutely ceaseless. You should never stop wondering about things; I spent so much time jaded with , I missed out on plenty, and if I died tomorrow, I would do so with the hope that it would just be another amazing day with the people I love. I guess it's ignorance to a profound degree.
Maybe that is the benefit of dying young; you never wither to the point where you realize yourself as some decrepit old fogey with nothing left to look forward to (even though that is so very rarely even true). |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Psyshell
Will not achieving some sortof quality of life goal (like owning a house) actually affect you if you're dead? |
I own a house, and when I think about having to paint the exterior, re-do the flooring, and whatever potential plumbing problems will inevitably arise, it seems like dead people are getting the better deal. |
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| Jon_Snow |
| I agree with the basic gist of what you said. Life has away of wearing you down. Working at job you might not care for so much to pay the bills. All the stress and problems life throws at you. I think we all struggle to find a purpose in life and to be happy. To be sure the stuff you wish you could have when young and can now afford, doesn't make you happy. |
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