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Friday 127 - This Thread Will Never Die (pg. 4)
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by ziptnf
My mother in law is in town this weekend. What a disaster.
She adopted a little black child back a few years ago. Let me tell you something, grandmother-aged women (she will technically be one in a few months) should not raise children. She raises the child with a laissez-faire attitude, allowing him to be horrifyingly rude to adults, passing his behavior off as "being silly".
The child tells us he wants a grilled cheese. I make him a classic, perfect grilled cheese. He argues with us saying that it's not the sandwich he wanted and he refuses to eat it. I get it, most children can be in moods and act like little piss-heads. But when they do that, the parent generally responds by lightly but firmly punishing the child. When my wife argued about his behavior to her mom, her excuse was "he is a 5 year old! Let him eat what he wants." Which absolutely isn't remotely the point. The child was rude and needs to be admonished. So us for wanting him to be remotely respectful? This has left a bad taste in my mouth and I can only handle so much time with these people before I just want them to go the home :( |
Ughhhh . *I* want them to go home, and I don't even live there lol.
And holy crap we actually did it; we finished all our yard work! Even had time to split and transplant a lily we've needed to for a couple years now. We got more done this year than last, and we didn't even have a baby then! |
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| Zoso |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
And holy crap we actually did it; we finished all our yard work! Even had time to split and transplant a lily we've needed to for a couple years now. We got more done this year than last, and we didn't even have a baby then! |
You mean, "we got more done this year than last, because now we have our very own source of slave labor!" :D Because, really, I can't think of another reason for having children, intentional or not. :o |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Lol!! Yeah, we were walking through the 'hood yesterday and walked by a guy washing his truck while his young daughter (had to be about 7 or 8) raked the leaves and his son (toddler age) helped bag them; we joked that we'd putting our kid to work like that too, bahaha. |
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| ziptnf |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Ughhhh . *I* want them to go home, and I don't even live there lol.
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Yeah, and the worst part is that she is constantly saying "You'll see! Just wait, you'll see what it's like!" referring to the behavior of 5 year olds and how to deal with it. Of course we will see. We have seen it everywhere else too, it's not like 5 year olds are exclusive to only you. My nephew is 5 too and his manners are absolutely wonderful. Perhaps my brother and his ex-wife can be a tad too strict/harsh on the kid but it has worked in spades because he is a wonderful, sweet little boy.
That's why I said that grandmothers shouldn't raise young children. She had 4 children of her own and now they are all grown. One of them is autistic and needs assistance but she felt the need to adopt. Now that she has another little one, she is likely fatigued from the "success" style of parenting. She became a devout, born-again Christian and is homeschooling this kid in the NAME OF THE LORD so he can be a little Godly child. I'm looking forward to when this boy becomes older and figures out what the world is really about and rebels against his adoptive mother. :stongue: |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by ziptnf
Yeah, and the worst part is that she is constantly saying "You'll see! Just wait, you'll see what it's like!" |
I ing cannot STAND when people say "You'll see!" especially when it's clear that they are ing morons and/or don't know what the they're talking about. No I won't ing see, because I'm not you! ! |
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| JEO |
There will be a time when you won't think like that anymore.
You'll see. |
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| Silky Johnson |
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| wotyzoid |
| My mom says that to me all the time. "When you have kids, you'll see", "when you reach my age you'll see." It is indeed one of the more annoying expressions. |
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| Silky Johnson |
I get on the defensive about like that because it's so invalidating to a person's own experience and way of doing things. Another phrase I HATE is "Trust me." Especially combined with "You'll see!"
Bahahaha, I actually deleted THREE broads from my FB after I found out I was pregnant and posted pics of the nursery. All of the sudden I was getting unsolicited parenting advice with the "Trust me!" and "You'll see!", from people who all I'd seen do was go on every day about their constantly crying and fussy babies and how they seemingly couldn't cope with motherhood without alchohol. Uh yeah no I will not trust you. BYE. |
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| ziptnf |
| ing idiots. "When you get to that stage, do it like this, because that's how we did it!" Actually we are mothering adults with advanced degrees and a reasonably decent understanding of life and modern society. I give ourselves a better chance than you on being able to make the right decision on just about anything. So off with the "You'll see!" bull, no I won't see because we are different people with likely different solutions to common problems. |
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| wotyzoid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
invalidating . |
Story of my life. I'm always reduced to my communism. |
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| Lira |
The only time you're allowed to say "You'll see" is succeeded by "Look into my eyes" and preceded by "what you mean to me".
And now you've got the Bryan Adams song stuck in your head. |
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