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Friday 127 - This Thread Will Never Die (pg. 5)
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by ziptnf
ing idiots. "When you get to that stage, do it like this, because that's how we did it!" Actually we are mothering adults with advanced degrees and a reasonably decent understanding of life and modern society. I give ourselves a better chance than you on being able to make the right decision on just about anything. So off with the "You'll see!" bull, no I won't see because we are different people with likely different solutions to common problems. |
Omg yes, exactly.
Also lulz @ Kenny :stongue: |
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| Zharen |
The "you'll see" comment never really bothered me much. My parents would tell me that all the time so I became desensitized to it. But there was a recurring case of it perpetuated by a few former friends of mine that really pissed me off. First one was in 2006 when one former friend just got a DUI for going 80 on the freeway during fog. The cop initially pulled him over for speeding in unsafe conditions, but then grew suspicious, gave him a sobriety test and he failed. I had asked him a few questions about the ordeal, which he irascibly replied, "Oh you'll get one too, you'll see."
The next case came around 2012 from another former friend I used to look up to. We had been to so many parties and events together, hung out often, usually had each other's backs. He was like a brother to me. But he had already started to change a few years back, became more self-centered and indifferent to most things. He was also getting drunk more often so inevitably he landed himself his first DUI that year. When I asked him about it, same thing, "Oh don't worry, the same will happen to you, you'll see." Man, I was shocked. That coming from him, when he knew that I took other passengers' lives in my car rather seriously because 8 times out of 10, I was the driver when it came to going out. And I always saw to it that those who went out with me always came back home in one piece, unless they told me they were getting a ride back from someone else at the party. He knew that, yet was still that certain I would get a DUI anyway. .
And the last time happened just a year ago. I was living with another former friend at his place. He wasn't too happy with the fact that I liked to take a couple of shots a night, once I came back from work, even despite the fact that I never got out of line with it. I didn't know what his deal was, given that he was a social drinker, who I've seen get drunk on multiple occasions. Until he told me that he had already received 3 DUI's in the past and still needed to take a DUI class in order to get his license back. And this time, before I could even ask him "WTF" he immediately yelled out "And you're going to get one too, you'll see!"
Anyway, I'm no longer friends with any of these people, and it wasn't because of this, it was all different drama and for different yet similar reasons. I had my wild times too, I get it. I binged myself and they saw that other side of me. But I never was that reckless of a driver in the past. I never had a DUI then, and I still haven't gotten one now. I was never that irresponsible enough to risk other people's lives behind the wheel, I used my better judgment when to drive, and when to have someone else drive back, and I'm proud to say that I've been driving for 18 years now without anything negative on the record, not even so much as an unpaid parking ticket. So yeah, keep wishing assclowns. |
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| wotyzoid |
| That's a lot of former friends, I thought friendship was forever. |
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| Silky Johnson |
A lot of former friends with DUI problems, lol. Wtf.
Hey remember Ted Promo? He had a DUI problem too. Twice. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
That's a lot of former friends, I thought friendship was forever. |
Definitely not all.
I don't have a long list of friends I fell out with, but I now understand it happens for a variety of reasons. One former friend became a religious zealot and became increasingly upset when I refused to convert, and the last straw was when I was morning the death of a friend and he started lecturing me on why I was evil for being shocked at her death instead of praising her rapture or something.
Then I had another one who slowly gave up on life, and decided he no longer needed to work or study or anything - he just needed to spend more times with his friends whenever he felt like it. This means he started showing up at my door unannounced in the early hours of the morning, and refused to understand I couldn't go out with him because I had a job interview. It's hard to keep a friendship when the other side is so clingy and won't take no for an answer. He eventually decided no one in Brazil "got him", flunked his doctorate degree, and emigrated illegally to Canada where "he'll be recognised for his talents"... In spite of the fact he doesn't speak English.
They both told me the same thing though: "you're the only friend I haven't argued with". Well, what are these people doing bickering with all their friends? I thought I could try to defuse the bomb for the sake of our friendships... but it's hard when the other side isn't willing to compromise :( |
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| Zoso |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Lol!! Yeah, we were walking through the 'hood yesterday and walked by a guy washing his truck while his young daughter (had to be about 7 or 8) raked the leaves and his son (toddler age) helped bag them; we joked that we'd putting our kid to work like that too, bahaha. |
I had mine muling drugs by that age. :o
Also, friendship is most definitely NOT forever. It's only meant to last until your friend gets a smoking hot girlfriend, then you steal her because hey...she's smoking ing hot. And besides, she was just asking to be stolen. I mean, did you see that short little skirt she was wearing? :eek::eyespop: |
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| Jon_Snow |
| Disrespecting a grill cheese sandwich. Not sure which are worse rude, obnoxious kids or their parents who turn a blind eye to it. |
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| wotyzoid |
You guys are doing it wrong.
TRUE friendship
is eternal
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| wotyzoid |
Cuck kaaa!
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
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"Eeveery friendsheep ees eeternil" :p |
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| wotyzoid |
Lol I'm working on a new alt, and its kind of like that, stay tuned.
Edit: on a more serious note, I understand why people fall off and sometimes people grow tired of each other, but I'm completely against it and try really hard to be steady in that regard. People are fickle and its sad and shameful, any transgression by a "friend" and they are willing to discard him/her. Even friends that I've grown apart from and suspect don't really give a about me can count on me for a roof and food and clothes. A true friendship for me eventually reaches a point of no return where the bond of brotherhood cannot be broken anymore. My few close friends are guys that would die and ride to war with me if needed and vice-versa and this not stated often but it is known.
Recently I got back in touch with a colleague from high school and we were kicking it lots for a few weeks, drinking, doing drugs, talking all sorts of deep philosophy and politics and a bond was being built. One night that I was a bit more moody I sort of snapped and came at him with some harsher words and he did not like it at all to the point that he said we shouldn't chill anymore because he felt disrespected and called me something along the lines of mean. I understood, apologized and went about my life. A couple of weeks back he messaged me on Facebook to get a drink and he's still waiting on an answer. Thats not a true friend, thats a Facebook friend. |
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