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| Slylee |
I guess I was wrong when I said I was over my ex.:( I thought I would be friendly and reach out to him via email the other day because my ex boss’ client finally got arrested last week in this huge pharmaceutical scam that he was involved in and it was in the newspaper.
I wanted to share this info with my ex because I put him in contact with that client because he’s like 300 lbs and a millionaire and needed a personal trainer, so he made some decent money off this guy training him for a month or two last October. Not to mention, my last 2 weeks at that job, he was actually working with me doing filing and stuff because he's in grad school and had 3 weeks off and wanted to make some extra money so we were working together (this was at the end of our relationship too when we were breaking up, but we were getting along fine) which made him familiar with that whole case, so i figured he'd want to know that they all got arrested.
So to make a long story short, we’ve been going back and forth via email this week ever since i sent him that first one, and he’s being extremely flirty and suggestive and sweet…exactly how he was when we were first dating. Like he's trying to reel me in again. It’s brought me right back to square 1. I’m really anxious and sad and scared today. I thought I could handle a friendship with him, but the thought of us hanging out really makes me nervous. I was feeling so independent and like I had moved on, and I feel like I’m puddy in his hands again. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| As I said early... move slowly, maintain communication, and once you're certain that he has acheived the requisit level of maturity then consider something more. Additionally, don't fall into his power games. |
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| kid nyce |
| wave your ass in the air and scream - come butthax me big boy! |
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| Slylee |
i suggested some good new R&B/hip hop tracks for him to download and he asked me to just burn him a CD of "my favorite songs" (meaning, mine, not his) and mail it to him. :wtf: i responded and said sure.
now he just wrote me back being all funny and asked me to add on a bunch of other songs too...3 of them are songs that totally remind me of us and when we were together, as i'm sure it's the same for him too and he also wanted me to include the Adam Freeland remix of that nirvana song. i used to play the out of it back when it was popular. i didn't realize he liked it too, but it's like why is he asking me to put all those songs on the CD?
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| Boomer187 |
| I'd say have sex with his father and make him really jealous. |
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| Aristronica |
my "time to get over it" is usually, and roughly, 5 months.
during this time i sever all contacts, refuse to check their myspace/facebook. do not answer their phone calls. and delete voicemails without listening to them.
this is my advice for you. IF you don't want to be with him anymore.
however if you think things will work out and you won't get hurt/get ed over/etc. (or whatever the hell happened the first time this didn't work) then maybe you should give it a chance, have an adult conversation about things and see where both of you see this situation going in the future.
people make mistakes sometimes and you never know, a second chance could turn into a lifetime of happiness. but that's for you to figure out and for me to read about on here :D
best of luck Jamie-poo. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
people make mistakes sometimes and you never know, a second chance could turn into a lifetime of happiness. |
+1... give Greg (?) a chance! Give peace a chance!! Give the c0re a chance to read a story about a successful 3some!!! |
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| Justkillingtime |
| quote: | Originally posted by Boomer187
I'd say have sex with his father and make him really jealous. |
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| Slylee |
I could tell he wanted to be friends when we were breaking up, but I decided against it because I’m that type where I just need to sever all contact like you said in order to move on. I haven’t called him, not even drunk dialed…I’ve been really good about it, but he was honestly like my best friend and we didn’t fight or anything, I loved him and loved being around him. Our breakup was really complicated, but drama-free. It went smoothly. I was crushed, did a load of crying and all that, but I’ve finally been dating and not thinking about him…but sometimes I find myself doing it and I guess I was curious to see if he would write back and now he’s totally back to emailing me a lot and putting on his charm.
I’m scared because I was feeling so good about being single and loving it, and I feel like he’s taking it away and making me vulnerable again. |
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| gehzumteufel |
damn i thought this was all over too. as previously suggested take it VERY slowly. dont even appear to be entertaining the idea of a relationship as this will give him the idea that he has a chance. make him work for it if it really is what you want. dont give in easy. play hard to get. be too busy for him. all that . its for the best if thats what you want.
my sister just went through this. her bf of 3yrs broke up with her and 3 months later, when she was appearing to be having fun and getting over it he was bending over backwards to get her back. now its great between them.
good luck and i hope for the best! |
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| FIU-PT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
...and I feel like I’m puddy in his hands again.
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Hi there! :gsmile: |
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| Taranis |
| Outta curiosity, why did you break up in the first place? |
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